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I am so angry i could spit, if I get hold of him I'll do damage.

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dingdongmerRADLEYonhigh · 26/11/2006 14:35

I am so bloody angry, i am sat here struggling to breathe and i'm shaking.

My mate has had a very volatile relationship with someone for the last 3 years. They split up earlier this year and got back together just over a month ago.

Last night he went out, him with his mates and she decided to go out with hers, he kicked off and followed her round town. He got shouted at in our local for stripping off and laying on the pool table.

When they got home he went to bed, she had a cuppa and followed, she asked him to give her a cuddle and he basically flipped, shot out of bed and started screaming and shouting.

It ended with him throwing his full body weight at the bedroom door, then he punched his way through the door and pulled her arm through the door. She phoned her mate and he heard all the screaming shouting and threats etc, he got the phone after throwing a pint glass at her, it hit the toilet and has smashed the bowl to bits, so there is water everywhere.

She has been round here and i've given her a spare mobile so that she has someway of contacting me, then she went to stay with her mum and dad, she has just phoned and I could hear her mum and dad screaming and shoutin at her,all this in front of her little boy, she is in bits.

On top of all this stress, she is going to the hospital next week for an emergency biopsy and mammogram as she has found another lump (she is only 28 and has had cancer in the past.

I have INSISTED that she is coming to stay here with her little boy, it will be cramped, but, dh is on nights for the next two nights, so that will help.

I am soooooooooooooooooooo angry that she has to put up with this.

Also, her boyfriend will know she is here, if he turns up would I be in the right phoning the police and telling them that a trespasser is here? When he loses it, he is sometimes unhinged.

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dingdongmerRADLEYonhigh · 26/11/2006 14:38

How would i do sleeping arrangements do you think?

I have a very large reclining sofa so that is one option, and someone could sleep with me, freeing up another bed, just want them both to be comfy and for the little boy to see it as an adventure

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SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve · 26/11/2006 14:38

YES, use the police in this situation, that is what they are there for. You should not feel unsafe in your own home.

What a terrible sitation for your friend and her little boy. Unfortunately her parents' reaction is all too typical. Good on you for being a real friend - where would she be without you?

Good luck to all of you, it sounds horrendous

SantaGotStuckUpTheGreensleeve · 26/11/2006 14:39

Could she sleep with her little boy? How old is he?

However you organise it I'm sure she would rather be in a safe place with someone who cares about her. Don't worry about it being cramped, it won't be so bad if you are all considerate.

TinselgalacticWalrus · 26/11/2006 14:43

Do call the police if he tuns up. He sounds mental

Radley, you sound like a wonderful friend. I hope things tun out well for your friend and her little boy.

dingdongmerRADLEYonhigh · 26/11/2006 14:45

Thanks, he is only 4 and loves dd1 and dd2 to bits, she called the police last night and basically let him walk past them, even though she said it was him. The police said that they couldn't apprehend him and as they needed to know the details of what was going on

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lissiew · 26/11/2006 14:54

thats shocking! could her little boy sleep in with your dd's so it was like a slumber party? whereabouts are you? do you live in a flat or house? I suggest you speak to the police 1st to warn them and tell them the whole story. he sounds like a nutter. is your dh working tonight?

dingdongmerRADLEYonhigh · 26/11/2006 15:40

Yes my dh is working tonight, but, a really good male friend of mine is probably going to end up stopping.

We live in a 3 bed semi in west yorkshire, I THINK one of my mates who is a police man is working tonight so I might ring him and let him know.

He is on record at the police station for harassment, possession of drugs and domestic violence

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Carmenere · 26/11/2006 15:44

Radley I was going to say that he sounds like he was out of his mind on drugs. He sounds like really bad news and she should get rid of him. You are a good friend.

merrylissiemas · 26/11/2006 16:07

in that case the police should take you seriously. please be careful hun, you really are a good friend

dingdongmerRADLEYonhigh · 26/11/2006 17:57

They are both fine, i've just made them a roast dinner and got my mate a glass of cider. She seems a bit brighter in herself, but to look at her its heartbreaking, the only way i can describe it is that she looks downtrodden, tired and at the end of her tether.

Her son is treating it all like a big adventure.No-one has seen hide nor hair of him though and his car etc are still where he left them, all his workstuff is also in her house so goodness knows what he is going to do.

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Fattymumma · 26/11/2006 21:17

please call womens aid. they will put them all up in a a refuge and getthem the help and advice they need.

by coming to yor house she is just prolonging what is happening, she can't stay with you forever and you are now in danger of him turning up at yours.

If you call Womens aid they will be able to get your freind into a refuge. when i left i was able to stay at my brothers for a few days so they could get me somewhere suitable for my son. so as she has somewhere to stay they may not bring her in straight away but instead give her a couple of days to get her self together.

but please please ring them on 0808 2000 247

even if its just for advice.

dingdongmerRADLEYonhigh · 27/11/2006 01:02

He turned up whilst on the phone to my mate explaining that there may be police about. Whilst on the phone I heard smashing in the kitchen and he tried to break in, I hung up and called 999, they were FABULOUS, 2 cars here within seconds.

Upon insepction,he has left a MASSIVE indentation on the back door trying to get in and has left blood splatters on the back window, back door and living room door.

At the minute my mate and i are drinking cider, quite chilled and drinking cider, the Police have got a helicopter out and are watching her house.

Does anyone know who i go about charging him with criminal damage?

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