DH annoying the hell out of me,,,,,

[Nemoinapeartree]

going to sound completely ungrateful but for the past 2 days he has done nothing but clean..I know I know..but its really getting to me as he is in a foul mood with it. I know its a reaction to the news about his job ending in jan putting us in a nightmare situation but I wish he would talk instead of this endless cleaning. You cant even sit down as he is there trying to do something around you...I am 35wks pregnant and am shattered so not doing to well on the helping side but even if I do he is making me feel incompetent and sniping at the little things I am doing...best move as he is now looking at me from the door[or eyeing up what he will be doing next!!!]

Could you please send him round to me when he's finished as my house is a complete tip at the minute . Seriously, though, my ex-DH went all domesticated after he was made redundant. You are right, it saves him having to talk about other more important things. I would personally just leave him to get the house spotless (and certainly don't overdo it yourself!), thank him profusely and genuinely when he's finished in an attempt to get him out of his foul mood, which may (hopefully) mean he will feel more ready to chat and open up to you. Hope he manages to find a job soon, it must be incredibly stressful all round for you. Take care and look after yourself.

Presumbaly the best thing is if you arrange to go back to work at 6 weeks and he minds the baby for a start so your financial issues are resolved. That will also give him something to plan for and think about.

As I am often told on mumsnet housework is very very much a job so his taking on the domestic a role should be as much appreciated and valued economically as if he were back in work. Perhaps you could get a job for the last 5 weeks too.

i wouldn't get a job for the last 5 weeks nemo, you'll run yourself into the ground. I went back to work when my dh was made redundant, it was hell, but it paid the bills. I'm sorry he won't talk, perhaps you could broach the subject in a couple of days

sorry, i hadn't finished.
When he's calmed down a little. Not many words of wisdom, but I fell for you hun!

well on the bright side it is better being down in a clean house than a messy opne

cleaning is a good way of getting rid of frustrations

is xenia offering her advice tongue in cheek

Thanks all he is a lot more mellow today after a nightmare day yesterday. However there is nothing left to clean as our house is not that big in the first place..lol
Xenia I wish I could work but due to long term mental health problems I havent been able to for 2 1/2yrs as was medically retired by psychatrist until things are sorted..even going out is a nightmare.

He seems a bit more positive today about finding work so maybe all the cleaning helped him mull things over!!