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Council/HA exchanges.....help needed

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EvilShednalovesshortbread · 06/11/2006 22:45

I've been looking for a mutual exchange for a bit and registered on the exchange list at HA, and on exchange websites.

Its not just that we want to move house, and my problem may seem a bit insignificant against people who are overcrowded/homeless/living in damp homes etc, I fully sympathise and have been in two of these situations myself.

In a nutshell, we were given this house as our only choice, its 26 miles round trip to DH's work, and I do 34 miles a day to take DS to childminders before work, and back again. We've had to borrow money from my parents to buy another car which we can't afford, no buses come before 10.30am. Our village is tiny there's nothing here at all, nowhere to even go for a walk (no footpaths) and basically its getting me really down and I feel like leaving somedays.

We're in a sticky situation as DH has a lot of debt so even though we're earning money, we earn too much for any benefits (including childcare, so DS has to go to grandparents hence the big trips every day) but most of its taken up in debts and bills leaving us with little to spare.

We have asked for a transfer to be nearer to work and family for monetary reasons but were basically told to bugger off. We're getting desperately short of money and i'm slowly losing the will to live. I understand people are in need of homes more than us, but we would only be swapping so someone else could have our house anyway.

Has anyone else had a move (or been refused one) for a similar reason? I've tried the Homeswap Mobility Scheme but they said it wouldn't help us.

Please don't post messages about there are people more in need than me, I know this and that there is a bigger housing picture - I am grateful for what I have but at the same time i'm in need of help as well.

Hope there's someone out there with a positive story...

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TwoIfBySea · 06/11/2006 22:54

I have the exact same frustration as you unfortunately EvilShedna, so far no happy ending. The housing system is so unfair, it would seem the more you do to help yourself (work for a living being the main one) the less the council/HAs will do regarding housing.

We need to move to a nearby town where dts go to school. That way dh would be nearer work, we would basically have a better standard of life, less driving around all day. We have been on the housing lists, home swap sites for nearly 2 years now and I too am loosing the will to live in a town which I hate.

The only way you can get a swap is apparently to have lots of medical points. If you have them, I've been told, you can get the move you want quite quickly.

It is frustrating and very, very unfair. I have the same view as you, all we are asking for is a swap, one house for another. You would think we were asking for the world. And if anyone does post about people more in need etc. then they have no experience of how depressing it can be to be so damn trapped.

In solidarity with you!

EvilShednalovesshortbread · 06/11/2006 23:11

Thank you, I posted this same problem on the exchange website (not on MN!) and one person just had a full on rant at me, saying how selfish I was and to be grateful for what I have (which I am believe me) and there are people in greater need, and to go and buy a house in the area I want.

Clearly they hadn't even bothered to read my post properly as they would have seen that I have no money to speak of now let alone buy a bloody house!!! I was really upset by this and said so, the post was closed shortly after but I felt even worse afterwards. I thought 'oh well the whole world will think i'm a selfish cow'.

We don't have any medical points. We have 15 'special consideration' points for wanting to be nearer work as well as the other local connection points.

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tutu100 · 06/11/2006 23:24

Are you housed by the council, or by HA. In my area if you can find someone to mutually exchange with, as long as you aren't over qualified (sorry couldn't think of a better word), i.e it's not too many bedrooms for your entitlement then an exchange is very straight forwards. Have you tried advertising the swap in the local paper of the area you want to move to?

fussymummy · 07/11/2006 00:07

A good way to try to exchange is to advertise in shops in the areas that you'd like to live.

Lots of shops have advertising boards that cost approx 25p a week.

Have even seen them in Tesco.

Nothing worse than living somewhere that you really don't want to be.

Fattymumma · 07/11/2006 00:14

My parents exchanged their beautifull lovely gorgeouse house in london for their nice but rather less lovely house they have now via a council exchange programme.

it doesn't matter who is on the waiting list as you are exchanging with someone who is already housed and woud be occupying the property anyway, don't feel guilty as your not taking homes from anyone who needs one.

Mutual exchange does take a while but you would be surprised sometimes.
good luck

EvilShednalovesshortbread · 07/11/2006 21:46

Thanks everyone, i've got cards up in every shop I can think of, and put an advert in paper the other week but at £18-odd per night its not cheap so I've only managed one of those so far.

I live in a lovely quiet rural area but I HATE IT, it would suit someone else perfectly. I thought people would be biting my hand off, how wrong I was!

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Tortington · 07/11/2006 22:52

have you done homeswap website?

EvilShednalovesshortbread · 08/11/2006 20:19

Hi, yes i'm on Homeswap, CCHE, and UKHomeswap. Tried to get on the Homeswap Mobility Scheme but HA said it wouldn't help us

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TwoIfBySea · 08/11/2006 22:40

Try AdTrader too although it wasn't lucky for us as we need a specific area that just happens to be very popular. Plus AdTrader is free.

We couldn't even be considered for the Mobility Scheme thing as our move is to be nearer dts school. Now this would mean dh could get to work easier as it has better public transport links etc. but that doesn't matter supposedly.

I am keeping my fingers crossed for you.

And watch out for the time-wasters, we have been caught out twice and both times were devastating!

EvilShednalovesshortbread · 09/11/2006 21:13

Thanks I will put an ad on there too, you never know.

I've had two time wasters so far but neither have gone far at all before they pulled out, so I haven't been left completely in the lurch yet. One was a 3-way swap, one person pulled out as she decided the area was no good. The others came to look said they loved it then just never bothered getting back in touch, DH left messages for them and his best mate even went over and asked them (he lives over the road) - she said 'oh i've changed my mobile number i've not had any messages....i'll ring him'.

That was September and still waiting for the phone call!!

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TwoIfBySea · 09/11/2006 22:04

I think one of our time-wasters was just here to have a nose around our house. They expected to go from a flat to a semi-detached house and not pay much more!

EvilShednalovesshortbread · 12/11/2006 22:15

That's complete pants! I'm sorry that happened to you. Only had one timewaster out of four so far but the only ones who want my house live even further away which would be even worse! But one of them might slot in somewhere, so best to keep an open mind.

By the way if anyone reading this thread has a house on North Yorks coast who fancies a change please reply!!

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