Best friend's dad just died..can anyone help?

[MADDI]

My friend, Huw (who describes himself as a gay welsh dwarf, and has rather cornered the market in minorities) has just lost his dad. The funeral was today and we have only just found out as he didn't want to talk before. We have sent a letter and an e-card but would like to send a more material gift to let him know we care too. Can anyone think of anything? If it was a girl I would send flowers but I don't think he would like that.....

if you have a picture of you two together send him that with a frame and write on the back of the picture i will always be here for you i think that would be nice because after loseing his father i bet he still like to know there are still people there for him

That's a lovely thought thanks,I think I have the perfect picture too.

Sorry to hear your bad news Maddi - I would send flowers regardless of sex - it's actually the thought behind the gift that is so important. The first time I saw {{{hugs{}}}} I nearly cried 'cos I thought it said such a lot....

Choose a nice handmade card (or make your own if you are remotely arty) and tell him exactly whats in your thoughts...

Good luck

Just wanted to say sorry to hear the sad new Maddi. I lost my father last month and many people sent my brother flowers. I know this gave him some comfort at a very difficult time. Many people don't know what to say at the time and somtimes flowers say it all. larsxx

What helped get me through my dads sudden death was a weekend away overseas with a close friend. It gave me some perspective and time to think about the good things I remembered. It is probably too early for Huw yet... Also handwritten words helped me too, especially memories of my dad from people who had met him outside of the family.
Somemade me laugh, very strange but in the end therapeutic and slightly cathartic.
I do hope he is ok
xx

what about a plant?some people get upset with flowers as they too die whereas a plant is symbolic of life continuing

sorry to hesr ur news maddi, last year my best friends grandad died she was very close to him he had cancer and she looked after him untill he passed away the next day i went round with flowers,chocs and a bottle of baileys and we tallked about him for ages that seamed to help but the photo is a good idea i bought my bf a nice frame to put a photo of her grandad in it she loved it ,

could u plant a tree togther for his dad??

I think a plant is a nice idea, if he's into gardening - maybe something that will always flower at this time of year, like a magnolia or something like that.

Otherwise, just let him know you're here - I'm sure a time will come when he will want to talk.

Thanks for all your suggestions, all of them are lovely and will help.I sent him the photo and also a poem and he was really touched. You're all so thoughtful...