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Would you bother going to a meet up if you knew everyone was going to be veiled?

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ClementClarkeMoore · 07/12/2006 17:43

I'm not meaning all Muslim, not talking religion here so please don't bring it up.

Just for the sake of argument ...... would ya?

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BahHunkBug · 07/12/2006 17:44

Yep.

MrsGordonRamsay · 07/12/2006 17:44

Who are ya ??

SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve · 07/12/2006 17:45

PMSL, no, of course I fkn wouldn't. What would be the point?

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ClementClarkeMoore · 07/12/2006 17:45

What? you want me to remove my veil?

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HumphreyCushiONtheFirstNoel · 07/12/2006 17:49

Do you mean physically veiled?
Or speaking in a veiled manner eg: we're all meeting somewhere in London with a bar and a dancefloor - it might be this weekend, it might be next"?

If it were the latter, I wouldn't bother going - too complicated.
If it were the former, I would - as long as everyone still got to wear badges.

PrettyCandlesAndTinselToo · 07/12/2006 17:51

Depends. If I felt I'd made a connection with these individuals here on Mumsnet, then, yes, I probably would. But if I didn't feel a particularly strong interest in any of them, or a potential for a good connection, then, no, I probably wouldn't.

paulaplumpbottom · 07/12/2006 17:51

Of course I would. Why should it matter.

Carmenere · 07/12/2006 17:51

It would be just impractical, I mean how would we be able to judge peoples clothes and figures if we couldn't see them

SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve · 07/12/2006 17:52

I can't see what the point would be. I go to meetups to meet the person in the flesh, smile at them, see them, talk to them in person. If I wasn't allowed to see their faces and could only talk to them through cloth, I wouldn't find that any more personal than talking on the computer. Which should surprise no-one....because that is the point of the veil!

HowTheFillyjonkStoleChristmas · 07/12/2006 17:53

eh?

why would they be veiled?

am confused.

BahHunkBug · 07/12/2006 17:54

I was thinking of an Arabian Nights sort of flimsy one though, it has to be said. Or a bridal one.

kiskidee · 07/12/2006 17:59

'the veil' is not worn in women only company afaik.

Stockingsofdinosaurs · 07/12/2006 18:00

How about creepy Venetian harlequin masques?

paulaplumpbottom · 07/12/2006 18:00

Oh it wouldn't be the same as speaking on a computer. Not as disjointed for one. You can see their eyes you know. I have always thought they make them look beautiful and mysterious.

SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve · 07/12/2006 18:02

I find it quite difficult to interpret the expression in a person's eyes if I can't see the reast of their facial and body language. I certainly wouldn't travel across the country to "meet" someone who wouldn't allow me to see them smile. I don't see it as much different in level of intimacy from talking on the computer. And I don't think they look beautiful and mysterious, they just look covered up! I think women's faces and bodies are beautiful.

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ClementClarkeMoore · 07/12/2006 18:07

Well yes, or masks, hidden faces.

I agree with SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve.

If I went to a meet up part of it would be curiosity as to what posters look like. That would not be the only reason obviously. How many come back from a meet up and say 'Oh that's not how I imagined you at all'? Even on member profiles when posters are brave enough to post a pic of themselves they get the same reaction.

I don't think I could get that much more from a meeting as opposed to the forum if the person was behind a mask.

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MerryPiffmas · 07/12/2006 18:11

The not seeing faces is a daft argument
Would you think that blind people get nothing out of meeting folks thus.
Of course, personality always comes through.

SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve · 07/12/2006 18:15

I don't think it's a daft argument. I'm not blind, so I can't comment on how blind people adapt to social interaction. I imagine it isn't easy, nor is it something one would impose on onself voluntarily, or pretend wasn't a disadvantage.

I think the level of interaction I can meaningfully have with a person whom I cannot see is achievable to a large degree by talking online. Personally I wouldn't travel to meet someone if I knew they were going to be hidden from my view. Call it daft if you like.

WigWamBahhumbug · 07/12/2006 18:17

Strangely enough, I would be happier to go to a MN meetup if I were veiled - being fat and fugly, I'd much prefer to be covered up and judged on what I say, rather than what I look like.

Being veiled or hidden behind a mask doesn't stop someone from being funny, intelligent, witty and kind, and someone who is those things would be nice to meet regardless of how much of their physical self they had hidden.

I would prefer the eyes to be on view though, as they say so much - eyes smile as well as mouths do, and even if the rest of the face is hidden it's possible to read a lot from the eyes.

mousiemousie · 07/12/2006 18:18

A masked ball would be OK
boring black veils with only slits for eyes sounds dull though

MerryPiffmas · 07/12/2006 18:18

The true question is
Would you go to a meetup that was teetotal

SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve · 07/12/2006 18:20

People can be funny, kind, intelligent and witty online though - I wouldn't bother meeing them unless it was going to be a more personal/intimate meeting than just talking on here. It's not an insult - some of the people I feel closest to I have "met" on MN and not in person, one in particular who lives overseas is a very dear friend, although we haven't met in person. But I don't see what would be the point of travelling to meet a person and then not actually meeting them! I would probably suggest talking on the phone instead, because voices are a bit more personal than typed text, but I wouldn't suggest meeting up.

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ClementClarkeMoore · 07/12/2006 18:22

Interesting point about being blind. I don't know how I would actually feel, but I believe I would feel at a disadvantage knowing that people were looking at me and I couldn't see them, tbh it's a scary thought!

I think though, someone masking themselves by choice is a different matter.

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LittleSarah · 07/12/2006 18:24

Yes of course.

Just because someone is veiled doesn't mean they are the same as they are online IMO. You get tone, gestures, eye movements etc, all in a flowing coversational way, rather than in a fragmented way. Totally and utterly different.

Rather odd question really.

WhenSantaWentQuietlyMad · 07/12/2006 18:26

Very interesting question to which the answer is "don't know". If it cropped up I suppose I would decide one way or another, but I can't imagine it.