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If you had three children, and you got pg again by accident, would you...

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stattnilsen · 20/11/2006 09:34

be happy?
or horrified?

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nearlythree · 20/11/2006 09:36

Both.

fennel · 20/11/2006 09:37

am really hoping I never find out which I'd feel.
don't want to go there.

why, are you?

geekgrrl · 20/11/2006 09:38

mmmh. We have three small children and dh's had the snip... I guess I'd be horrified really. And maybe a little bit happy in an instinctive way IYSWIM.

LadyTophamHatt · 20/11/2006 09:45

You've described me perfectly....3 children already and a surprise 4th on the way.

I had wanted another but never ever in 10 zillion years did I think we'd ever have one.

Whay I happy??
I suppose so but I don't think I'll ever get over the shock of seeing that +ve result all those months ago.
I wasn't exactly horrifeid at the being PG again but because it was such a shock it's really made the whole PG wierd.
I really haven't enjoyed being PG this time whereas with my 3 Ds's I loved being it.

Stockingsofdinosaurs · 20/11/2006 09:45

Horrified. We've had a pg scare this year and although I was horrified I did a lot of thinking and resigned myself to the fact that I just couldn't look the kids I the eye if I didn't have it and that one day we'd be glad. Luckily it was negative and hurray for that but lately I am suffering from what I would call baby envy. Not broody by a long chalk but a close friend is due any day now and I am quite jealous of the attention and that huge creative statement that is naming a child. Maybe I should get a puppy.

Rhubarb · 20/11/2006 09:48

Mortified! We've only got 2 and there is no way I want another one! That being said, if it did happen we'd just get on with it.
I did have a scare recently when my period was a week late, I was fairly certain I wasn't but it was very worrying all the same and me and dh did have that conversation about what if.... he said he'd support me no matter what I decided, to which I replied that there was no decision for me, I'd just have to deal with it, and he said he was relieved because he would have said the same.

So at least we know where we stand! But yes, I would be mortified and unhappy.

Pollyanna · 20/11/2006 09:52

This happened to me. tbh I was depressed. I kept the baby, and am of course really happy with her now, but I spent the first few months of my pregnancy completely depressed.

jasper · 20/11/2006 09:54

very happy. Esp. if it was twins.
And very surprised.
I would write a letter to the makers of MIRENA .

lou33 · 20/11/2006 09:55

i cried my eyes out daily for the first 6m with numbers 3 and 4

i remember saying to my friend when i thought i was pg with the 4th that i felt like a baby machine

obviously i love them all now though

Chandra · 20/11/2006 09:55

Both, however 4 is a better number than 3. (says she who is one of three and who finds 2 too little, although she has only one... I should not be commenting on this tread, should I? )

busybusymum · 20/11/2006 10:16

Happy.

I have 4 DC. Didnt want 3 (because you would then have a middle child )

GoingQuietlyMad · 20/11/2006 10:22

Happy.

Although it might not be what you had intended, I reckon that more children are always a blessing in the end. Sometimes I secretly hope this happens to me one day as I don't think I could ever have enough children to satisfy the maternal instinct.

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stattnilsen · 20/11/2006 10:23

Things are complicated here as our youngest child is only 8 months. I need to do a test but dh has said that I were to be pregnant we would have to at least consider having an abortion.

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Rhubarb · 20/11/2006 10:25

It's up to you though. When dh said that he'd support me in any decision that I made I took that as him saying that he'd prefer me to have an abortion if I was. But this wasn't the case, he just didn't want me to think I had to keep it because he didn't agree with abortion.

Of course you would consider every option and you and your dh should talk together about every option and how you feel about them. Make him feel included in the decision making and he'll be much more likely to support you in what you decide.

busybusymum · 20/11/2006 10:25

I liked my smaller age gaps the nest (18months gap was much easier than 2years ago IMHO)

busybusymum · 20/11/2006 10:26

nest????? I meant best

fennel · 20/11/2006 10:27

I had a 17 month gap between dd1 and dd2, it was OK, they play together, they're friends. that needn't be a problem.

but it could be just a scare anyway so a bit early to panic perhaps?

4 children is a lovely number for a family, but personally 3 is plenty I find.

Kelly1978 · 20/11/2006 10:30

I have two children and accidently fell pg with my twins, so jumped to four children under the age of 5. The pg was a nightmare though I did want them all along and since having them it has been really hard, and I know it might have been easier if I hadn't had them, but I don't regret it for a second. I lvoe having a big family and although they drive me up the wall sometimes it is also a lot of fun. I would have regretted an abortion, because although dp asked me to consider it, I never really would have felt right doing it. Though if I unexpectedly fell pg with a 5th I would have to seriously think.

bigdipper · 20/11/2006 10:44

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NAB3 · 20/11/2006 10:47

I would be very happy but very scared too.

bigdipper · 20/11/2006 10:47

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nearlythree · 20/11/2006 10:48

Nothing to do wih your dh, stattnielsen, and everything to do with you. Personally I think the damage done by having a ternimation you are unsure about will be far more damaging than having another baby to cope with.

geekgrrl · 20/11/2006 10:51

TBH I would have been less upset if I had a surprise 4th with such a small age gap than I would now that my youngest is 3 - the thought of starting all over again is chilling.

fennel · 20/11/2006 10:54

same here geekgrrl. am really rather looking forward to the end of nappies, buggies, freezing hours sitting bored in toddler swimming pools, etc.

LadyTophamHatt · 20/11/2006 11:03

Geekgrrl, that exactly how I felt. I was look ing forward to my knee getting back to normal and not looking all scally and hard from being on the to changes nappies, build toys, tracks etc etce.
DS3 will be 3yr 3months when the baby arrives so I've seen a little chink of light at the end of the tunnel and will soon be thrown back in the deep end.

I go from feeling shit scared of having a newborn again to being really excited about having one.
I'm having agood day today and can't wait to have him here...it feels like ages to wait until january.