DH is really angry with me because I am going out on Saturday afternoon/evening without him. He?s been giving me grief about it for days now and it?s beginning to wear me down. He?s not happy because the event I am going to is a wedding to which he has not been invited and he, backed up by his bloody mother, thinks it is really weird of me to want to go without him.
It is the wedding of a work colleague who I don?t know particularly well, we don?t socialise out of work and she has never met DH. She invited me and another colleague on the same invitation. I do kind of understand why she didn?t invite our partners, it?s her big day, it?s an expensive do and she wants to spend her money on her nearest and dearest rather than people she doesn?t know. I accepted the invitation because I thought it was a kind gesture on her part to ask me, because I like her and because my other colleague wanted to go but not on her own ? we won?t know anyone else at the wedding other than the bride, the groom and each other. I also thought that dh wouldn?t mind me having a night out for once.
I very, very rarely go out at all. To be fair neither does dh. We moved up North from London 2 years ago and we don?t really have much of a social life up here as yet. However, he goes back to London on occasion to stay with friends for the weekend usually if there is a gig on or something and last year he went to Morocco for 3 nights to celebrate a friend?s birthday. I am totally supportive of him going off and doing things on his own but he just can?t seem to extend that same courtesy to me.
He is never horribly possessive although there is a hint of possessiveness in him. It hasn?t reared its ugly head for a long time. The last time was when we first met 7 years ago and I had to go to two evening events that I had organised for clients as part of my job. He could not attend, nobody?s partners could and he made me feel like shit about it. In his eyes I was trying to hurt him and had some hidden agenda or was planning to cheat on him or something. I have no idea. He just wasn?t being rational and quite frankly that?s how he?s behaving now about this wedding. I am feeling so weakened by him that I am beginning to think that I am wrong for accepting the invitation. I am also now no longer looking forward to going because I know I will sit there throughout feeling guilty.
Am I doing the wrong thing? Should I have said no to this wedding invitation? Sorry this is so long and rambly but I am just so confused. It should be so simple, all I want to do is go out for the night.