If your dh had his own business would you go and work for him? or do you already?

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My dh has his own business and as I have found it hard to find work in the areas I am qualified in, we are considering whether or not I should go and work for him.

It would be a good job and I am hoping he will be a child-friendly employer! But we are both worried that we will argue a lot and it could change our relationship.

Does anyone else work for/with their husband?

i would work 'with', but not 'for'

i would work 'with', but not 'for'

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ...... i would murder my dh, bad enough living with him for 5 hours a night

My parents worked together very well for 30 yrs. But my dad was an architect and she was the practise manager so I suppose there was a natural power thing where although she was the one who knew everything about the practise and they wouldn't have made money without her, he and his partner had seniority because it was their business iyswim.

I don't think I could work for dp as we have a natural power struggle at home anyway(he doesn't yet realise that I'm the boss).

But it can work, my dsis and dbil work together. Again the roles are well definied as she is a designer and he is the MD of the company. Basically she is great at designing and shit at business, he is excellent at business so it works.

it's not easy. i think you have to have your roles very clearly defined. and there's a shift in the 'power' balance. you will be working for him all day. perhaps he'll try and boss you around at home, perhaps you'll become more bossy at home. who knows, but be prepared for it. also you won't get a break from each other. if you do something wrong at work, it'll follow you home. there are lots of benefits, but lots of pitfalls that you have to watch out for.

ultimately it depends on your relationship. you could try a 3 month trial and if it's not working, look at other options.

best to state up front exactly what's expected from either side.

it would depend on what the jobs actually entail - I would talk it through very carefully first - establish some ground rules. Then give it a week or two - then get back together and discuss how well it is going - is there anything that needs changing, is there anything that can't be changed - can it be lived with ? If the answer at the end of that is no - then your relationship is more important - if that goes wrong presumably you would have no job either ?

i'm not sure on this one
i have my own business and my dh wants to work for me as the hours are better and i would be able to pay him more but i like my business to myself, if he did work for me/with me he would prob moan at the money i spend a day so i would rather him not know and stay where he is

i think his job is exciting as he flys all over the world working but he hates being away from home weeks at a time

but when he is away and he comes home i fall in love with him all over again as i do miss him so do our ds's aged 9 and 10

at least of an evening we can vaugly talk shop but about the funny things that happened