Using a child's middle name in preference to their first

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Hello all, I am in a bit of a dilemma regarding my dd's name. A few months before her birth I had chosen the name I loved at the time, a first and middle name. However, being wrongly convinced I was having a boy, I didn't give it a second thought until she was born, under rather stressful circumstances a month premature. On the day of her birth, she was fine, and I was trying to decide between two names, when she started to have breathing problems and was taken down to special care. Under the circumstances I rather rushed the naming process,my DH left it to me, and now, 4 1/2 months later,although I really like both her first and second name, am beginning to feel that she better suits the middle name, rather than her first - and that I prefer it. As we have already registered the name, I have started calling her by her middle name, as well as her first. It is the name of a flower, so can be done as a term of affection But it feels a bit awkward, and naughty to do this!! My DH has expressed the wish that she be known by the first name, for ease, although he likes both names . I thought that if I continued to use both, equally, she wouldn't get confused and would be able to choose herself which name she prefers to be known by when she starts school. Any suggestions, maybe I need something else to occupy my mind with but names are important, aren't they?

I have a BIL who only has one forename. But he's always known by an entirely different name. The reason for this is that one year at school, his teacher decided it was a waste of time learning a whole new set of children's names every year. So he just learned them one year, and thereafter, whoever sat at the desk previously occupied by Andrew got called Andrew etc. But with him it just happened to stick, so he has been called someone else's name ever since!

somuchtobats, that's hilarious, what a teacher!

somuchtobats, that's hilarious, what a teacher!

My dad has always been known by the third of his 3 names & signed his cheques that way - which was fine until a few years ago his bank suddenly started insisting that he sign D instead of S. He told them that at the age of 88 there was no way he was going to change his signature & they eventually backed down.

DS really hates his 2nd name (and I think now it was a mistake)He just uses the first & 3rd - the only places all three appear are on his birth certificate & passport & his plane tickets just give the first & it seems OK - the university he's just gone to seemed to accept it.

At the school I work at, our admission form asks for given name & preferred name, which is the one we use on everything except the Sats entry - the only time it was suggested someone might want to change was a boy whose name was pronounced Harshi, but spelt with a t on the end.. the parents agreed it would be best to drop the final letter.

What nonsense was the bank trying on?! I knew a dyslexic guy who signed his cheques and everything else with a picture. As long as it was consistent it was fine. And dh and I don't sign the names on our chequebook at all. We decided to both keep our 'maiden' signatures when we got married, as it would take a ridiculously long time and a ridiculously long space to sign our double-barreled name. Never had any issues with that either.

Itwas just after the anti-laundering rules came in & a lot of banks didn't really know what they were supposed to do. I think somebody over-reacted and said - how do we know this 88 year old guy who's been a customer with this bank since 1932 isn't a money-launderer?

I would say that a large proportion of signatures are unrecognisable as words - let alone letters - mine certainly hasn't changed as a result of getting married.

I have always wished I had given my Dd2 her middle name as her first name, but she was born prem and I was rather stressed and told Xp he could go with his choice.
I do somtimes call her by both but not often.

Ds though often gets called by both together as it just suits him.

My parents both use their middle names instead of their first names.

I have never been totally sure why, I must admit I find it rather odd

Another question - if you were madly in love with your dd1's middle name but hardly ever used it, would you/ could you use it again for dd2's first name!? Wouldn't dd1 be jealous - stupid question? Thoughts please - anyone know this happen in their families?