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He wants to marry me!!

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Twinkie · 12/05/2004 15:05

Had huge row with DP on SUnday night about him not being sensitive to me when I am going through all this - he thinks I want him to get onwith life like normal - I do but not the the extent that he goes down the pub saturday night and then out to play golf all day on sunday - anyway all sorted now but we had our first ever proper row and I screamed at him that I don;t feel like he loves me and wants to be committed if he behaves like this - and guess what he screamed back saying that I was stupid he would not have gone through what he has with me since we met if he did not love me and then he said that if he could make DD his so we were a normal family he would and he would drag me off to the ring shop and buy me a huge ring at the blink of an eye and then off to the churh - he said in fact I would have married you the minute I met you - I would love to get married - I always have wanted to!!

And I said nothing diddly squat - can you believe it - I told him when we first met that I would never get married again but I would love to!!

Thing is I don;t want to ask him - I want him to do it and be all romantic!!

GGGRRRR - why do I have such a huge propensity to fuck things like this up - how do I tell him I would marry him without me doing the asking - thought maybe during childbirth - telling him that after going through this he better ask me to marry him - what do you guys reckon??

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GeorginaA · 13/05/2004 10:43

Aw Twinkie, I've gone all mushy

You do know you're going to have to set up a webcam in the church so all of mumsnet can be there on the day, too, don't you?

prufrock · 13/05/2004 13:39

I can't believe you're suprised Twinkie. Why wouldn't he want to marry you? Now once you've got the saying yes bit out of the way the only question is whether you get married whilst you are enourmous or wait so both the kids can be bridesmaids/pageboys.

Janstar · 13/05/2004 13:50

She isn't enormous yet. They can do it next week

CountessDracula · 13/05/2004 14:32

Goodness me how exciting - you don't have to do the big proposal thing y'know, we just sort of agreed to get married rather than any big gesture/proposal. Just bring up the discussion again.

essbee · 13/05/2004 23:17

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tammybear · 13/05/2004 23:19

awww, twinkie. Im so happy for you.

My dp told me he wants to marry me, but I cant expect a proposal til 2006!! Great!! lol

secur · 14/05/2004 12:54

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aloha · 14/05/2004 15:16

You loon Twinkie
How about "When my life was awful I thought I'd never want to get married again. Then I met you and you made me so happy I changed my mind."
Or even 'You know what you said he other day about getting married? If you asked me I might even say yes."

I'm so incredibly happy for you. What an astounding year.

Fizog · 14/05/2004 15:40

Flippin' heck! I go AWOL for a few weeks, come back and you're getting married....

nice one!

Haven't had time to read all, are you going to ask him? Oh I think you should - how lovely... Congratulations, and how is the bump coming along?

tigermoth · 15/05/2004 14:40

If that swanky meal is tonight, hope you get your message across!

eddm · 15/05/2004 15:11

I hope it's tonight too so I can find out what happened Never mind finding the right moment, ask him now, I can't stand the suspense!

Twinkie · 24/05/2004 11:35

Well girlies - this came up again on Saturday when his friends wife asked if we were going to marry cause I am pregnant - he went into a long embarrassing spiel about how he would marry me tomorrow and it would make his life complete and he understands that its not at the forefront of my mind at the moment - anyway she went on that even so maybe he should buy me a big diamond (with that I have no problem!!) as to sort of seal our relationship and I so wanted to shout ooohhhhh but I will marry you tomorrow (well when divorce comes through!!) but didn't cause his friends wife is nasty and I did not want us to have that sort of conversation or momentous moment infront of her - was going to talk to him about it last night but I fell asleep so I have decided that tonight is the night!

Wont be until I have had Max and am slim again but you can all come on my hen weekend if you want

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bunnyrabbit · 24/05/2004 11:41

Wow Twinkie.. are you nervous? When are you going to do it? Over dinner?????

BR

Twinkie · 24/05/2004 11:46

No - DD will be earwigging and she would probably get all excited thinking it was soon and harping on about dresses and stuff like that - am going to wait until we goto bed and then speak to him about it.

Was thinking of saying 'You know if you did ask me to marry you I would say yes and be sooo happy!' - what do you think - I don't want to ask him I want him to do the asking so he will have to after that won't he??

Not really nervous he sort of asked the way he was talking about it on Saturday so at least I know that he wants to!!

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tammybear · 24/05/2004 11:56

awww bless you twinkle. good luck with it all.

when me and dp have discussed marriage, he said to me that when we're living together, he'd asked me to marry him. I just said to him that if he did ask me to marry him I would say yes because I love him etc.

Itd be nice for you to tell him that you would want to marry him, just so he knows where you want to go with your relationship, and then hopefully he can start ring shopping!!

awww im so happy for you twinkle

bunnyrabbit · 24/05/2004 12:09

oh just go and buy a wedding magazine and start flicking through the dress pages!!!!

tammybear · 24/05/2004 12:15

lol thats a good idea bunnyrabbit, then maybe he'll get the hint!!

eddm · 24/05/2004 12:33

Oooh can't wait to hear your next instalment! Think your idea sounds lovely, gets round the 'I want him to ask me' issue nicely. Don't let nerves get in your way tonight. Good luck!

prufrock · 24/05/2004 12:34

Why don't you jsut tell him your ring size?

Twinkie · 24/05/2004 12:38

Thought I could maybe just show him the picture of the ring Prufrock - seen a big sparkly in Tiffanys!!

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Helsbels · 24/05/2004 13:00

about bloody time, Twinkie!!! Go for it, you'll never regret it Glad you deceided to do it this way, sweetie, it's for the best - thinking of you and welling up, hope you will be as happy as I am - I do understand what you're going through but I'm convinced this is meant to be lots of hugs {{{}}}

Kayleigh · 24/05/2004 13:57

ooooh exciting ! Good luck for tonight Twinkie

Marina · 25/05/2004 09:43

Twinkie, how did it go? Please put us out of our misery....

Twinkie · 25/05/2004 09:49

Well he is going to surprise me once we get the divorce papers through (now must phone that solicitor).

And then he sent me this when I got in this morning!!

' i love you more than enough to get married and want to spend the rest of my life with you and harriet and max and that won't change nor will how happy you all make me feel. just cos i might have said i'd like to get married though doesn't mean i need to make me happy cos i am the happiest man alive already. oooh maybe one day once you've got a certain bit of paper i might surprise you!!'

What do ya think??

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SoupDragon · 25/05/2004 09:52

Ahhhhhhhh... blub, blub, sniffle...