What would you do - "rude call from ds's classmate"

[Galaxy]

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I would write to the parents via the school and say you have reported him to BT and if you get any more calls have been instructed to call the police.

Maybe also to tell the school about it and see if they can do anything.

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Do you pick him up - your SS?? - Could you tackl;e it with the kid then - just have a little word that you knew it was himand have reported him to the police and BT?? (Scare the little shit half to death but nevertheless rude calls are an offense!!)

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I wouldn't actually raise it direct with the little s**t as it may be your son who gets renewed bullying.... I would complain direct to the school in writing and ask them to have a word. If you do get anymore calls, tell the police, give them all the info you have and they will get the address/contact details from the school (or even worse, visit the school to have a word!!) Or they can do a blanket chat at assembly (talking about the general nuisances children get involved in - they will have a schools liason officer.

Galaxy, my advice would be to discuss it with the Head of the school first and agree a plan of action, particularly as it appears to be part of a bullying campaign. The whole thing, not just the phone call needs to be addressed.

No bullying is acceptable, but this is particularly pernicious as the bully has had the arrogance and the nerve to take the bullying out of the school and effectively into your home via the phone.

Certainly, the child (and his parents) need to be made aware that the police will be alerted.

Hope you've got a good Head in the school, if so they should be very supportive and want to resolve this. It may have happened outside of school hours, but I think the school has a duty to take firm action.

I think I'm inclined to agree with Beachy on this one. I know it was offensive but I think you need to wait and see if there's another occurence before you proceed with any action. If there is, then contact school, parents etc as this is just not on. How old are they by the way?

Galaxy, just seen your later post.

Who did you speak to at the school?

My dd aged 11 had an abusive call from a mother! DD had fallen out with her little angel and so the mother called my dd and gave her an earful!

DD says she calls other kids and does this.

She better not have me answer the phone!

I know it's unhelpful but the school has absolutely no responsibility or right to get involved in something that occurs outside the school between pupils. i would write to the school so at least they know in writing although it wont be able to go on the said childs file as not a school matter. I would also speak to bt who can stop calls coming to you with number withheld. Child sounds vile so probab;ly not much use speaking to parents.
BT do have services for nuisance calls.

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Has the bullying in school (I presume it was in school) stopped? If so, how was it stopped?

I think you need to try to make contact with little s*'s parents. If they care, then this is best way to get him into some trouble. If they dont care there is not much you can do (except maybe set your phone up so it doesnt accept number withheld calls). I would try to keep ds out of it/behind the scenes IYSWIM to avoid things getting difficult for him

Just thinking the obviosu here but I know it is easy to forget int hese circumsatances.

Did you do 1471? No number there?

Or try ringing BT (or your phone provider). When I was a teenager we had some dodgy calls and we phoned BT and they can trace back the dialled numbers, etc. Might be worth a shot - you don't have to tell them you know it was a child.

Sorry - didn't read fully enough then! They may be able to - if the user withheld the number rather than being a phone box or whatever.

Been on BTs site and found this:

"Almost all malicious calls can now be traced, whether they come from private, public or even mobile telephones, anywhere in the country."

here is the site

deffo write!!!!

But she doesn't know the number - that's what I mean. If she knew the number she could call the parents? Or get BT to bar their number from phoning their phone.

We've had similar incidents and the school has had to say it cant get involved in what has happened outside its grounds. The kids know this and so often do things outside the school gates at the end of the day as they know we cant do anything. The parents go apeshite if anything gets said. The worst thing is when kids get bullied on the public bus going home by kids from the same school.

I remember a little while ago there was some kind of campaign to clamp down on bullies sending text messages to their victims. Would there not be a similar response to bullying phone calls?

I personally would report it to BT as a malicious phone call, explain the situation r.e. the school not getting involved and that you would like it on record in case you get more calls. I would then write to the school anyway, pointing out that as your ds has been previously bullied by this boy, in school, you would like them 'to keep an eye on things'. A phone call like this is a form of bullying and as this boy will think he's got away with it, the likelihood is he'll do it again. Be clear to tell them that you have reported it to BT and that if it happens again you'll report it to the Police.
Other than this phone call, is this boy still troubling your ds? My dss was bullied a couple of years ago by a boy from his class who was, quite frankly, a horrible little shit!! The bullying happened in and out of school. Very little was done to help my dss (even after many visits to the school office!!) until I sent the school a rather strongly worded letter and suddenly they sorted the kid out! I really think putting it in writing helped.
Good luck Galaxy

BT have barred a number for me, even though it was witheld. They wouldn't even disclose the number to me! But, they did prevent someone calling me from it again.
I'd call the parents of this lad, definately. I would want to know if one of my children ever treated anyone like this, plus, the fact that he witheld the number in the first place would encourage me to think that anyone calling him (more importantly his parents!) back was the last thing he wanted. They may not care, if so I'd threaten legal action, but with any luck they'll be reasonable.