wedding present ideas for sad situation

[hovely]

My aunt (fit and glamorous, in her 60s) and her partner (sporty, business man type) have decided to get married. But the reason they have decided is because he is very seriously ill and probably has only months left.
They have said 'no presents'. I would like to do something for them which would not make things even harder. Any ideas?
I thought about planting a tree, but it seems a bit too much like a memorial IYSWIM. A plant in a pot could be nice, but to be honest I doubt that my aunt will have time to take care of it over the next months.

How incapacitated is he? Could you buy them tickets to something, a play, a show, something like that?

A garden bench
Naming a star
Adopting an animal
Sponsor a child in Africa

Yes definitely some sort of treat they can both enjoy - if he is up to it maybe a few family members could club together to arrange a nice weekend somewhere?

oh how sad and happy all at the same time

what about a voucher for a lovely restaurant? (if he is well enough to eat out that is)

or a photo album for wedding snapshots?

or a photoframe?

a dvd of their favourite film?

they sound like a lovely couple

Sponsor an animal / child ??

I don't think a commemmorative thing is out of order. Is there anything related to their hobbies that would fit? A donation to an appropriate charity?

see here

friends of ours who dont want wedding gifts have set up a donation thing here

www.justgive.org

Something from Good Gifts ?

thanks, these are all lovely ideas.

I am not very sure of their tastes for shows, plays etc, so I could look into getting a voucher.

They had chickens (oxfam) for Christmas last year and were pleased, so those gifts are a good idea.

and a photo album would be something to keep.

How about soemthing from here
Can give all sorts from chickens and cows to water pumps and all sorts.

Bum.....here

Oh give up www.greatgifts.org

I posted that link already, but I didn't want to interfere when you were trying so hard...

Actually (D'oh) I didn't post it. I meant to add "or Great Gifts" but apparently I didn't.

Oh, I am covered in shame now

Greatgifts is a fab site - I got lots of christmas prezzies from there last year but if you want a non-Christian alternative Oxfam do something similar here

have had several 'no presents' weddings recently (none as sad as this though ) - gifts of wine have gone down well as it's a luxury that doesn't clutter up the house in the long term.
Appreciate it may not be compatible with mediciation etc in this case but thought it was worth mentioning.

Have not read the thread only OP but something I thought of for somebody lately... making a scrap book of the run-up to the wedding (planning hen/stag night etc) slightly different for me as they were just a 'normal' couple and also was bridesmaid so very easy to be in the know/gather photo's etc...

perhaps you could make some sort of scrapbook/diary of events.

Or maybe you could compile a photos album

or tell their story via a photo album and splash out of the album itself..

will read thread now (apologies in advance if not appropraite)

If money is no option could you treat them to a weekend in a hotel/health farm?

Is Red Letter Days still going ?
You might buy an "experience", a flying lesson, drive a tank, go to the opera or something like that ?

Feel better now Lemon

How about a pair of married goats from Oxfam unwrapped? That's romantic and does good work.

hahaha at married goats!

the flower meadow or bluebell wood looked quite romantic
or a beehive

sadly I don't think he is up to anything like flying or driving a tank.

Thanks again for such great ideas