do you have friends of the opposite sex?

[wannaBe1974]

and if so do you feel you should behave differently with them than with your same sex friends?

I have many male friends who I was at school with. Friends who I have lost touch with for years because they live in South Africa and I now live here, and who I have since regained contact with and we are still friends. In fact I am going to stay with one of them for a week next year, without my dh or my ds (although his wife will be there), I think nothing of ringing them up and talking to them for hours on msn or inviting them to stay if they ever come over. And yet if I met a man who became my friend now I wouldn't feel that the same was appropriate. Maybe it's because I knew these people before I knew my dh.

so do you have male friends and if so what do you consider appropriate/inappropriate?

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My two best friends are blokes, and i get on better with them then with most of the women i know as they are less bitchy.
Never given a second thought to going to see a film/ to the pub/ out for a meal etc...

Met DH when i was 14 so most of his mates were male and i just got used to being the only girl about, even got invited on stag nights.

2 of my best work friends are blokes if that counts and I chat to one of them on the phone and text them both.

I have male friends who I am just as close to as my female friends. Men are so uncomplicated.

I had a very good male friend but we have lost touch a bit now as dh couldn't believe that a man and a woman could be 'just' friends
We send the odd text from time and that's it now.

yes i have close male friends who are close to like my girlfriends.
ive gone and stayed with them, shared beds with them and feel comfortable around them to talk about everything! ive been on holiday with them after i had dd and dp didnt object to me spending time with them whilst he kept dd.

I have loads of male friends but tend only to see them when dh is there too. Mainly because they are his friends too though.

No
Idon't think it is appropriate once you are spoken for. Especially when you have kids.

With the best intentions ANYTHING could happen

JUST KIDDING
Please tell me noone thought I was serious?

lol Jasper - I was getting worried

I've got lots of good friends who are men.

There are the ones who I knew from uni and are friends with my dh too. Nothing would happen with them.

but there are also the ones who I have met since being married, who don't know DH adn I wouldn't want them to know each other. Sometimes it's nice to have another man to be friends with and talk things through with who isn't friends with your dh and will see your point of view first iyswim.

I do have a best gay friend which works very well as I can text and MSN him all day and DH doesn't mind one bit, best of both worlds.

As for whether you can just be friends with a guy, yes I think you can, but then there are also those friends who you know something would happen with if the situation were different. It's nice to have a bit of safe flirtation going on to keep things fresh!

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