Who is right, me or dh? One word answers will suffice!

[lilibet]

The situation is this, dd is 18 on the 14th December. We have always let her have her birthday cards up for a while before we put the Christams decorations up. This year we are considering having a party on the 16th for some of our friends.

Person A thinks that we should leave the decorations until after the party as it will be a shame to take all her stuff down so soon after her birthday and it will also be too much on the 16th getting ready for a party and trying to decorate the house for Christmas.

Person B thinks that it will be very strange having a party so close to Christmas and not having the decorations up and that everyone who comes will think it peculiar and if we aren't putting the decorations up we may as well not bother with a party.

Bearing in mind the number of cards she will get for her 18th there isn't room to have both up.

So, who do you agree with A or B?

And which do you think I am??

i bet you're A

can you not squeeze them all in?

i bet there are clever Mners who can suggest smart ways to hang cards

A - who wants Christmas decs at a birthday party!

well i think your A and i say put them all up!..her 18th is more important, but it will be a sort of double celebration and you could get out of inviting people over christmas day cos youll have already celbrated with them

A is right

pklus the added stress of keeping an eye on the dec's while party is going on. leave them until the 17th or later, we always do anyway!

Can't decide - can you ask her and see what she wants to do?

A. Too much pissing about with parties as it is, let alone putting up Xmas decorations

(btw, the same argumant esnues in our house too. DS1s b day is 16/12. DP thinks Xmas decorations shpould go up 1/12 and not a day later.)

Person A is right.
And I bet you're A.

Can't you just have the party earlier/ later?

A is right. It's her birthday. It's a bit rubbish having a birthday so close to Christmas anyway (not that that's your fault or anything, lilibet... sorry!) and I think that 'combining' birthday with Christmas just gives her the message that her birthday isn't that important. I wouldn't be putting the decorations up till about then anyway (but I am a bit of the 'bah-humbug' persuasion when it comes to Christmas decorations), so it wouldn't be any skin off my nose to wait till after the party. What does dd think?

I think B is right You'll probably find that by the 16th of December you won't have too many Christmas cards yet and if you do you could hang these on the wall and put her cards on shelves etc. I reckon you could squeeze both in.

I also think she's 18 and she won't care she'll me more interested in going out with her friends to the pub for her first legal drink!

I couldn't bear - especially if it were her 18th - to take them down.

Go and get a job lot of blu tack and make the most of both occasions!

If you stick her birthday cards to strips of ribbon, just that cheap stuff you use for wrapping parcels, hers can take pride of place and be slowly moved in entire strips either to her bedroom or a different part of the living room as time goes on.

Both A and B have made quite valid points. However, I am inclined to say hold off with the xmas decs on this occasion until after the birthday party as it is, after all, a milestone celebration.

I have sympathy with you as I have a ds who has a birthday on the 16th Dec. We have waited until the 17th to put xmas decs up so far.

I think you are B and dh is A - I am guessing it's dh who puts all the xmas decs up and is stressing about getting it all done in time?

wow - so many replies so quickly!!

It's not cards that are the issue I don't tend to put them up anyway until very very close to Christmas, they get on my nerves ), its things like garlands that will take up where her cards will be and the tree will obscure the cards as well.

And we won't be seeing these people any other time over Christmas, we have no other available dates because of other comitments and birthdays (dh's is on the 23rd!)

confused here - is the party for birthday or christmas?
If christmas party, i would put some decs up, but no xmas cards, just the birthday cards.
If birthday party, i wouldn't bother with the decs.
I hang our cards to keep them out of the way,pin a length of ribbon the top of the door so it hangs downwards, and staple/tape the cards onto it.
I'm sure you are A.

who will care about your xmas cards??

have her cards plus some xmas decs

My birthday is also 14th Dec. I usually have the decs up the weekend before my birthday. Its what Im used to and it would feel odd not to have them. Though we dont go overboard. Birthday cards go on the mantle piece, tv, bookshelves etc, and Christmas cards get hung accross the wall on cotton.

its dd's birthday, so i think i would let her decide.

A.

Who gives a monkeys if people think you are weird not having the Christmas decs up. Dd deserves to have her day celebrated once properly, Jesus gets it every year

My birthday is between Christmas and New year so there was always overlap. You must REALLY go to town on your Christmans decorations.

Ah, I think I was confused before!

If it is a xmas party then yes definitely put up xmas decs but leave dd's cards up too. Have her cards in pride of place and relegate any xmas cards you will have received by then to the backs of doors.

Is dd having a party or is it a combined one?

think i was confused too!

if you are talking about an 18th birthday party then I'd let her decide.

if its a pre-xmas party for you and your friends I'd put up the xmas decorations early.

A. You'll be heartily sick of Christmas decorations if you put them up too early anyway. Person B is just odd, it's a birthday party, not a Christmas party!

I think B because if I was having a party a week or so before Christmas I'd want it to be Christmassy with the decs up.

Is an 18 year old really going to be that bothered about having her cards on display?

You are probably A. I'm B.

Oh hang on, if the party is for her birthday - leave her stuff out and don't put tree up. If the party is entirely separate from her birthday and it's more of a Christmas get-together then I'm sticking with B.