Tips on how to avoid "THAT" mum in the playground

[horseshoe]

I met her through my daughters club and offered her a lift home a couple of times. She them put her DD in my DD's school and since then she has driven me mad. I have tried to avoid her but she waits with sweets for my DD. She sees my Sis and tells her all sorts of things and then tells me different next time I see her, her DD hits my DD in the face and she does nothing about it and now she has attempted to pick up my DD from school "as a surprise" for me. I had called the school to say I was running a couple of minutes late and she actually told them that I had asked her to pick her up. Thankfully they didn't let her go as I had not put her name down. I went mad. Please help!!

Absolutely wannabe, its the telling porkies that rings the alarm bells isn't it

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Just backing up what the others have said about speaking to the School. When I finally decided to speak to the teacher concerned in my own experience she said, without saying so in quite so many words, that they had the measure of the other Mum right from the start.

hey horeshoe - hows it going with this? seen her again?

Horseshow - I had a vaguely similar experience to this, when another Mum stalked me last year and her spooky son used to phone my DS up 10 times each night. Then, mad Mum suddenly turned nasty and started phoning me making stuff up about my DS ("he's being nasty to my LO" etc)

My advice is get our while you can. This woman sounds very unstable.

Tell your sister you think this woman is potty and ask her not to confide in potty woman. Tell the teacher that you are concerned about the woman's attempt to take your DD off without your knowledge or permission.

Meanwhile, if you can't face talking to her, you try just blanking her in the playgroud and she'll soon get the message. Each time she asks for a lift for DD, just make a different excuse. Eventualy she'll realise you are not going to give any more lifts.

OMG stalking, wierdo's, saddo's no wonder this country is in the state it is in. My nature would prefer to call it naieve.

I think there's a middle ground here between treating her as a stalker and saying 'how sweet' that she tried to pick your dd up.

NO adult with a normal grasp of things would try to take another child from school; no two ways about it, this was not sweet but simply inappropriate unless she had phoned the parent first and arranged this. If a friend had been late for their child, I might have offered to stay and play with them in school while they waited, or I would have phoned the friend...

She sounds to be honest quite socially inept and this is making her an awkward person to be around; and if social services are checking her then this is either because they are working with the family already or have had an anonymous referral; of course social services don't spot check! The fact that she thinks she can present this to you as a fact though, shows that she does have a lack of understanding of how 'normal' families operate....

she basically sounds quite needy and desperate for friends; but if you keep talking to her then I think you need to be crystal clear and tell her the rules; Don't ever pick dd up, dont give her sweets, you must do something about it when your dd hits my dd, etc; she needs boundaries I think.

But I don't think she sounds like a stalker.

Very rational post sunny.

My concern is if the school believed that she ahd permission to collect the child (and some would) then where was she going to take her? To her home?

my local primary school wont release a child to anyone else unless the parent has informed the school.