Just found 10 yr old DD has been looking at porn

[whatashock]

I'm so shocked. She obviously doesn't know that everything is in history. she left herself logged in and I was using the PC, forgot she was logged in and went to history to find something I'd googled for. Found she had typed in big tts, lesbion (yes spelled like that), fck, cm , pnis & v*gina. I then looked at the results and there were anhy number of HIDEOUS pictures it brought up. Things even I was shocked to see. I really don't know what to do. I've been meaning to get Net Nanny for ages, but haven't got round to it. Now I feel completely responsible, guilty and feel like she's somehow had her innocence taken away. Although obviously she's come across these words somewhere (at school I imagine). I really don't feel I can talk to her about it (or anyone else in RL for that matter). I'm tempted to just get Net Nanny to stop it happening again. Have changed Google preferences to safety setting for the time being. What would you do?

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well that's good that you're going to speak to her.

I agree that it is probably natural curiosity - I can remember many a day spent in the library as a child looking at The Joy of Sex book with wide eyes (just nowadays for children, the internet is their natural place to look things up)!

She probably has been frightened by those pictures so it might be worth having a brief chat about porn and how you'll put Net Nanny on to stop her being exposed to that sort of thing.

its a tough one isn't it. Our ds is 11 and we don't have netnanny or anything similar. In a way, I guess I expect him at some point in the future to look up sex etc. I remember lookng up rude words in the dictionary as a kid, although I know times have changed and everything is so easily accessible and 'visual' nowadays. I would definitely talk to your daughter though, Whatashock. So what if she denies it and yes you will probably both be embarrassed .

My ds is quite a private person and does get embarrssed about sexual references etc but he has always been surprisingly open in the things he asks me (why me and not his dad!). We had a conversation about available forms of contraception 100 yrs ago recently!! He probably thinks I'm old enough to remember, lol Does your dd ever ask you about sex etc?

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Had the same experience with ds2. He took to Googling phrases that even I wasn't familiar with until then, unaware that I could see his history.

A friend suggested he was just using Google like a dictionary so I decided not to be shocked but got a net-nanny equivalent.

Tested it and it worked like a dream - or so I thought. He found a way in, quite by mistake. If you are testing software, let your kids loose on it!!

I should add that it was a complete pain as it blocked out all sorts of sites that he wanted to use for homework. So we gave up on it. He clearly knew more about sex than me anyway.

My ds doesn't know more about sex than me but he certainly knows a hell of a lot more about computers