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I have not contacted a friend for a few months and she is furious with me.....

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RockTheCasbah · 11/10/2006 20:59

I stopped calling her as I found her a bit of a nightmare. She latched onto me at school and used to invite herself round. I was polite and met her a few times at the playground but every time we met, she spent the entire time talking about herself and her children ran riot, hurting mine and being total nightmares.

I decided, for my children's sake and because I didn't really feel our friendship was mutual, to cool it off a bit. Now I hear (through mutual friends) that she has been completely slagging me off - telling everyone that I might as well fall off the face of the earth, how unkind I am not to return her calls (she has left countless messages at home).

Problem is that she doesn't realise that I've had a pretty hard time of it over the last few months and tbh, didn't really fancy meeting up with someone who seemed to care not one iota for how I was feeling. Dh has now made me feel bad saying I should call her up and explain but most of me just thinks, why should I bother. Am I wrong?

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bootsmonkey · 11/10/2006 21:02

Nah, life is too short. In these cases I say look to yourself and look after your own. You really do not need the hassle.

multitasker · 11/10/2006 21:02

She doesn't sound like someone you would be happy to call a friend! I always think if a friendship is too much like hard work then its not worth bothering with. Ignore it, this time will blow over very quickly, and don't worry about DH - men are on another wave length when it comes to personal relationships!

hatwoman · 11/10/2006 21:04

no. she sounds like a complete nightmare. did you post about her when she was hassling you? I have a memory of someone for whom a school-based friend was verging on a stalking scenario

HELLisHeavenis · 11/10/2006 21:04

No your not wrong. Some friendships just run their natural life sooner than others.
Some friend she is slagging you off behind your back.

handlemecarefully · 11/10/2006 21:08

Leave it and do nothing. Nobody will take her vitriolic remarks about you seriously - they reflect badly upon her, not you

3andnomore · 11/10/2006 21:13

why do you care what she thinks anyway....it sounds like she chose you more then you chose her....iykwim!

Bucketsofbloodydinosaurs · 12/10/2006 10:24

No. Let the mutual friends who are so keen on gossip pass the message on. Anyway, people will soon understand why you don't want to know her and wish they had the courage to do the sam

Dawnybabe · 12/10/2006 10:51

I absolutly agree. Don't waste any more time worrying about this woman. Do you want her in your life? After she's not heard from you she might eventually realise that it's her own doing. People do grow apart as they get older. Put it down to experience. And let these mutual friends of yours pass on the message that you don't appreciate her behaviour and won't be returning her calls. She'll get the message, if she's got any sense at all.

RockTheCasbah · 12/10/2006 11:01

wow you have a good memory hatwoman. Yes that was me - I also posted another story about her a while back about how she left her child with me all day and the next night when she had her new baby after telling me he'd be with me for a few hours (and the child was inconsolable). I've only posted under lots of different names because it would be clear who it was if you knew me or her in real life!

I am just gobsmacked that she has been slagging me off really. There is a tiny part of me that feels bad - I hate to think that I've upset someone and she's obviously upset with me. Also, I don't live in a massive place and I will at some point bump into her. But a big part of me says life is too short to deal with people like her. I'm glad this is what most of you think!

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Bucketsofbloodydinosaurs · 12/10/2006 14:05

She's clearly a psychopath if she cannot imagine that people would be annoyed by her impositions - no empathy. Stay away!

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