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Going away without ds.... should we leave him?

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Lethal · 07/05/2004 10:36

Dh and I have been given the opportunity of an all-expenses paid trip to an island resort for 5 nights, & it's meant to be a really beautiful place. The only thing is, it's a 9 hour flight from where we live, and my parents would have to take care of my ds (nearly 4) if we were to go.

My dilemma is, should I feel bad about asking them to take him for this length of time, and has anybody else done this in order to spend time away with their partners/husbands? My son is quite active and my parents are both 65, although they are both still quite active themselves - they also see ds every week, and are quite a major part of his life. I really feel quite torn about it. The other thing that bothers me is being so far away from ds... I know I would probably worry about him while I'm away, and basically, I'm wondering if it's all worth it. Would appreciate some thoughts.

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Soapbox · 07/05/2004 10:44

Just been to New York for 5 days leaving my DS4 and DD5 with my sister and my mother. I did miss them a bit but not enough to make it unenjoyable. We have been away together without the children a few times now and I think both we and the children enjoy the time apart doing different things from usual!

I'd say go for it!

Nimme · 07/05/2004 10:50

Go for it!

Spent 5 nights away from DD1 last year (when 3). Missed her terribly the first day - and then decided to "not miss her" and enjoy the break, which we thouroughly did. Scary how quickly we got used to her not being around - did what we wanted when we wanted - was great.

pollingfold · 07/05/2004 10:52

Go go go.

He'll be fine. He'll love being spoilt by grandparents, and you although there will be times that you will miss, those will quickly pass as you relax with a drink in hand having some quiality time with dh. Then you can come back a new, rejuvenated mum

Any space in your luggage for a few MN's?

emmatmg · 07/05/2004 10:53

Wow, I'd jump at he opportunity if our youngest was 4.
He's only 7 moths though and I stuggle to leave him for a few hours to do the shopping.

froot · 07/05/2004 11:27

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hercules · 07/05/2004 11:29

You really shouldnt go. If i were you I'd stay at home and instead give the tickets to someone else.
Like me!

Of course you should go. Promise lots of presents for your ds and he'll be packing your cases for you.

Codswallop · 07/05/2004 11:29

Oh he's quite old isnt he? old enough to understand that you ar ecoming back

If he was 2 or under I would say dont but 4 - go!

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Lethal · 07/05/2004 11:56

Thank you... I do feel as though I should grab the opportunity with both hands

The 9 hour flight doesn't turn me on but I suppose I can handle it. I REALLY don't like the idea of being so far away from ds though, in case anything happens.... I just wish I could get over feeling this way.

He's old enough now to say that he loves me and misses me, so I think leaving him is actually harder now than when he was younger. My heart just melts when he says "Mummy!!!! I lost you!!!You came back!!! (sniff)...

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Codswallop · 07/05/2004 12:07

Lethal!

now stop it! do you remember a lot about being 4? no? so stop torturing yourself
Grandparesnts LOve having kids when the parents arent there!

BTW dish it where are you going

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Lethal · 07/05/2004 12:30

Lol Coddy

It's Mauritius... anyone been there by the way?

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Tissy · 07/05/2004 12:34

I can't wait for my dd to be old enough to leave behind! I have several doting relatives who would be delighted to entertain her for a few days. Roll on the time when she says, "go 'way, Mummy" and I say "Alright. See you next week!"

LipstickMum · 07/05/2004 12:34

You lucky, lucky, lucky, lucky thing. If the grandparents are fine about it, definitely go, it's only 5 days. Make sure you are relaxed about the decision too, can't spend 5 days in Mauritius worrying about what's going on at home !

LipstickMum · 07/05/2004 12:35

meant to be a smiley

juniper68 · 07/05/2004 12:54

I bet it'll be great you really can't miss this chance and DS will be in good hands

The first time DH and I left the kids with my sis for a long weekend we looked at each other and said 'hello u' it was lovely being just us two for a few days

katierocket · 07/05/2004 12:56

agree that he's old enough to understand.
GO, definitely.

but the bit "I lost you mummy" aahhhh, they make your heart break don't they?

tigermoth · 07/05/2004 18:54

go - we left ds with his grandparents who live 300 or so miles alway when he was 5 and he loved it. What's more his grandparents loved it too and from then on were happy to give him holidays alone. So that was a result! And you can phone every day. Remember you have technology on your side. Do the grandparents have access to a computer? you can send emails with pics! If you think the grandparents might want a breather, can you organise a babysitter they can use as a fall back option one evening?

emmatmg · 07/05/2004 19:04

all expenses paid trip to Mauritaus!!!!

Blimey I'd leave the kids at sainsburys for that!

Seriously how often would you get this type of opportunity?
Do it, do it, do it

roisin · 07/05/2004 19:10

LOL emma!

froot · 07/05/2004 19:33

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littlemissbossy · 07/05/2004 19:45

All expenses paid to Mauritius!!!! What the hell are you waiting for? Go pack, run to the airport and have a great time. Your DS will be fine I'm sure and probably enjoy a different routine - it's only 5 days not 2 weeks, so before he knows it you'll be back!

p.s. if you decide not to go can I have your tickets? Plleeaassee

WideWebWitch · 07/05/2004 20:26

Mauritius is lovely, definitely GO!

Wallace · 07/05/2004 20:51

Do go You will miss him, but you will have a lovely time.
your ds sounds v. sweet . Dd (almost 3) says "Mummy! I was worried about you!" when I have been momentarily out of sight!

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