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Have you kept your maiden name for work?

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TheDullWitch · 09/11/2006 15:03

I have been amazed recetly by younger colleagues who change their names the moment they get married even after years spent building up their names and reputations in business. In my feminist day, you kept your name at least for work, were proud to do so. But now I think these women are just gagging for everyone to know they've bagged a husband.

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colinandcaitlinsmommy · 09/11/2006 15:36

No, I did not, and it had absolutely NOTHING to do with wanting to show off I had a husband. I really hated my maiden name because my father was nowhere near the greatest of parents, and in my eyes it associated me with him. When I took DH's name, I guess in a way I think of it as attaching me to him, but really it made me feel more like a new start as my own person. I never had a problem with it in the business world, as people were just as happy to see me as (me, my married name) as they were as (me, my maiden name), and usually knew of the change before they saw me.

fennel · 09/11/2006 15:37

I know lots of people who use Ms. I do, when not Dr (which is even better for not even letting on your gender let alone your marital state).

Blandmum · 09/11/2006 15:40

You can't get fined for not changing your name in the UK!

I have nothing in my married name at all!

charlyp · 09/11/2006 15:41

I am Ms maiden name at work and Mrs DH surname for passport, drivers license, etc

I like my maiden name and wanted to keep it, also wanted my ex colleagues at my old company to be able to contact me professionally at my new company but they would only know my maiden name

But also am a bit traditional and wanted to be Mrs DH in personal life

Works just fine for me

mumfor1standfinaltime · 09/11/2006 15:54

If for example I am driving with my licence as Miss Maiden and everyone knows me as Mrs Dh including my insurance company, banks etc then this makes my liscence invalid and doesn't represent who I am (as it reads Miss Maiden). I couldn't use this licence for ID in the bank or to a police officer! This is what you would be fined for in the UK, was looking for my paper licence to read the back but can't find it, think the fine is upto £1000.

zippy34 · 09/11/2006 16:17

Nah, there's actually a space on your paper license if you look for you to write any other names you are known as and provide a specimen signature (which is what I've done).

I'll get round to changing it eventually, but it is a bit of a pain with the id thing as obv you have to match your id evidence with whatever name they know you as. Even then, I seem to get away with it but my first name is very unusual so maybe that's why.

zippy34 · 09/11/2006 16:20

Are you maybe thinking about the legislation on keeping your address up to date on your driving license? There's definitely a fine for that.

I only got round to changing mine about 6 months before I got married which is maybe why I couldn't be bothered changing it again.

TheHighwayCod · 09/11/2006 16:23

i changed mine as its fantabulous
si that shallow enought for you
there is a LOT to be said for a name that alliterates wiht your Christian name

sisetr is the same

TheHighwayCod · 09/11/2006 16:24

surely the fact that no one is MS anty mroe shows that no one cares about marriage?
no one cares int tow wasy

  1. if youare nunmarried and haev kids
  2. no one sees marriage as such an impedimetn ans they used to

ithink the demis of ms is probably a GOOD hting

TheHighwayCod · 09/11/2006 16:25

( o h also chanegd mine as i had no fab rep to keep up)

mumfor1standfinaltime · 09/11/2006 16:25

There is certainly a fine for not changing address, and I always thought it was the same for your name (if you use Mrs for all other things too). Maybe it has changed or I misread it. I married nearly 5 years ago now so it's a bit hazy! Have looked on the net for this info but all I can see is gender changing info lol!

TheHighwayCod · 09/11/2006 16:27

aslo rarely use MRs cod anyway
these days everyone all pallyw ith chritian names arent ehy

apart from at " work"whre EVERYOEN int eh admin staff calles you mrs cod or maaaaaam"

Ilovemyboy · 09/11/2006 16:35

Slightly off-topic from the OP but DP and me aren't married and are expecting our first baby in the next couple of weeks. Someone asked me the other day what we are calling our baby and I told them that our DS will take DP's surname.

They then asked if I will take DP's name...even though we are not married??? Do people do this?

I thought it was a bit weird that someone would suggest such a thing. I'm also sick of people asking when I am going to get married...but that is a whole new thread. Grrrr...

TheHighwayCod · 09/11/2006 16:38

get married fgs

id nto giev a babay the name of a bloke who owudlnt marry me

Ilovemyboy · 09/11/2006 16:45

He will marry me. It's me that doesn't want to.

And he has a much nicer surname than me. And double-barrelling it is a mouthful.

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