How much do you go out in the evenings without DH/P?

[chocolatequeen]

Am fed up, DH can´t get home to babysit so I can go out with girlfriends to the cinema. Admittedly, he doesn´t go out much with mates without me, but I´m fed up with him not trying a bit harder to get home so that I can go out with friends. Sneaky suspicion that he is just basically not very happy with me going out without him.....

I´ve always thought that it´s fairly normal to still go out separately, whereas DH seems to find it a big deal and a bit ´wierd´. Don´t really fancy arguing over a trip to the cinema, what do you think?

Sorry but I am of the same opinion as your dh..my dh on the other hand is of the same views as you..!!!

Maybe we should swap .

My views are that since I had dd my life is different and night in town although are good once in a while, they do always "do it for me". I now have differnt drives iywkim.

I do go out with the girls (well I do when not pregnant..!) but would rather go out as a couple or a group of couples. BUT dh although isn't out as often with the lads he still likes that side of life. Think he's holding onto his youuth tbh..!

BUT that said, dh or I would never be late on purpose if we knew the other had something planned iykwim..

Hope you do get the night out..how late will he be.? Can't you ask a neighbour or family/freind to watch the lo's till he's home..? Can't you all do a later film..?

Dh and I go out separately all the time. It's much easier and cheaper than organising a babysitter. Also, it's the only time I get to see some of my friends, what with people working/having children. It's also good because it means that one of us doesn't have a hangover the next morning

My husband and I don't really go out seperately, maybe on the odd occasion. You know the saying: the couple who plays together stays together

Hi - at the moment we go out probably at least once a week without the other - my dh about 4 nights a week with work and me once with ds school mums, postnatal mums etc, etc - we go out together though quite a lot too - it's lovely to do both although I do generally prefer being with dh...which is probably right!

Do a bit of both here. DH goes out without me a lot but it's usually business related.

I go out with girls about once a month. Usually for dinner. Love a good girls night out.

About 4 times a year with my Plunket Group (since we decided we like each other better without having our children with us). I have two committee meetings per month.

Dh does about the same number, but he plays soccer so it's during the day.

I've gone out 5 evenings without DP in the last 8 evenings. It's not usually that often, but there's been a spate of things for me to go to. And I've been out one evening with him this week. It's so much easier than organising babysitting. Plus I quite like not being attached at the hip.

I'm out about twice a week with yoga class (if he gets home in time and usually a meeting/event of some sort (nappy network, pre-school committee - have to say these often involve alcohol.) I'd hate a night out in town, I like a quiet pub you sit and chat in.
DH is out two nights a week at tai chi class or with his 'band' (inverted commas because they just jam and go to the pub.)
We find it helps keep conversation flowing, his job and my SAHMing aren't the most stimulating subjects.
When the kids are older we plan to get a regular babysitter and go out for dancing lessons together.

dh is away/late home such a lot that I find it difficult to plan a night out. I have no chance of doing a regular activity in the evening such as Pilates or night school

But I would like to do more.

dh is out tonight - business entertaining but even so

Go out quite a bit without dh - more than I go out with him as that's always harder with the need for a babysitter. He is great though, he encourages me to go and if I say I need him home on time so I can get ready he makes sure that he is.

Same as GDG

Once or twice a month without him.
We go out more seperately because of babysitters too.

Do love to go out with him too though, we are going out this weekend to a party!

Usually 2/3 times a month to girlie stuff - DH has always understood my need for child-free female company. My life has been transformed since DS1 got old enough to babysit his siblings - last year I was really resentful as I missed lots of things because I could never rely on DH's being home from work on time. Now DH and I usually get out together at least once a week as well.

All the time!! Dh and I are totally different souls and after trying several unsuccessful years of doing everything together (mainly at home due to lack of babysitters) I suddenly decided it was time to have my own social life. I go out about twice a week on my own with different groups of friends (I'm a social butterfly) I've got groups of work friends, mum friends, church friends etc etc plus I'm very happy to hang round with young 20s which dh is not. DH is more of a homebody and only goes out once a month for a curry with my friends husband.

It suits both of us and keeps us both happy

Tell him life is too short for unpaid overtime. He could get by a bus this afternoon and would have wasted all that time working for The Man. Does he ever get any fresh air or sunlight?
He sounds like he's a bit stuck in a rut himself, hence not wanting you to leave your rut either.

Once or twice a week before ds was born, now never. Can't see me getting a chance to go out again until he's old enough to be left home alone (ds that is, not dh )
We don't have any family nearby to babysit and dh works long hours and is away a lot, so that's that.

Thanks for all your replies - am reassured now that I am not a total freak for wanting some non-couple socialising!!!

He did manage to get home as well so I could go to the cinema, so he had a big golden shiny star for his efforts....... The Royal marriage continues undimmed.....