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Parent & Child Parking bays - who should be using them?

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gmummy · 22/11/2006 21:38

This is a subject which really gets me heated (I'm a bit sad, I know).
I think that the following people should not use these (usually limited) bays:

  1. people without children - obviously, they are just lazy, self centred sh*ts!
  2. people with childern over the age of 6yrs - these bays are really for people who need space to set up a pram next to the car to put their baby in or who need the space to prize their baby in it's car seat out of the car.These people's children were babies once - how can they be so inconsiderate?
  3. people who think it's all right to park in the bay because they have a car seat in the car even though there's no baby in it - this is even worse (unless they are going to collect a baby from the place where they parked)!

Anybody else get worked up about this or disagree?

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DarrellRivers · 22/11/2006 22:54

carriage and four horses

Jimjams2 · 22/11/2006 22:55

oh? Am I being dim! I was wondering who you were!!!

Jimjams2 · 22/11/2006 22:56

and as for curbs??? my spelling brain has taken a hike tonight. I said eery eariler, even though I knew it was wrong.

winestein · 22/11/2006 22:56

I already CATed you

2Shoes · 22/11/2006 22:57

but when does a child stop being a child?. my dad(bless he is 79) still calls me 45 and my brother 47 "the children. can just imagine him parking in one if I was in the car............

This is a lighthearted question

Jimjams2 · 22/11/2006 22:57

cool I wonder if mumsnet have gone to bed. Will reply as soon as it arrives

winestein · 22/11/2006 23:05

I'd probably personally push his car out of the P&T space on that premis 2shoes. Equally light hearted

JJ - I think Mumset has gone to bed, and unusual that I shoud be here too! To bed, to bed....
out all day tomorrow from the crack of dawn, but post if you haven't received my CAT and I'm happy to post my hotmail address if you want help

Jimjams2 · 22/11/2006 23:07

thank you! sleep tight!

hunkermunker · 22/11/2006 23:14

Naughty meeces park Anywhere They Damn Well Please. It's part of being a Naughty Meece

Tortington · 22/11/2006 23:14

Parent & Child Parking bays - who should be using them?

A) parents and children

hunkermunker · 22/11/2006 23:15

PMSL Custy! (I bloody love you )

3andnomore · 22/11/2006 23:21

Well am with you, only would say, normal Kids over 4 should be safe enough in a carpark!
Mut say, still get worked up about this, but not as much as I used too when ms wa 21 month old and ys was a newborn, etc....because I really needed a space nearby which was wide enough, etc....and seeing people without Kids with them, or with older capable Kids etc..use a space I was in true need of just really got to me...and in rl I am not generally a person to speak out, but then I did....it's inconsiderate and selfish, and thay are twats for being that lazy....I wish those spaces would have the same rules applied for them....but I certainly would never begrudge a disabled person or a very pregnant woman those spaces, if they have no other option that is....and if I need to get a life...I know that...but I still think those people are lowlifes

3andnomore · 22/11/2006 23:24

2shoes...usually there is a Buggy and small child drwan onto the spaces...anyway...commonsense would make sense...if my chuild is able to get in and out of tha car easy enough and strapping in can be done themselves, etc...and they are trustworthy at walking over the carpark...you don't need that space anymore and it's pure lazyness not to use them...not aimed at you nw, btw!

3andnomore · 22/11/2006 23:28

oh, where I live now, we have a rather high ratio of disabled and pg people and parents...so, there seems to be a larger then average amount of those spaces...still of course used by many not eligable people....

Gillian76 · 22/11/2006 23:30

Darn custy I was reading through this hoping my line would be original!

You beat me to it

3andnomore · 22/11/2006 23:35

just wondering though, if a child has cp or autism, don't you then apply for a blue badge...and then you are eligible for disabled parking which tends to be even nearer and more ample and more controlled....like I said before, if all those are taken I would not begrudge a blue badge holder or anyone in need that parking space...it's those that take the mick and are just lazy that get to me, iykwim

SparklyGothKat · 22/11/2006 23:39

you can get a blue badge for a child, IF you get high rate mobility for them. If not you have to prove that your child has a need for one. I am lucky that DS has a blue badge, as he has cerebral palsy and high rate mobility.
At our local tesco the disabled bays are further away than the P&B spaces. I only use a P&B space if there is no disabled bays free.

3andnomore · 22/11/2006 23:41

I just thought, because my friends ds has aspergers/autism....and even though he hasn't had his statement through, they were able to apply and got the blue badge (and rightly so...alhtough, not sure if it was a bit based on the grounds that they live in a Highstreet with no off road parking, but have to use the public car park across the road...)

misdee · 22/11/2006 23:42

dd2 cant get a disabled badge, as she has no confirmed dx, and dla was taken aay beginning of this year. but she is just 4 (sept baby) so still qualifies for p+t parking according to tesco rules

if she reaches 6yrs old and is still jusmping into the path of cars and licking the floor, maybe she will qualify for a badge then, but i am hoping her AS traits are just traits and she will learn to control her implulses (i can dream, right?)

3andnomore · 22/11/2006 23:46

aww misdee....like I said, if soemone needs it more then me or equally to me, I really don't mind....but, there definately are those that take the mickey....I mean, I drive a fiat Multipla, which, come on, just shouts a fair few lot of Kids and have visible carseats with equally visible small people in them, and people will look at you and still take the darn space, even if there is no Kid in the car or a child that does not need any help in walking and seems to be rather content and cicilised whilest they dawdle up the shop....oh there was a reason that I used to do online shopping and that I now, rather walk a few times a week for lil shops then use the darn car, lol!

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gmummy · 22/11/2006 23:54

DD just took me away from PC for a while and now I find I've missed popcorn - damn, I love anything with butter/sugar/cheese..... Oh ok anything edible(I'd better say organic )!!!

I am for you Reidie, I should have said that I think very pregnant women should be an exception at any time. Technically you were a parent wth child!

On a slightly serious note to Saintmaybe, thanks for posting in the end - once again I am humbled, I am too good at making snap desicions without thinking it through from all sides. I never even thought about parents with children who look older but are not actually able to negotiate car parks safely. I will definitely be thinking twice in future before I start handing out the "hard stares".

Thanks for the gentle treatment and the offer of popcorn winestein. Must must must go to bed now though ..........

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hunkermunker · 22/11/2006 23:55

I used to have a blue badge (mine was orange, twas before they became blue) and I really, really cannot get irate about P&C parking because it's really, really not as important as not being able to walk without severe pain (on a good day) or not at all on a bad day.

3andnomore · 23/11/2006 00:04

Hunkermunker...I didn't really think about it neither, that much, although, when I only had es (there is a big agegap between es and ms) I never used P&C parking, as I rather parked right at the end where no one would park, as I found that easier....but, with 2 small children it DID matter, as ms would jsut run off and ys was so heavy to carry and I just found it difficult...because, theoretically you just can't win...like, when I could not get a near space, I would leave the Kids in the locked but not alarmed car, and get a trolley first...but apparently I was a irresponsible parent for leaving my Kinds alone in the car for that 1 minute, anything could have happened (and being in NI, a soldiers wife, that was probably true, lol)....but, if I could get a near space that I could open the doors properly, it was easy enough to get ys out, and then ms out, and being able to straight away lock the car....I know it sounds pathetic...but, wiht 2 or more lil ones at the same time things CAN get a bit complicated, and again, I like to stress, that I am happy enough for someone who needs it more then me, to use them...now I don't mind all that mcuh anyway, yes, if I can get one it's great (ms4 and ys 2 ) but if I can't it's no prob, as both of them are in reasonable controll now!

3andnomore · 23/11/2006 21:42

oh dear, I succesfully killed yet another thread.......maybe I should think of a new id along the lines of themightythreadkiller...lmao

housemum · 23/11/2006 22:20

Go on, it's late and I've had a drink or two so I'll put my head on the chopping block. DD is 3 so I don't use P&C spaces EXCEPT if she's gone and fallen asleep if we've gone into town after a full day's pre-school and I need to lift all 2-and-a-bit-stone-and 104cm of her into the buggy (when she's asleep, the world would have to collapse to wake her - I can pick her up/hoover/her/room/probably play the bagpipes if I had some and she wouldn't stir). Of course, we'd probably get a hard stare when we returned if she's woken up

I don't make assumptions about anyone with kids as you never know what their reason is for an older kid eg disability, behaviour issues etc.

Single people with no disabled badge, obvious disability, obesity or pregnancy anoy me. Did feel like gushing to one skinny woman in a tiny convertible, "ooh the early stages can be hard - when are you due? Not showing much?" but I'm not that kind of person (in my world in my head i can think of all sorts that I wouldn't ever say!!!)