Should you tell a friend's kid off?

[lolalou]

Does anyone have a friend who makes them feel inadequate?
My son 2.5 is quite a gentle soul who is terrorised by my friends kid 1.5 - who snatches, pushes etc. Because of the age difference I feel like I have to always tell my child off when a scuffle kicks off and encourage him to share etc while reminding him that my friends child is just a baby. My friend meanwhile remains silent and never reprimands her child. Am made to feel like my child is a bit of a wuss although I don't wantto start encouraging him to snatch/push back! When my own child was 1.5 if he snatched i always made him give it back. Got to the stage now where my child doesn't want to play at my friends house which is a bit awkward as she is a close friend.
Got the feeling that my child recognises the unfairness of it all ie: he gets told off but not the other child. Any tips?

My DD got to 18 months without being told off for picking on the bigger ones, and we have had another hell 18 months trying to get both them and her to understand that she can't get away with murder now

We are trying more distraction now DS has come along - so that he is learning from day one that he doesn't get to keep all the toys, but not telling him off because he is a baby.

I think we went from DD getting away with everything, to distraction, to telling off once she was older. Does that make sense?

Unfortunately it was probably easier for us because it was MY DD who was the younger and I could see her being mean iyswim.

Oh, and who is to say that Lolalou isn't friends with a goat??? Very rude to judge without all the facts...

Yes I agree definitely easier to be objective when the two children concerned are your own.
Distraction is a good idea. We have tried that - but my LO always seems to come off the worse for that as he is always the one having to give up his toy that he was playing quite happily with up to the point it was snatched out of his hand!..so he can now sense that when my friend's child comes to play there will be trouble! Seems a shame cos like you said at the end of the day he is only a baby himself trying to learn the complicated rules of the grown up world - so he can't understand why my friend's child won't share and I am always expecting HIM to share. Taking FortyP advice and PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE when he does

also will take Blu's advice and broach it with my friend cos I am really getting to the stage where it's just easier NOT meeting them because it always ends in tears. Time to be brave I think!