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yes or no?

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jampots · 04/10/2006 22:52

my inlaws are heading back to spain next week - they;ve been here since May. theyve booked a 7am flight and want to stay at ours the night before with dh taking them to teh airport for 5am. we have no spare beds or bedroom and since they last forced themselves on us weve changed our sofa to a leather corner unit so sleeping even on the sofa would be challenging at best. anyway, dh and i have discussed it and ive said no on the basis that in the 4.5 months theyve been here they havent taken teh children out at all, spent more than 5 minutes with them, invited us over for a meal despite inviting many of their friends and coming to us for dinner, and not babysitting at all. as many of you know they are only good for giving cash and writing cheques and its my opinion they should check into a hotel on teh airport complex and do what they do best - write a cheque for a nights stay. dh doesnt want them here either but soimply cannot say no to his mum. so, what would you do?

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cowmod · 04/10/2006 22:52

paragraphs jammy

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jampots · 04/10/2006 22:54

sorry

miss

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hermykne · 04/10/2006 22:54

i'd say no and tbh my inlaws or mother wouldnt put that upon us out of consideration for the kids so its a no and stay in a hotle

hairymclary · 04/10/2006 22:55

i would say to them that they can stay if they want but that you really don't have anywhere comfy to sleep and it'll be cushions on the floor or something.
find a local b&b, or get prices for airport hotel and ask if they wouldn't be happier there

QueenEvil · 04/10/2006 22:57

I'd say something along the lines of....it just isn't possible to sleep everyone comfortably so sorry but no they can't.

tbh I would be more inclined too if they had shown more of an active interest in your lives....seems tehy are just using you tbh.

nannyme · 04/10/2006 23:09

Say no. But you do it so dh doesn't wimp out of it.

Oh, and don't let this become a habit like it is with my OH! (The not-taking responsibility, that is!)

jasper · 04/10/2006 23:35

I would say yes because they are your husband's parents.
I can't see that them not having taken your kids out is relevant.

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jampots · 04/10/2006 23:43

its not directly relevant i guess but i feel that they expect it and indeed tell dh that they should stay because they are his parents. of course they are also our childrens only grandparents and feel that if they had more then just a passing interest in their lives then i would feel like being more accomodating. that said we dont have a spare bedroom or bed in any event whether they have an interest in their only grandchildren or not.

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BadHair · 04/10/2006 23:43

I'd go for the, "Of course you'd be welcome, but you'd be far more comfortable in an hotel", spiel. Stress the lack of beds and how the sofa isn't suitable etc.
Cheeky blighters for asking!

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jampots · 04/10/2006 23:46

luckily theyve stopped asking if they can come ot christmas dinner and stay with us for 10 days - aarrgghh

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SherlockLGJ · 04/10/2006 23:47

Tell them they are welcome...............

But do they prefer sofa cushions or an air bed, your only reservations about your airbeds being they are sooooooooooo old and they tend to deflate in the middle of the night.

That should fix 'em.

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jampots · 04/10/2006 23:49

just made a pact with dh that if his parents do indeed stay against my better wishes then the children can each have a friend to sleep over too as MIL cant bear extra children in the house indeed neither can dh

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SherlockLGJ · 04/10/2006 23:51

Right I am off

I would like to point out that I am here late because QV is back from holidays, I was in bed early for the last few weeks. Such a bad influence.

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