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School reunion - thought it didn't bother me....

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muddaofsuburbia · 21/04/2004 18:31

But it does It's 10 years this summer since I left school. I went to a fairly famous and incredibly academically inclined independent school. I really enjoyed school at the time, but I'm now doing the predictable panic over what-the-hell-have-I-done-with-my-life thing.

Unless everyone is lying on Friends Reunited, then my class have all gone on to earn stacks, travel the world and get every Phd and Masters under the sun.

How can I stop this irrational jealousy?

And if it's not irrational - any tips for giving myself a makeover by June??

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hercules · 21/04/2004 18:31

Lie?

Tinker · 21/04/2004 18:43

Don't go? My idea of hell (well, one of them)

hercules · 21/04/2004 18:43

I wouldnt go either unless I had lots to show off about.

stamford · 21/04/2004 18:57

Don't be put off!! It's probably a load of exaggeration and even if it isn't, then so what?? They may be worth megabucks but are they happy (I think this is more important!!)? Have they got adorable kids like you (I'm guessing you have some, being on here and all!).

I have many mates earning a fortune and doing what they want but plenty of them are very jealous of the fact that I have 2 great kids and a loving husband. All that money and success isn't always as great as it sounds. I often hear people say that they wished they had kids when I did and taken a career break etc. Go and hold your head up high!!

CountessDracula · 21/04/2004 19:10

Oh soddem is what I say! I never went to any of mine, but my SIL who went to St Paul's Girls went to hers and nearly everyone else was a rocket scientist or investment banker, she was a single mum on the dole!

They all had a great time including SIL - you will surely all revert back to school ways and no-one will even think about what you do after 5 mins.

Miriam2 · 21/04/2004 19:11

I went to a school reunion last year, and panicked a lot beforehand. But do you know, in the whole evening, no-one asked me what I did, if I had kids etc etc, it was all spent reminiscing about teachers, school trips, boyfriends, you name it. What you are today didn't matter one bit. (Copious amounts of wine helped) Of course it helps to look brill when you arrive as people take photos, but by the end of the evening, we all looked...tired and emotional!

littlemissbossy · 21/04/2004 19:12

I agree with Stamford - so what if they're supposedly loaded/successful ... yes money helps in life but it does not bring instant happiness. I hate to say it, but look at Posh and Becks. They probably have more money than all the members of mumsnet put together ... but not exactly happy are they? Try not to be jealous ... and if you are ... well then yes, lie ... you could tell them you're a porn star

katierocket · 21/04/2004 19:12

CD is right - I went mine and within about half an hour everyone had reverted to type. Complete with dodgy 80s dancing! Most of the stuff on FR is exagerated bull anyway.

roisin · 21/04/2004 19:48

I went to a reunion and everyone else had very successful careers, pots of dosh, nice cars, etc. ... we didn't. And I came away feeling so reaffirmed and utterly contented with my situation, as they all mostly came across as being unfulfilled and miserable, despite all the signs of 'success'.

roisin · 21/04/2004 19:48

'all' ... 'mostly' ...?! Apologies to the grammar pedants!

Miriam2 · 21/04/2004 19:52

And the brilliant thing was boys you had fancied aged 16 and were jelly-like about before the reunuion, were podgy, balding, middle-aged ...but still really nice and more normal than they'd been at school, everyone has their hangups...go for it, you need never see then again EVER

CountessDracula · 21/04/2004 20:02

Oh we didn't have boys May have been more inclined to go if we had

Actually the only reason I didn't go was that whenever there was one for my year I happened to be abroad

collision · 21/04/2004 20:14

I think you should go. Get your hair done and buy something new to wear and just be yourself. My BF at school and I never had any desire to be highflying career people and just wanted to be happy and have children. Everyone thought we were weird.....now, 17 years on we are both very happily married with children and all our friends are in their 30's with jobs they dont like and are worried their biological clock is ticking! Chat about the great things in life and your children.......I bet you have a great time.

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muddaofsuburbia · 22/04/2004 10:49

Thanks everyone! I think you're right about the happiness thing - I suspected as much myself, but I wanted others to say it too!

Out of a 6th form class of 90, as far as I know only me and one other girl have children and maybe half a dozen are married.

I will go and I'll go armed with photos of ds. But I also think I should spalsh out on something nice to wear and a hairstyle. Don't think I've ever had a "style"!

As for seeing the guys I fancied - now I'd forgotten about that side of things....

I just keep having Romy and Michelle dance routine nightmares...

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juniper68 · 22/04/2004 10:56

Glad to hear you're going. I have one at the beginning of May for my comprehensive. We've been left 20 years though. It'll be a mixed bag of people and I can't wait I see a few of them now and again. I had an email recently from a guy who went to school with me telling me how much he liked me at school. Hope he's there but just for the flattery of course. I told him I'm happily married with 2 kids so he should behave himself

Kayleigh · 22/04/2004 11:04

I went to my 20 year reunion 7 months pregnant !
Had an absolute ball, it was a great laugh. No boys though as an all girls school
Probably why I left at 16 as soon as I could, which was pretty much unheard of there as it was expected you would stay on do A levels and then go to university. I was a bit of a rebel

motherinferior · 22/04/2004 11:07

R&M is a fab film, though. And has a happy ending.

I would quite like to go to a school reunion to prove that I am no longer the incredibly well-behaved respectable girly I once was

Sari · 22/04/2004 11:11

They may not all be married with kids now if you only left 10 years ago. But I bet that within a few years most of them will be doing one or the other or both, or desperately trying to.

juniper68 · 22/04/2004 11:13

lmao @ motherinferior.

thing is I've hardly changed behaviour wise

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