new baby different father following divorce

[starbucks]

hi all, am new to mn and looking for some advice and chat...am a divorced single mum of 3, all are under 6 yrs old. Have been seeing a lovely new bf for several months now, he is older than me and has no kids of his own, so although we are not at the baby-making stage at the moment - one day this will become important and it's already bothering me. Does anyone have any experience of starting a new family like this, how much did it affect your first kids and did your new bf treat "his" baby any differently?

Starbucks- I think it all depends on the situation. I have 3 kids from a previous marriage and have remarried to a man that has no children of his own. My ex is completely out of the picture and has nothing to do with my children, so they consider their step-father their actual father. They all get along great at the moment( none of the your not my father you cant tell me what to do stuff yet) Of course they are still young (all 12 and under) so that may come or may not. Depends on the situation, but it takes alot of working through. Your BF does not have children of his own, so it will be hard for him at first suddenly having a ready made family. You both will need to communicate and work together on your differences and sometimes he might need a break from it all( like a night out on his own) Wish you all the best and lots of happiness for you and your children.

LadyDooM - thanks for the advice...do you and your partner have kids together? My ex hubby is pretty much out of the picture, he pops in for 10 mins once every 3-4 months but i am guessing that over time this will turn into not coming at all.

No I had tubal ligation after my last child. My husband is ok with this, and has said 3 is plenty. He considers My children, Our children.

I have one child from previous marriage and one with my partner. As my DD sees her father regularly, she doesn't consider my partner to be her father - she calls DP by his name, and my son calls him Daddy. Not a problem. He treats them fairly, but slightly differently which seems fine to me as both children have a father who loves them. If he's a good man he'll have no problem I'm sure.