Am getting married ages away. Went to DP's parents Friday/Saturday and were talking about the wedding and his mum asked if his cousin who will be 13 when we marry could be a bridesmaid and I said no She asked because he is her only young female relation. I'll call her J.
My reasons for no -
- she is very young for her age and v.fussy, she will without a doubt pester me all day
- my other bridesmaids will be 24 and are both close friends who will calm me down when I am stressed and who I can be v.honest with and who will swill wine down with me before hand
- i have two teenage cousins that I am not asking so it seems unfair to ask J and not them
- logistically it would be a pain because she lives a long way away, and i don't know what i would dress her in anyway (will prob go for coast style dress which J will not suit)
- v.expensive to have another bridesmaid
And prob most of all I just don't want her to be, but I feel awful saying no. Am also having 2 small bridesmaids (both 5) but I know their mums v.well and they will be minimal effort tbh - nice dress + headband and coming to mine just a bit before we go to the church, would not want to treat J like this, but don't think she would fit in with the older BMs.
I have suggested that she gives a reading in the church, and that she is in charge of the guest book in the evening - will give her a small present for this and make a fuss of her. Is this ok? Feel v.bridezilla for saying no, and I know my true reason is that I do just want my older close friends to be bridesmaids and to have the two little ones looking sweet on the day.