I'm sorry if this is posted in the wrong place, I dont know where to post it. Had a phone call off my mum this afternoon saying my sister had overdosed sunday night, and had been released yesterday. I'd had concerns for a while, and told my mum about them, as my sister had been depressed for a while and had a messy break up with her girl friend a few weeks ago. Told my sister I was always there for her and if she needed me no matter the time then I would talk to her. a few hours after mum called, my sister called from my mums phone to talk, she was in tears saying she has nothing left to live for, and she needs to get away from everything. I told her, as I have in the past that there will always be a bed for her here.
I live with my partner just over 60 miles away from mum. I also said that if she moved in that things wouldnt be all rosy straight away, but that we would work on things - she said she needs help but at the same time doesnt want it from counsellors, shes had bad experiences with them, but she trusts me, and feels like i've always fought her corner (admittedly this made me feel like all the arguments ive had with mum about it were worthwhile if my sister feels someone is there for her).
I'm 19, shes 16, my partner is 22. we have a spare room she can stay in, that will be hers alone if she does move in, however, mum wont let her even go out to see friends and has taken her phone off her at the moment, and wont even let her move away for college - so my sister hasnt sorted any college place. not so worried about that as if she comes here we will sort a january start for her. my point being, mum definitely wont let her move her, wont even let her come up for a few days. so my sister is considering running away, and staying with us, shes even asked me to get the local college prospectus for her.
She's in counselling, and social services have been involved in the past. I also had a rocky relationship with mum that led to me running away at 14, but I have kept contact for my siblings sake.
My sister self harms regularly and she thinks she is fat, and wants to go on this pro ana diet - which from what ive read is to do with anorexia. however when she has stayed with me in the past and when she came on holiday with us she ate regular meals, and fairly healthy ones, without feeling bad about it. mum doesnt seem to care if she eats or not, where as I expect her to eat at least two small meals a day, though she can eat them whenever she wants - she said that she liked knowing what was expected of her with me, and it made her feel safe enough to eat. with the self harming mum kicks off everytime she sees a new cut, which just makes her try to hide them more. I dont know if its the right thing to do or not, but we made a pact that if she self harmed, she told me so that I could make sure each cut was properly cleaned, and that she spoke to me about what was bothering her first, so I could try to help. she also stopped self harming as much when staying with us.
Thankfully she is very close to my partner, sees him as an older brother and he loves her like the little sister.
What can my partner and I do to help her?
Can she come live with us? Mum wont let her leave willingly though.
What are her rights?
Thank you, and I'm sorry for the long essay, I just needed to get it off my chest.