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Bloody bloody BLOODY HELL!!!!!

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Lisa78 · 08/05/2004 17:22

ARGH!!! I am going to shoot DH! We both work for the same organisation, but in different places and roles. He is applying for a temporary promotion and as I have experience with recruitment and selection, I am helping him with our very long and complex application form.
He is driving me nuts. I am making amendments for him and he is doing half of them and missing the rest, I have explained how to present the information 3 times and he is still not doing it right (he has this pissing annoying habit of re-doing things that were fine in the first place eg, he has the job description but hasn't brought it home, cos he decided to type out the bits he thought were relevant, and email them to himself....WHY? Why did he think he knew better than the person who wrote the bloody thing?) and he is getting that really annoying blank look when I am trying to explain to him what he needs and why....
I am getting really wound up which is making me really snappy and unsupportive, which in turn makes him pay me even less attention - cue blank look
AAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH

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charlieplus3 · 08/05/2004 17:30

Lisa i know from the title that this was you, dunno why???

No advice except, hes a bloke you cant really expect to be on the same wave length, can you

motherinferior · 08/05/2004 17:48

Lisa. Lisa. Lisa.

Men. Are. Very. Odd.

Repeat, frequently. And then reach for a blunt instrument

Hugs
xxxxxxxxxxxx

suzywong · 08/05/2004 17:55

Lisa
Doesn't Tilly's bum need a bit of a clean?
Got any brushes handy?

carla · 08/05/2004 18:18

Can't you keep out of it, then sigh, say sagely, 'I told you so .....'

Beccarollover · 08/05/2004 18:19

Your patient than me Lisa! I would have said oh well f**k you and do it yourself and probably would have ripped the form up in temper

So well done you for being so calm

eddm · 08/05/2004 18:24

Oh god I know that blank look. And acting surprised when you remind them 'I want to go to the xxxx' today when you TOLD them the week before and mentioned it again yesterday and first thing this morning. What goes on in their heads? I can't see any evidence of activity...

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Lisa78 · 08/05/2004 19:27

How did I know that MNers would understand what I was on about? Its like swimming in treacle
Want to kill him

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mummysurfer · 08/05/2004 19:32

ooo this has made me smile .... in this house that blank look is normally followed by a huge EXPLOSION from dh and a BIG argument!

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Lisa78 · 08/05/2004 21:55

Hmmm - am inches away from the explosion myself mummysurfer! Just said, thru gritted teeth, "if I were screening the applications, that particular paragraph would not only piss me off, but it wouldn't get any points" to which he replied "but you're not"
But the bloody screener will screen the same way I do
Breathe, breathe

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emmatmg · 08/05/2004 22:00

Becca, you and me are very alike according to this, I'd do the exact same thing.

leave him to it Lisa and enjoy the chance to say "I hate to say I told you so but....."

gscrym · 08/05/2004 22:01

If I was him, I'd live you forever for being willing to help fill in a form that you know will impress the selection group. Tell him to sod of and not to be surprised if he gets a thanks but no thanks letter. Either that or just fill in the form for him, submit it and give him a copy for future reference.
Is the part of a mans brain that is responsible for this linked to the bit that can't ask for directions?

gscrym · 08/05/2004 22:01

I meant to type love.

aloha · 08/05/2004 22:07

Did he actually ask you to help him? I am 100% certain you are absolutely right and you could really help him, but if he doesn't want your help (I don't know if he does) then all you can do is let him do it himself and his way. I think the thing with couples helping each other is like teaching each other to drive - often ends in tears (or attacks with blunt instruments). When my dh tries to help me with anything I become a very unreasonable person indeed. I just hate it. I don't suppose this is very helpful, but I recognise myself in your husband - unreasonable, irritable and feeling as if I am being patronised, when logically I do know my dh is just trying to be genuinely helpful (ie with computer).
It's not you, it's him, and I just think you can only ignore and say, well if you do want me to help, say so.

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Lisa78 · 08/05/2004 22:09

yes, he wants me to help, he asked me to help, he is still asking me to help, he is even thanking me for helping
He just can't bloody absorb the help

MENNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!

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SofiaAmes · 08/05/2004 22:34

How about my dh. We have just come back from 4 weeks in the usa. Dh got back with the kids a week before me (I had an emergency I had to stay for). When I get back he tells me proudly that he's unpacked the 2 suitcases that he brought back with him. (as if somehow he deserves rewards for not leaving them for a week for me to do). Then a week after I get back I realize that I can't find 2 of dd's dresses. I search the whole house. I call dh (who is now in bulgaria) who mumbles something about thinking some of his underwear was missing too, I check with the childminder, I check with everyone we stayed with in the usa. No joy. Dh finally tells me a few days later that one of the suitcases felt like maybe it had a few things in it when he put it into the loft!!!! (what kind of a moron thinks a supposedly empty suitcase feels heavy and then doesn't check it). Sure enough I go into the loft and one of the 2 suitcases that he "unpacked" was completely full. Voila the missing dresses, dh's underwear and all the other things I was missing. MENNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Lisa78 · 08/05/2004 22:40

oh no sofia! I still think my friends husband did the best yet - quite convinced he was perfectly capable of cooking a spaghetti bolognese, he did the husband huff and went off to cook it
He sauteed onions and mushrooms, got sauce, all the usual stuff and cooked a lovely spag bol. Shame he forgot about the mince.....

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eddm · 08/05/2004 23:09

Oh Sofia, think you deserve an award that is such a spectacular 'bloody men' moment!
I'd give myself a medal if only I could work out a way to make dh realise that carrier bags are not permanent storage for everything he owns and everything he brings home before every square inch of this house is covered in carrier bags full of cr*p... I mean how pathetic is it, a 36 year old still carrying all his posessions in plastic bags from the supermarket instead of using his perfectly good rucksack or briefcase?

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Lisa78 · 08/05/2004 23:15

You should chuck something out eddm, then say as it was in a carrier bag, you assumed it was rubbish

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gscrym · 09/05/2004 09:33

Can I join this rant.

DH has buggered off diving this morning and not only has ne used all the bread after me buying him rolls like he asked yesterday, but he's also used all the butter and de-caff coffee. He's not allergic to caffeine, I am!!!!!
I had myself all set up for a nice bacon butty this morning. The bacon went out of date and smelled funny, no butter, no bread. All we had was skinless sausages and little rolls for DS to try to see if he liked them.
I also noticed he'd left the back door unlocked. Luckily I found it before DS or we would have had a repeat of Friday.
I hope he gets his nose nipped by a crab or something painful but not life threatening.

eddm · 09/05/2004 09:38

Oooh gscrym that would drive me up the wall! I hate hate hate it when I go to the fridge for something I have bought and know is in there and it's gone. Does he think I won't notice? Of that the fairies will magically replace it?
Actually I think dh is a woman really as he eats all the high-calorie 'naughty' food in secret.

Ixel · 09/05/2004 09:45

How about this. Dh sees a job advert whilst we were at relatives house. Spends an hour explaining to our lodger how to get into our pc, find his cv, and email it to us. Then spends 4 hrs rewriting it, begging for help as he cant remember what dates he worked where. Then rereads the advert to find it says application form on website, no cvs. Spends an hour getting form, due to being sidetracked by 'interesting things'. Gets me to fill it in for him in draft. Types it in, but misses out any words he cant decipher! And even says that because he wasn't sure where the *'d bit should be added in, he just randomly stuck it at the end. I pointed out that it didn't make sense, and he said he was too tired to make any more changes, and would send it as it was. After all day on this, ha then decides he doesn't want the job anyway as its a fixed term contract...

gscrym · 09/05/2004 09:53

I've gave up getting and suggesting job ads for DH. Everytime I do (including one for the place I work). He writes all the stuff like name, DOB and all the no-brainer stuff and that's as far as it goes. I was livid about the job at my work becuase it was for a stock man. Driving a forklift, dealing with tankers and lorries, no management responsibility, mon-fri 7-3 and more money than he was getting as a team leader at his current work. Also it's 5 minutes from the house so no travelling. His reasoning was he didn't people to think he got the job because of me. Not bloody likely, I was only a humble man-tech on a different plant so it had nothing to do with me.

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