Is this a little bit outragous or is it just Granny's privilege? (long-Sorry)

[firsttimemama]

To set the scene -My dd is six months old, she is my Mum's forth GC - two Gds and two GSs, (my sister had a dd.) My mum had two daughters.
We're a catholic family, all of us were baptised and I will be having my lo baptised in the next six months - no date set yet but God parents asked. My mum returned from holiday last week and said that she had been looking for Christening gowns but they were ?125 Euros and they only had cream lace and she wanted white. This was said matter of factly and if they'd have had white , no doubt she would have bought it. I have not discussed any outfits with her, she did not mention wanting to purchase one (let alone with out my input). Now I know this sounds mean on my behalf and I should accept her generous nature but I think this is a bit rude myself - my mum would never see it that way though and see me as cranky if I said anything. Furthermore our tastes could not be more polar opposite. (angry)

Well Granny's privilige IS to be a little bit outrageous.

It wouldn't bother me, I would be pleased.

If it bothers you, you will need to talk to her.

Absolutely outrageous. Fair enough if she kindly wants to offer to buy your dd a christening gown, but you should chose.

I decided my dd was not going to wear a long gown but a cream satin ankle length dress. Some parents just buy a pretty party type dress. It should be up to you.

If it was my mum I would say "oh never mind I've seen one I like would you like to pay for that one?"

when she asks where say "in a shop somewhere, but can't remember which one, I have a think later"

A bit out of order especially as she hadn't said a word to you about it in advance.

I wouldn't complain about what she did/said, but some time very soon call her up and enthuse about how you've just bought your DD the loveliest little Christening outfit and it's just lovely and you're so pleased and you've just been bursting to tell someone because you're so happy about it, etc., etc., etc. That wasy you should head off any further attempts by her to buy a gown herself, but in a nice way...

If she wants to buy something, suggest shoes, or a christening shawl or a white garment (e.g. a bib) the giving of which is an important part of the catholic christening ceremony (as you know)

Ahh - I really did have to get that off my chest - I feel bettee for those replies already - thanks MNers - Actually Julienetmum i don't want a long gown at all - there are some lovely short dresses that I much prefer - probably typical that my mum likes one which is about 10 feet long - she really is outragous - the other day she said that the reason my lo was grisslying was because I'd taken too long off work and I should have gone back sooner as my baby has gotten too used to me being around!! _ i only took six months off and I go back on Monday! BTW she never went out to work after she had her children!

Lemonaid - I think that's a plan. Afterwards I thought that I should have said that I'd already bought something but I suppose your idea would be better - the only thing is I really don't want to have to start looking for something in the run up to christmas and I go back to work next week.

I'd be a bit put out but if she had bought the gown I'd be inclined to let it go so as not to hurt her feelings, but you've had a lucky escape if your tastes dont' match.

Tell her you want something a bit different and ask her if she'll go shopping with you. Or as others have suggested say you've already seen the one you wnat and would she like to buy it?

Oh MP she's bought at least 3 shawls already.

I think your mum sounds more like she is worried that you were not getting your dc christened and the mention of the gown was her way of hinting that you should do it? Or am I wrong?

You could have a point cece.

Second thoughts - she does know I will do it as I want her to go to Catholic school and I've asked my sister and her partner to be Godparents.

Just a thought as that is the sort of thing my mum might do.

However, she has never mentioned christenings to us - not since the shame of a civil wedding in the family. I had a lot of 'scare' stories about not being properly married until she finally accepted it! My dc are not christened btw.