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Is your 2nd born generally healthier than your Precious First Born?

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SoupDragon · 25/10/2006 12:49

DS2 is far less inclined to be sick or catch illnesses than DS1. I wonder if it's because my standards of germ paranoia with my neglected 2nd born were far lower than with my PFB.

BabyDragon will have the constitution of an ox!

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eldestgirl · 25/10/2006 12:53

Not really. Poor DS2 cops all the nasty bugs which DS1 brings back from school. DS1 seems to be quite tough, a sort of stealth bug carrier as I only know something is going around DS1's school when DS2 gets a fever.

fuzzywuzzy · 25/10/2006 12:57

yes, and she's less picky with what she eats.

it's all my fault I spent ages pureeing and feeding pfb with only the finest fruit and veg, dd2 got exactly what we ate minus the salt, and slightly less spiced.

But I also spent a lot longer exclusively bf dd2 (I think that does have something to do with it tbh), I gave up bf dd1 much earlier than I was really happy with.....

tortUREoisechamber · 25/10/2006 13:00

All of mine seem quite healthy. The youngest two seem to get more coughs and colds but we (luckily) seem to miss the tummy bugs.

suedonim · 25/10/2006 14:05

I wish. Ds2 had terible asthma, always had coughs and colds. Then he developed migraine as well. Thank goodness he grew out of it all eventually. But dd2, the youngest of my four, is the healthiest one of them all, even though she looks quite fragile. Her darling siblings say it's because she's always dirty which gives her a layer of protection against the germs.

schneebly · 25/10/2006 14:06

Nah - I was always a lazy slattern with the germ thing!

TwigTwoolett · 25/10/2006 14:06

No I failed to catch PFB syndrome due to laid back Irish DH

LadyMuck · 25/10/2006 14:09

Alas no. I recently looked back at my diary and realised quite how much vomit and bugs were involved in ds2's first year. He's better since but certainly not healthier.

But Soupy, as a younger sister to 2 elder drgons, your dd will need to have a strong constitution!

lle1971 · 25/10/2006 14:09

DD2 got all her coughs colds etc earlier than DD1 had done as DD1 brought them all home from nursery.

Now DD2 seems a lot more resilient (visits to doctor are far fewer- or is that because I'm a more confident mother second time around?) and seems to get illnessses more mildly eg stomach bugs, chicken pox than DD1. (Touching wood)
Also much much less picky with her food, far more willing to try new things. Much more confident and independent all round(but this may just be a different personality).

Bozza · 25/10/2006 14:13

I think overall we have had an easier time with DD. But I don't think it can entirely be put down to PFB. DS has had 4 operations for instance and DD has had none.

Although DD got chicken pox much more seriously than DS did. But probably wouldn't have caught it had she been the firstborn - DS picked up at nursery and this was before DD had started nursery.

And has spent a night in hospital - but that was entirely due to being neglected second born - DH was out, I was feeling quite rough with a cold, DS left the gate open, DD fell down the stairs.

Kidstrack · 25/10/2006 14:16

in my case yes my ds now 7 my first was born with renal pelvis dilatation and a skin condition called keratosis pilaris, he then developed asthma and eczema, he ended up on inhaler and steroids and had to take anti biotics for nearly 2yrs for his swollen kidney, he got all sorts of colds and viruses and his doctors record would prob read like a book, when he was 4 he took HSP after a viral infection it look like the men c rash. Dd on the other hand has had a few colds and high temperature, she has no doctors record.

Greensleeves · 25/10/2006 14:19

No, he was very ill indeed when he was tiny. He's just as precious as ds1 too (don't really "get" the whole PFB thing)

Bozza · 25/10/2006 15:07

I think it is really the parents of first borns that are "precious" TBH rather than the child. And, of course, it is a vast generalisation.

TwigTwoolett · 25/10/2006 15:09

I can't believe people don't see the PFB syndrome

it pops up on here ALL the time

ledodgywizardrobespierre · 25/10/2006 15:11

No dd was an april baby and didn't get a cold till she was 9 months, ds was born in November and has had about 10 colds since he was born.

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SoupDragon · 25/10/2006 15:19

Greeny, you're misinterpreting the PFB thing. It's not that subsequent children are less precious, it's that the parents realise their baby won't die if they fail to wipe their hands or sterilise every toy/spoon/bowl, or if they go out in their PJs and with a dirty nappy because you're running late...

also, if 30 5 year olds had approached my PFB when he was 4 days old and breathed over him and poked their fingers at him I wold have fended them off with a broom. DD OTOH was indeed poked and prodded by 30 reception age children at 4 days old and I just watched proudly as they cooed over her...

DS2 got lots of coughs/colds quicker than DS1 but has not had anywhere near the amount of stomach bugs/upset tummies as DS1. I can't actually remember the last one . DD has had a cold since the summer which I put down to the aforementioed 30 reception aged children....

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Kidstrack · 25/10/2006 18:22

god i'm thick i just realised what PFB mean't actually didn't know till i came back to the thread, actually i have never thought of ds in that way of being my PFB, because i just thought of him being precious and then i had my dd who is also precious so now i have my PFB & my P2ndB

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