My 10 week old baby will only stop screaming if i do one of three things

[mrsmaddyd]

Hes ok till mid morning then he starts crying till early evening. If i leave him in his chair or cot he screams constantly and i can only stop him by

1. Permantley feeding him which leaves my milk supply rubbish for the evening

or

1. Constantly walking round the house holding & rocking him, sitting down and holding doesnt do it

or

1. Turning on the hoover and leaving it next to him

I cant understand why he is so un content. I thought it may be colic but he stops if i do any of the above. Any advice or similar stories would be much appreciated before i go mad. I cant give him 100% of my time as i have three other children too

Mrs,you are a veteran mother but must have been fortunate in the past!
I had one like this too-it was hell.
A lot of people sugest a sling,but I also found a battery operated bouncy seat to be brilliant.

Not sure what you mean about affecting your milk supply.
The more you feed,the more your breasts are stimulated to produce.

Sympathies,it is bloody hard isn't it?

A cranial osteopath is worth a visit too.

I would certainly get a sling

I would also feed him as much and as often as he seems to want - your supply will adjust quickly to meet the demand

If he seems unsettled and fussy in the evenin that is probably because about 90% of all babies are more unsettled and fussy in the evening - it doesn't mean your supply is no good

Keep at it, hold him a lot, feed him a lot, it will pass. Call in all offers of help with your other children and moan on here a lot when you get a chance.

Agree with DrFrankenzoey. Take the quietest option! (I was going to say the easy option, but nothing's easy when you've got 3 children and a miserable 10 week old!)

Good luck, I hope this phase goes quickly!

Sling. Definitely. A pouch sling as they're so damn simple.

BabyDragon lived in her Magic Sling of Sleep.

Thank you i have a sling and that does help its just sometimes i want to put him down for a bit of space. Hes a sleep now thanks to the hoover.

I have also been considering the osteopath too, especially the past few days. he was a c section baby though which is easier for them i thought. He laid transverse the whole pregnancy and came three weeks early as my placenta broke down. Would any of this affected him do you think?

After 3 ohers i cant belive i still have so many questions??? My pouch sling is great thanks Soupy

Once he's tucked in the pouch, you can turn your attention to your other children as it's hands free (and all snuggly, but that's just a bonus).

BabyDragon is/was by far the worst of the 3 children I have

You poor thing. I know how wearing this can be. It sounds as if he's like my DS (17 weeks tomorrow). He just wants to held because that's what he wants. He has been like it since birth and it seems to just be his temperament. No doubt it makes him feel safe. There isn't a magic remedy. I've used a sling (a Hugabub, which is excellent) and have also learned to do lots of things one-handed. I'm just hoping he will be a bit less like it once the world around him engages him more. He spent a happy 15 minutes lying on a blanket on the floor and exploring some toys this morning - perhaps the beginning of this process! Good luck.

I second the cranial osteopath suggestion. Try to get a recommendation. I'm sure if you tell mumsnet where you live someone will know someone fairly close by.
Good luck Mrsmaddyd. Hope things get better soon.

Not sure if laying transverse, placenta breaking down and emergency c section would have anything to do with but had all these with ds. I did comfort him by feeding (not sure if he was always feeding but it did comfort him and you won't run out.)

Hope this phase doesn't last long x

Ok i have an appointment tomorrow at 12 with a osteopath so we will see if they can shine a light. I know babies do cry alot but i just cant possibly carry or feed as constantly as i have been doing as its unfair on the toddlers.

Ill let you know how i get on. Thank you for all your advice

Hi Mrs, you're far more experienced at all this than me but I'm going to offer my tuppence worth anyway.
I have one ds (3) and we had very similar problems and I can't recommend a visit to a cranial osteopath strongly enough. It's also worth bearing in mind that it may take a few treatments before there are any longterm benefits.

I was also told, by an osteopath, that a Caesarean is harder on the baby as the whole squeezing and manipulating done when they come through the birth canal actually irons out many problems.
I know from bitter experience that you have to see a cranial osteopath and not a chiropractor or non-cranial osteopath. The Sutherland Society has a searchable database of cranial osteopaths.

Sorry for the long post but hopefully things will ease soon x

Sorry, cross posted

Thanks for the link Rabbit. Im just printing it so i can read whilst feeding, it looks like it can answer all my questions.

Blimey that link really helps. He defiantley doesnt like lying on his back and he fusses when fed too. Im feeling quite positive now about seeing the osteopath.

Both my boys were the same when they were babies. Its a nightmare isn't it! I took them both to a cranial osteopath and it was amazing the difference in them. We also found that a hairdryer had an amazing effect in stopping them crying, probably like your hoover. My husband and I had a hairdryer each side of the bed at night and used to take it in turns to switch them on when nothing else would settle them. Mad but you will do anything for a bit of sleep.

Good luck with the osteopath. If you are anywhere near Leeds, I know a great one.

Glad the link was useful, osteopathy really helped us and still does

Laughing heartily at the idea of turning the hairdrier on in the middle of the night And completely supportive as I would have done that without thinking if it would have helped!

On the hairdryer/hoover theme, you can actually download, free, white noise tracks from the internet... we used to play it to our DD to help her get to sleep sometimes. Weird, but works for some!

hehehe

having had two erm ... "demanding" babies I completely sympathise

I also want to shout I TOLD YOU IT WAS IMPOSSIBLE TO MAKE THEM HAPPY!!!!

Agree with the white noise. We had a tape from WH Smiths called Sleeptime or something for dd2, it worked like a switch - screaming one second asleep the next.
We copied it and kept one in the car, one for the bedroom and one on a Fisher Price cassette player for the garden, going round Lakeside etc.
Much more portable than a hoover!

Hi Mrs - flippin hell it must be something about 4th children, the others were much easier. The hoover seems to work with DS2 as well, but just the other week my mum picked a free cd from elc (under the sea i think??) and he loves yellow submarine and 5 little starfish.. and of our baby carrier has been used farrrr more this time than the other 3 put together