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Arguement with a posh pair over a parking space-just received a letter from the police...

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Megglevampire · 03/10/2006 15:58

Honestly, some people have too much time on their hands.

We were parked up an aisle in August waiting patiently for a space then one appeared-we were just about to drive into it when Mr & Mrs shiny big chelsea tractor overtook and attempted to take the space- the guy who was leaving didn't actually leave as he was trying to let us have the space (he could see that we were waiting) Dh jumped out and said "excuse me we were waiting for that space for 10 minutes" and was told by Mr & Mrs Chelsea tractor "well go and wait somewhere else for another then".

10 minutes later dh and the twots were still argueing about it whilst I slipped into the space and walked ds out and went for a coffee

Dh has rung me to tell me that he has had a letter from the crime unit. The woman is alleging that Dh was a really aggressive big black man who was thretening to beat her and her husband and kids up if they didn't leave the shopping mall.

Bonkers, crazy bonkers. The PC even said that the woman was insistant that the PC come to our house and arrest dh
?????

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TwigTwoolett · 03/10/2006 19:04

they will be charged with wasting police time

fullmoonfiend · 03/10/2006 19:04

! That's so unfair! So angry for ytou.

my dh is a big guy too (and another gentle giant). Some bint smashed into him, tried to drive off without stopping but we caught up with her. She claimed full responsibility and we forgot all about it until we got letter from insurance saying she was blaming us for the accident and she had only claimed responsibility at the time because she was so 'scared ad intimidated' by my dh who 'bullied and threatened her into submission!' I was there the whole time by the way, and it was utter bollocks! (It took 2 years for us to get the dosh out of her, funnily enough, she backed down when it looked like it might go to court. She obviously didn't fancy lying in court..)

Gobbledispook · 03/10/2006 19:05

What the feck?!

Agree, just laugh it off and don't rise to it. Much as it would be satisfying to pull them to pieces, really it's best to take the higher ground on this one.

PretendFriend · 03/10/2006 19:09

They probably are "good friends of the Chief Constable" (but not for long if this gets into the papers...)

Bucketsofbloodydinosaurs · 03/10/2006 20:33

I wouldn't take it any further. They will get distracted soon enough because they probably take liberties and have confrontations all the time - they're just shocked because your DH stood up for himself and answered back.

ANAconda · 03/10/2006 21:05

OMG!!! so pleased that you stood up to these awful people and so sorry that you have this to deal with. surely if there is CCTV and/or witnesses their case will be dropped. how about contacting the commission for racial equality - they might take your case for nothing.

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Megglevampire · 04/10/2006 08:02

Well, have managed to talk dh out of taking it further so hopefully this should be the end of it.

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hub2dee · 04/10/2006 08:32

Megg - but don't the police have some duty to investigate the twunt's claims ?

I'd try and avoid the solicitor route as they sound like they have time and money to spare on being foul.

I hope you get swift confirmation that this will not be taken further.

anorak · 04/10/2006 08:50

Megg I don't think this will go anywhere, it's your word against theirs and that normally a non-starter. Loved Iklboo's post.

And your DH sounds absolutely gorgeous. A big brown man nicknamed Bear - I want to hug him already!

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Megglevampire · 04/10/2006 10:20

Hub, yes they do which is why we received an official letter and a phone call to clear matters up. The PC in question was telling me however that he got the impression from the way the woman was "ranting" that she would try to pursue it exhaustively,although I'm not sure how she could. I already told the PC I wasn't in the slightest bit worried as there was bound to be CCTV which would prove what really happened- apparently not (which I was surprised about)

I'm really not concerned about it anymore but find it now more amusing than anything. They've tried and failed in my eyes and it would appear the same to the PC, he mentioned he had far more important things to work on than a disagreement over a parking space!

Anorak I won't tell dh that, it'll go straight to his head

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Murphee · 04/10/2006 10:57

This sounds like a horrible situation and they do sound like bad people, I really hope it turns out in your favour! However, there is something really bugging me about this thread - and knowing I'm going to get jumped all over I've still got to say it: so racism is not OK (of course not) but labeling people 'posh' and going to town on them for that is? When did we all get so chippy?

Blu · 04/10/2006 11:03

Megg - how extremely horrible. i would feel sick to my stomach if that happened to us.

But of course the right and most effective thing to do is demonstrate your absolute strength and integrity and let the police see, loud and clear, the situation for what it is. Which they seem to.

Very unpleasant to think that people like that are on the loose, with their sense of entitlement and supremacy making them so very ugly. I'm sure they are not happy people. Happy people do not behave like that.

hub2dee · 04/10/2006 11:35

Glad you are able to remain chilled about it. I think, like Blu, this would bug me, LOL.

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Megglevampire · 04/10/2006 13:32

I can see your point Murphee but I never actually accused them of being racist in my OP. I just called them Mr & Mrs Chelsea tractor - which was exactly what they were-a very affluent looking couple with their big expensive car. I don't see describing someone as being posh as in any way offensive, we all talk about people having very posh houses/cars/manners in a very lighthearted way- it's hardly the same is it?

Actually I think if I had called them Mr & Mrs Chav and they'd been driving a Ford Jollopy that wouldn't have been picked up on just their behaviour which was vile whether they be posh/chav/whatever.

BTW Murphee I think I'm terribly posh and ds says' "splendid" all the time

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MsBionic · 04/10/2006 13:38

I had this happen to me. I was just about to reverse into a space that I had waited to 5 minutes for when in zoomed a elderly couple. I shot out of the car very angry and he would even acknowledge me and they say the younger generation are rude! (well 'younger' might be stretching it a little as im 37!)

hub2dee · 04/10/2006 13:42

Yes, sometime one witnesses a seemingly 'convenient' "I can't / didn't see you' episode with older drivers. After one's cooled down it can actually be quite funny.

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Megglevampire · 04/10/2006 13:44

Happened to you recently, right Hub?

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MsBionic · 04/10/2006 13:49

Yes it was funny but it too a while to calm down. It seems that some people when they get older revert to being a 2 year old again!!

TwigTwoolett · 04/10/2006 13:51

I would like to be that woman in 'fried green tomatoes' (was it?) who had a couple of young blondes nick her space shouting "We're younger and faster than you" at which she slammed into the back of their car, reversed and did it again and shot back "but I have more insurance"

MsBionic · 04/10/2006 13:52

mmm might try that next time!

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Megglevampire · 04/10/2006 13:58

Twig, it's the best part of the film

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Earlybird · 04/10/2006 14:04

I think you and your dh did the right thing, and are continuing to do the right thing by being calm/collected and not getting sucked into the swirling vortex of this woman's irrational rage.

FWIW, I had an unpleasant "posh" encounter recently too. I hailed a taxi, and a man tried to jump in front and steal it from me. I said "excuse me, but I was here first, so that is my cab". He shot me a furious look, and stomped off calling me crude names and saying that I was "%@!! rude". I called after him (perhaps foolishly) "actually, you are the one who is using crude language, so I believe you* are the one being rude here". He was livid and marched down the road. I thought it was excellent karma that another available taxi came along just at that moment - if the unpleasant fellow had just waited a few seconds longer, he could have been in the cab and on the way to his very important meeting! As it was, he was angrily striding down a very quiet road where available taxis hardly ever go......

hub2dee · 04/10/2006 14:52

I think there's a class of people who think if they are rude enough / aggressive enough that others will just cede to their whim. And often nice / calm people infact are so taken aback by the behaviour that is excatly what they do IYSWIM.

It makes me rather angry, which is not an emotion I enjoy, nor is it supposed to be good for one's health, so I wish such people would stop doing it - and at the same time - I wish I could engineer a more healthy reaction LOL !

Megg - I've had something like that, yes.

Most recent outrageous thing:

Older (but not elderly) woman loads shopping into boot of waiting minicab. Leaves shopping trolley by side of car, makes to climb into cab. Trolley starts rolling across pavement towards car... "Madam, your trolley," I yell... moments later... CRUNCH. One shiny 4X4 with dent. The lady extracts her trolley from the car, pushing it into the store entrance... "Thank you, my eyes aren't very good," she says as she makes a swift getaway in the minicab... still, at least the story will make countessdracula smile.

CountessDracula · 04/10/2006 16:54

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