Lets get Nutty a house .......The battle has started but i'm not sure how to handle it ??

[Nutcracker]

Right as most of you know, there is currently a 4 bed house empty on the estate i live on. I cannot say how much it would mean to me and my family if we were to get the house. Unfortunatly it looks as though we won't get it, as we only have 3 kids and the house has an extra box room ( yeah i know, bags of room).
I am quite angry about the fact that none of my other circumstances seem to be being taken into account (medical poiunts, terrible neighbours e.t.c).
I know a lot about the ins and outs of what has gone on with this house and know that the official eviction is on wednesday (although the house has been empty for weeks). From wednesday the house will officially belong to Sanctuary again (although they will deny it again).
I need to let them know that i am not going to give up on this without a fight and put all of my points across without dropping the estates manager in it (he's told me lots of stuff he shouldn't). I know that there has been lies told, deadlines changed and generally alot of crap told to me about this house to put me off.
I have a very good position on the list and if the house was 3 bed i am pretty sure i would have got it without a fight.
The estates manager has requested that the H/A put a sympathetic tennant in the house so thsat they don't end up with the probs they had before. He has said that we are perfect for the house in terms of that we are very good tennants e.t.c

Am just not sure where to start really, and i'm getting stressed about it. I know my chances are very slim but i can't sit back and do nothing.

How's it going???
Thinking of you xxx

I have just called them and..............

"the house is still not empty:

What complete B***S. Thing is i can't say how i know that it's now back in their posession because i'll get that person in to trouble.

I can't really complain either yet because i can't tell them half the stuff i know.

God why does this have to be soooo hard. I don't want a mansion i just want a bloody house, even a crappy one.
Dp is all ready to go into their offices and have it out with them. I've told him not too though, as they won't let him talk to anyone, and he'll just make things worse.

I feel quite ill now, keep getting pains in my chest, and nearly cried cos the co-op hadn't got any mushrooms.

I really feel like punching someone.

Twinkie - I noticed that they have been making large donations to charity aswell. All well and good but there are people on this estate waiting for repairs to be done e.t.c.

I can sense your frustration. Can you not write them a letter and hand deliver it to the office rather than try it verbally and risk losing it with them ? If you argue with them you will give them reason not to hear what you have to say and you do have valid points to make.

Yeah i could, just not sure i've got the energy to fight them any more.

It's the first thing i think of when i wake up and goes around my head all night.
I won't go on holiday cos i'm paranoid that a house will become empty and they'll give it to someone else.
I won't decorate this place cos i think it's not worth it if we'll be leaving.
I'm sick of telling my kids that we will get a house one day. I don't belive it myself so why should they.

I know i put way too much emphisis on what was supposed to be going on today, but it was all the hope i had. Yet they still can't be honest with me, and put me out of my misery.

My Dd2 (4) has just shown me all the piccies she drew at nursery today. The biggest one was a house. I asked her who lived there and she said "me, you, daddy, Harry and Lolly. She said i was going to draw the swing and the slide that we will be having but i didn't know how.

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so sorry nutty - but good idea from twiglett
Can our resident journo's help?

I used to work for a media monitoring company, they read all papers and extract comments relating to the client, Sanctuary are one of their clients, so anything in the press will get back to their pr folks and dealt with, if it is an unfair tenancy that takes the house over you nutty, kick up a hoopla, trust me they notice
good luck, I had trouble today with finding mushrooms? Is this a national crisis?

oh Nutty - your DD bought tears to myeyes so god knows how you feel

Pleasse gather together your last shreads of strength - we will all help you on here - Get the complaints package, write that letter, copying in chief exec etc, also ALL local papers, MP
I will and I know others will, help you all we can. Despite the typo/grammer errors on here I am quite good at putting a letter of compalint together - if you want to Email me the chronological facts I'll give it a go tomorrow..
Can i help by looking up all local papers in your area?
Please please fight - don't let them grind you down. You are not asking for the earth just a small house to live in and a tiny patch of green for a swing and slide - I feel very very wound up about this....
Thinking of you...

Thanks everyone, you are all so kind.

I do not believe the conversation i have just had on IM with dp's brother.

At the mo he lives in a 3 bed house with his partner and 3 kids. She is disabled and he did work but has now decided not to, and is caliming careers allowence.
They have moved god knows how many times in the last 5 years, always becuase there kids have fought with neighbours kids and caused trouble.
Anyway, he said that they may be moving to Wales soon. Apparently he just rang a couiple of H/A's and because of his dp's disability there are virtually garunteed a house soon.
The thing is, they don't need to move, the h/a they are with have offerd to adapt the house they are in. Truth is they have fell out with neighbours yet again.
He said if they don't get anything with a H/A they will rent privatly rent. There deposit would be paid ad they don't work.
He said we should do the same. When i said dp wouldn't get a transfer to wales with work, he said well thats why you haven't been offered anything. If you wern't so moral about things you could have given up your job ages ago and then you'd get anything. Everyone does it here apparently he said.

I was sooo mad with him. A) how could he be so insensitve and B0 we don't want to claim benefits that we don't need, just to get a house.

He said that our kids won't thank us for leaving them living here for so long.
I said well your kids won't thank you for moving them around every 5 minutes, just because you can't get on with your neighbours.

He didn't reply again.

Sorry that was a bit of a rant, i'm just so angry today.
I said to dp, they will probably shove some other poor sod down the list in Wales cos they'll say they need to move cos they are being harrassed.

oh nutty, thats so unfair
Let it wash over you, he is being a wanker and you are doing your very best for your family

I'm just so sick of it all.
I really don't want to rent privatly but i might have to which will mean saving up for a deposit and then paying far more than we can afford in rent every month.
They will get their deposit paid and then their rent too.

It just all seems so wrong, how do they keep getting away with it.

Nutcracker - I haven't read the whole of this thread but I gather you are having trouble getting moved to another property. I am having problems with my council about my flat and it has been going on for 2 years now. Recently I'd finally had enough and went to Citizens Advice. They were very helpful and wrote a letter on my behalf to my housing manager who has previously fobbed me off. Well today I had a visit from someone from the council's legal section and the outstanding work is going to be carried out as a priority. If only they had listened to me before or if I had sought legal help before. I didn't want to get a solicitor as I didn't really know if I had a case against them ans also like yourself we have to pay for everything. Good luck with getting the help you need. I will spend some time reading the rest of this thread now!

Thanks Kid, thats a good suggestion, i never thought of asking them for help. We also thought of contacting a soliciter but can't afford it really.
Hopefully they would be able to make the H/A respond to my questions and quereies.
I will ring them tommorow and see what i can sort out.

Nutty - do you get housing benefit?

Nope. We asked if we would get help with the rent if we rented privatly, and they said possibly, but we wouldn't find out until we moved in, and obviously if we didn't then get help we'd be stuck.

Plus finding landlords that will accept someone on even part HB is hard.

Why do you ask SG ???

We are going to view a house tomorrow but it is HA and the rent is much higher than we are paying now. Do you know how I'd find out about housing benefit? DH works full time and I work part time.

Are you a council tennant now ??

We are on the council waiting list and they sent me some forms which you fill in to see if you MAY be entitled to HB.
TBH if you are both working i'd be very surprised if you'd get it.
My dp's ex wife lives in a HA house and she works full time, and doesn't get any help with the rent.

As far as i know, someone assesses the house to see if it is the right size for you ie; if you have any more bedrooms than you need or perhaps a seperate living and dining room then they refuse to pay because they say you don't actually need a property that big.

Good luck anyway, have you been waiting long for a house ??

Yes I am a council tenant. We have been on the transfer list for a 3 bedroom for 2 1/2 years. I have DD (5) and DS (2). I am currently 326th on the transfer list!!!
We just want a 3 bedroom property, doesn't have to be a house. I'll ask for a form, won't do any harm applying