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dh is a sahd this year and has caved after 2 months!

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christie1 · 02/12/2006 20:59

dh and I have changed roles this year while I am studying and dh has a leave from his job to stay home with the kids. Don't get me wrong, he is loving it but after after less than 2 months, he told me he takes back everything he ever said and has apologized profusely for ever thinking if I just got myself organized, it would n't be such a hard job. I was gracious in his defeat ...but to mumsnetters HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH! Love to hear what any sahd's think?

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cat64 · 02/12/2006 21:07

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pedilia · 02/12/2006 21:10

DH is a SAHD and he said the same after about three months, he loves what he does but there has been quite a change in him since being at home, he left a job in finance and I think he feels he has lost part of his identity by being at home.
He doesn't feel as important, which I can understand but interesting to see what they are like when the shoe is on the other foot

7swansaswimmingup · 02/12/2006 21:11

gota laugh, men think we have it so easy

PinkTinsel · 02/12/2006 21:12

yup, when dp had dd when i was working last year he was horrified at how hard it was, and i was only doing part time! he'd never dresm of saying a word to me since then!

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christie1 · 02/12/2006 21:41

yea, I was actually surprised he caved so early. I thought he would hold out at least to save face. He says he has more appreciation now for all the things I managed to get done even when it seemed like things were chaotic. Myself, I am still around helping out more than I should but I am enjoying the opportunity to have time to focus on things I like to do for a change. Having said that, I am looking forward to being home again after next year and am in no hurry to return to work.

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moondog · 02/12/2006 21:43

Ha ha,that is very funny!
My dh would love to be an sahd and annoyingly,he would be very good at it.

I would enjoy seeing him dealing with it all though.

Peridot30 · 02/12/2006 22:50

i agree with 7swans. It makes me laugh as my dh thinks i sit on my arse all day every day. Would love to leave him home alone for a week to see how he would manage!! He would watch the kids ok but they would live in pyjamas and nothing else would get done.

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christie1 · 03/12/2006 19:45

It's true, my dh didn't come out and say it until after but he was going to whip this household into shape and have it running efficiently and lots of time to sit on his bum and relax this year. So, he has been grovelling big time about how sorry he was for being such a jerk. Nothing like a big serving of humble pie! Not that I think sahd's can't do as good a job as sahm's, it's just until many of them actually do it, they dont' realize the non-stop demands of the job.

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kama · 03/12/2006 19:47

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Cadeauxmum · 03/12/2006 19:54

How did I know this was your post?!?!?

Give your DH all my best. He is an amazing dad for even trying to take on the task. (And a fine DH in my books too.)

I would love to see my DH after just one week of my life as a glorified taxi driver/cleaning lady. They still don't have any idea what it's like trying to cope with the older ones whilst breast feeding the youngest either! (Never mind the sleep deprivation!)

I hope that you are all well and that he hasn't 'caved' to the point that you need to think of alternate arrangements.

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christie1 · 03/12/2006 20:17

I new you would enjoy this. No, he is doing great, just has a new appreciation for the lot of the sahm. He has determined to be more "fun" and less tied to efficiency and schedules. I knew the kids would break him!

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christie1 · 03/12/2006 20:21

Kama, I think after 2 weeks he was finding it really hard (or confessed so to a good friend of mine who was visiting us)but it was about 2 months before he got down on his knees and admitted defeat to me. I think in fact he did think this would be very easy once he got everyone running under his rules (remember the father in sound of music with his whistle and military precision) Just kiddding but he though I had an organization issue and he would clear this all up and then the day would be free and clear for fun, relaxation and more fun. He really thought that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Stockingsofdinosaurs · 04/12/2006 08:50

Excellent! My DH finds weekends at home with all of us hard enough. Ours will be at school by the time we could afford to both go part-time so can't imagine it will be that hard for him.
FWIW I don't know how any SAHP can live without a family organiser calendar with a column for every family member - great Xmas pressie from the kids (WH Smiths do them.)

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