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Rant about neighbours

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kando · 19/04/2004 11:36

I've just come back from the shops to see my neighbour's daughter (about 19) pulling up in her car (on their drive) but with half her car parked on my lawn. OK, slight exaggeration as it's only the front wheel of her car, and a bit of the back wheel, but ... As she was just going into her house I asked her if she would mind moving her car, but she just completely ignored me and went into her house. Seeing red, I went straight round there, knocked on the door and rang the bell, but she refused to answer.

This isn't the first time she's done this, and I've asked her before not to do it but she just ignores me. We're not on speaking terms with any of the family (and only 2 other people on the close speak to them). Should I speak to her mother about this (who will probably just ignore me too!) or should I write a letter to her? I've also taken a photo of the car as it was parked (as I was soooo angry). Or should I just let it go?

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StripyMouse · 19/04/2004 11:40

What nasty piece of work - and so rude too. No wonder you are fuming. Can you speack to her parents about it rather than her?
How about putting a boundary to stop her doing it - a low half log fence thing or some stones etc. If you are feeling really fed up how about a little sign saying "keep of the grass!" or "no parking, private property!" - that should irritate her.
Alternatively, maybe you need to get "less accurate" with your parking too!

Flip · 19/04/2004 11:52

Kando - what other incidents have occured to make you angry about this one? I assume that there must be others because slightly parking on someone elses property is only a minor offence.

Maybe you are more pissed off about previous problems because you say that no one speaks to them. If that is the case all the little things will irritate you to.

I have neighbours who have caused uproar in our street and I've even been a witness in court to them assaulting another one of my the neighbours sons who is mentally disabled (36 with a mental age of 8). Everything they do no matter how trivial now infurriates me.

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kando · 19/04/2004 11:57

Thanks SM! I'd love to be less accurate with my parking (wouldn't be too difficult as I'm rubbish anyway!) but our drive is on the other side of our house. I thought about putting up a little fence too but as it's a rented house we need to ask permission and I don't think the landlord will agree (thinks very highly of the mother). If it gets any worse I may suggest it to landlord. It's only the daughter and her mum who live in the house, but perhaps I should speak to her. Need to really pluck up the courage though as I'm such a wimp about these things. (Amazed I actually said something to her this time as most times I just let it go!)

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kando · 19/04/2004 12:06

Sorry Flip, posts crossed. Yes there are other incidents, but they are all minor too. They are mostly to do with parking and cars, but they're also just very rude people. We've been blocked in our drive because of her, there have been oil spills all over the close because of her leaky old cars which she's never bothered to clean up; she and her mates throw their fag ends in the gravel part of my garden; her mate has parked her moped on my garden too. I know they are all really trivial and petty things for me to get worked up about, but the fact that she parked on the lawn right in front of me and then ignored me when I asked her to move her car just made me see red. I've calmed down a bit now and will probably let it go as I don't want to start a "neighbours from hell" type scenario. I suppose it's just too much to ask for her to show a little bit of respect towards her neighbours!

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SoupDragon · 19/04/2004 12:40

Sprinkle nails on your lawn

SoupDragon · 19/04/2004 12:41

Or put a line of low "decorative" rocks along the boundary - they're not permanent so you maybe wouldn't need to speak to your landlord.

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kando · 19/04/2004 15:58

Have spoken to DH about this and have decided to write a letter. I've put a large plant pot right on the edge of my lawn but not actually on their drive - it's a heavy-duty terracotta pot. I do hope she sees it so she won't bash her car next time she tries to park on the lawn

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Babyannabel · 19/04/2004 16:00

It would be good to have one of those "stingers" that the police use - where if you drive over them then you get four flat tyres - I don't think that Halfords sell them though

HiddenSpirit · 20/04/2004 00:50

A thick piece of wood with very large nails sticking out of it would work just as well though

nightowl · 20/04/2004 01:30

I had this at my old house. We were at the front of a block of four and the access to houses at the back was via a path through our lawn (we had front and side lawn but obviously no back)it nearly drove me saft...people used to..
a: walk across our front garden.
b: walk across our front window.
c: run across our side garden.
d: park in our space.
e: neighbours not in our block would have parties and tell all their friends to park on our drive so we had nowhere to park.
f: driving schools would practise turns on our drive.
g: children would ride bikes over our lawn.

Noone seemed to realise that it was a private drive for the four houses only and not a part of the road. And guess who was the ONLY one who swept, and weeded and washed said drive.....me. Best one was the guy who lived behind. One hot day he parked his car, all four wheels on our side lawn..because it was shady. Dh went around and politely asked him to move it. He said "why? whats the problem?" aaaaaaaaaggggggggghhhhhhh. we nearly came to blows, it has to be said. After 3 years of it i was known to run outside and freak at anyone who even came near...im sure they thought i was a madwoman but i had really had enough by then!

lars · 20/04/2004 20:30

Kando, do understand it's not easy when neighbours don't consider others. Big plant pots sound just the thing. If she not good at parking she might think twice about parking her car too near to your plant pots.
We fell out with a neigbour over kids playing football on our drive,etc. Drove us mad!
Just no consideration for our cars or us. These kind of people just make me sick!!!
One thing I know is you will never change people like this they will be like it any where they live. larsxx

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kando · 21/04/2004 11:19

Thanks everyone. Plantpot still in place, and still in one piece. I popped a "polite" letter through her door yesterday morning but (surprise surprise!) no response - not that I was expecting one anyway! It's a shame there are people who are so inconsiderate, but I suppose it's just part of life! Perhaps when she gets a place of her own she'll become a bit more thoughtful (although I doubt it!)

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berries · 21/04/2004 11:54

Get a clamping company to clamp anyone illegally parked on our lawn - make sure you show a big sign though!

berries · 21/04/2004 11:55

Should, of course, have been 'your' lawn

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