mn jury: dd says she doesn't want to go to ballet today. is it ok to say ok?

[hatwoman]

dd normally goes to ballet after lunch. usually loves it. sees her bf from nursery there - who doesn't go to the same school. Today she's adamant she doesn't want to go. the nearest I can get to a reason is her bf isn;t really her friend anymore. Last week her normal teacher - who she loves - wasn't there and I/m not sure the substitute was great. and when we had a cup of tea afterwards her and bf were getting on each other's nerves. so is it ok to say ok? or do I press the point that she ought to go. will not going seal the death of her otherwise lovely friendship with bf? will going be ok or dragging her unnecessarily to something she genuinely doesn't want to do?

ask her to go today - and if she doesn't want to go after that it is fine.

Do you know if her normal teacher will be there today?

I so, I think I would tell her that and see if it makes any difference.

Perhaps not go for the cup of tea afterwards.

Is she bf with the other girl or are you and the girl's mother friends?

I sometimes think it is harder to keep bf going when they are at different schools. My dd was put into a different class this year when she started Middle School from that of one of four bf she has/had. Already that friendship has lost momentum although I am still friends with the girl's mum and we now see each other in the daytime when the girls are not around.

I would take her, she's too young to know yet whether she will enjoy it or not and to make this decision.

just phoned and normal teacher is sill injured. dd still adamant. bf genuinely is/was her bf. I get on well with her mum but it was the girls who got toegther first. it'll be sad if the friendship drifts - they are normally so delighted to see each other - they jump up and down and hug each other. feel a bit sad for dd at the moment - her bf not in reception with her, she spent the first half of term playing with dd1 and now that dd1 has got sick of it she claims not to have anyone to play with. she's very matter of fact about it thought

I would try I think to get her to go today, and see how that goes, if she still doesn't want to go next week then I would just give up on it. My dd does ballet too and some of the girls drop out and then return to it later (although the dance teacher only lets them drop out and return once). She sounds as if she is feeling a bit overwhelmed. Perhaps have a word with her school teacher, my dd used to say she hadn't played with anyone when infact she had (although I suppose your dd1 would know).

I agree with most of the other posters I think she should go, if she is still adamant next week that she doesn't want to go, well that's a different matter. How old is she?

My DD said the same today she's 3 I told her that if she didn't want to go today that's fine but that we wouldn't be going again. I don't want to get into the habit of going one week and then not another especially when you have to pay for the whole term in advance. That's just how I see it anyway.

BTW she decided to go and had a great time.

same here - you lot inspired me to stop saying "are you sure..." and just say "right, time to go..." she complained for about 3 minutes. played with bf lovely as ever - helped by being greeted by a chewy sweet bf had brought specially for her

Oh good news hatwoman, glad it worked out

Glad it worked out, perhaps let her know thet she can still enjoy ballet and that she doesn't have to still be best freinds with the other girl that it is Ok to make new freinds.