Oh ffs why aren't I bloody well allowed to be ILL?

[WideWebWitch]

I had a terrible cold last week and all weekend, which has now turned into a hacking cough and, yesterday, a bad stomach ache and has left me generally feeling grim. I took yesterday off work and today, something I very rarely do, having had it drummed into me by an unsympathetic mother that you don't unless you're dying.

So, DD's nursery called yesterday pm (I was in bed, having taken vit c, ecinachea, multi vits) to say she had a temp and could I collect her. So I did, her temp was 38.5 and came down immediately with Calpol, she came home with me and was fine all afternoon. Not perfect but fine, cheerful, playing etc. She was fine overnight, woke at 5.30am as is her wont atm, whereupon I got up with her and dh slept til 7am. I've been in bed today again, dosing myself up, eating vitamins, posting here, coughing and generally hoping I'll start feeling better soon. I still got up, did breakfast for both children, looked after dd all pm yesterday (I know I'm her mother but she was FINE and I felt CRAP!) and now the nursery has called dh to say her temp is up (to 38.5 which is no big deal imo is it? I wouldn't worry if I was looking after her, Calpol maybe) and I'M PISSED OFF. Not with her, obviously, but in any case I think she's fine, but I just need to get fking better and THEN I can cope with it.

I know I'm whingeing but I just want to get better in peace and not be expected to look after everyone. DH is saying he'll collect her but clearly expects me to otherwiser he wouldn't have called me. And I'm 10 minutes away, albeit in bed and he's an hour away.

So do I deserve sympathy or a kick up the arse? I'm going to go and get her anyway, don't have much choice. Fking hell. I know we're not supposed to be ill but I bloody well am and I want everyone to just leave me alone. I suspect I'll get a kicking her for admitting to this but oh well.

No kicking from me. It's a nightmare being an ill mummy - you can't really have a 'sick day' can you - everyone neeeeeeds you and you just have to get on with it.

Much sympathy. I'm already taking vit c and multivitamins to try and avoid any lurgy - the kids are all ill atm adn I can cope with that..just so long as I'm OK!

I sympathise . It's the worst part of being a mum IMO - no-one looks after you (or even looks after the people you usually look after!) when you're ill. It's horrible having to drag yourself up and out when your body is begging to be allowed to rest and recover.

Whinge away, I would.

as mothers we are not allowed to be ill

when your dh gets a sniffle though
bet he will think it is pneumonia
and make th most of it

Poor you, yes you have my sympathy. No sick leave for mums, is there?

dh is getting her and says he will look after her so I can stay in bed. Although he is making vague 'I'm not feeling great' noises too. If he gets this I guess I'll have to be sympathetic.

My friend's dp said to her "Guess what? I've got what you had, but worse"

ooooh

sympathy and hugs (if you do them, friendly hand on shoulder if not)

is there anyne else who could possibly take dd for you so you can get some rest?

this reminds me of last year i got the most horrendous flu right at the beginning of my preg with ds and still bf-in dd. i was dying and asked dp to get up with her for me for the first time ever and he did, i still got up a few hours later and did almost everything for her, then lo and behold the next morning dp is sick. when i get mad in the afternoon when he won't get out of bed and help, and point out that i'm still sick he has the nerve to say 'but i'm worse'

Because (slap) you're a mum!

Do sympathise really though. I had temp, constant throwing up and complete inertia and still had to try and entertain dd with head down toilet bowl.

Gone are the days of hot lemsip, Bette Davis film on the sofa, and dh mopping fevered brow (sigh.....)

Definitely deserve sympathy, I feel the same!

Cough/cold over the weekend has now developed into awful headachy sinisitus. Feel s*e. I too got a call from nursery to pick up dd yesterday, she had temp of 39.6, but unlike me she was cheerful!

Last night woke up twice with horrible cough, the kind where you feel like there is something stuck and your eyes are streaming... then dd awoke needing some tlc at 3am... ahhhh.

So knackered! Feeling very very poor me I must say.

Hate being ill!

Really sympathise. My health is not the best (severe Asthma and lots of bouts of bronchitis in winter etc) There is no sick leave is there. My dh has taken time off when I am really bad, but its just a shame to lose annual leave down to that

No you aren't. Didn't you read the smallprint on the Motherhood contract?????

Tut!

What I hate is that I never get anything serious wrong - it's always just a cold or a cough or a dodgy tummy (as well as the ever present tiredness) - never flu or pneumonia or gastro-entiritis. Can't take time off from work or from kids for a bit of a sniffle .

It was ever thus for mums, WWW. Get well soon!

Poor you WWW . It's really grim being ill isn't it. I'm OK atm but my big dread every winter is being ill at the same time as the children, or actually being ill at all come to think about it !

Morning school run in the semi dark and driving rain, while feeling fluey: any takers ?! AAArgh !

Thanks for all the sympathy and for letting me whinge, I'm feeling lots better after a sleep this pm, dh looked after dd and I'm quite looking forward to going back to work tomorrow! for a rest, as they say.