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Did I overreact?

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Smurfgirl · 21/11/2006 21:17

So I am a student nurse (yay ) and I am currently on placement.

The consultant for the ward was doing a tutorial session with some medical students about measuring pulse and blood pressure and he asked me to demonstrate the dynamap (the electronic machine we use to measure bp) to them. So I did, and then he asked the woman I meaured it on to do some walking around and whilst she did he asked me to sit down. And so I sat down next to him, and he looks at me and asks me what the marks are on my arms. And I told him that I used to self harm.

Then he grabbed my arm to show to the medical students and said look at this, what is this, how would she have done it. Mmm. So the medical student look horrified and are going 'well with a razor blade its self harm' and saying stuff like they are lacerations and cuts...

I managed to compose myself but when I walked out of the room I was in tears. I complained to the sister and he came and apologised, everyone on the ward was v.shocked.

I felt very embarrased and humiliated. I was at work, I was not a patient, and he did this IN FRONT of a patient and relatives who frankly do not need to know what I did to myself over 2 years ago. I watched a rather traumatic cardiac arrest yesterday as well so I felt v.fragile.

Was I silly for complaining to the sister, looking back it does not seem so much but at the time I really was destraught? Do you think people will think I am silly for getting worked up?

I am only 22 BTW and look v.young in uniform, he probably thought I was in my late teens.

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2Shoes · 21/11/2006 21:19

no you did not over react.
what a horrid thing for him to do.

pelvicfloorSNOWmore · 21/11/2006 21:20

No you werent over reacting
Very for you
What the hell is it to do with him ?

MerlinsBeard · 21/11/2006 21:20

nou didn't over reactm self harm is a very personal thing and he has no right to a) delve into your personal life and b) do that in fornt of all of those people. If he really wanted to kniow he should have asked u privatly.

((smurfgirl)) hope ur ok and it hasn't brought anything back for you, nothing to be ashamed of x

controlfreaky2 · 21/11/2006 21:22

bl**dy twunt. he should be feeling bad NOT YOU. for you.

colditz · 21/11/2006 21:24

That is why he is a consultant and not a nurse. He needs to be kept as far away from people as possible! No you did not over react, he was a brainless twat!

greenday · 21/11/2006 21:24

You definitely did not overreact. Self-harming is a very personal and serious issue. The fact that you were open enough to talk about it shows that you have come out of it stronger. But it surely does not mean that anyone could take your experiences for granted and put you on show. He was extremely insensitive and unprofessional. I hope he gets reprimanded.

ambercat · 21/11/2006 21:27

Smurfgirl,I'm a nurse and think what he did to you is totally unprofesional,some consultants seem to think they can do what they like with no regard for anyone.

I think you have every right to be upset by this and i'm sure no-one will think you are silly for getting worked up. I'm glad he apologised to you, hopefully he will think twice before doing anything like this again.

hope you are feeling better now.

ninah · 21/11/2006 21:31

words fail me. You probably under-reacted if anything! I am cross just thinking about it

southeastastra · 21/11/2006 21:34

that's awful!

Aimsmum · 21/11/2006 21:36

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saadia · 21/11/2006 21:38

Smurfgirl I hope you are feeling better. FWIW I think what he did was utterly unprofessional and insensitive and out of order.

Smurfgirl · 21/11/2006 21:42

Thanks for the reassurance, just wondered if I had got caught up in the moment. My dp is very angry and the staff on the ward were shocked so I feel that his behaviour was not the norm.

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SaintGeorge · 21/11/2006 21:47

Bloody hell H, I am fuming on your behalf

Where is your placement?

Smurfgirl · 21/11/2006 21:51

HRI old block StG (don't want to say a specific one online)

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SaintGeorge · 21/11/2006 21:53

Ooh, might be someone I knew if it is an old timer.

Mind you, I forget sometimes it is over 10 years since I left there.

Git who ever it is.

Smurfgirl · 21/11/2006 21:55

No it is an old timer StG

Will text you

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mummyhill · 21/11/2006 22:24

I can't believe he was so unprofessional as to do this to you. Very for you smurfgirl.

Jimjams2 · 21/11/2006 22:26

That's dreadful. utterly dreadful.

mrsnoah · 21/11/2006 23:13

Smurf, it doesnt matter what he thought your age was, his behaviour was completely inappropriate.

The problem probably lies in that he is so used to bodies being bodies and often forgetting that they are attached to a real person!

I think you show great courage in telling the Sister and it was absolutely the right thing to do.

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