DS NOT INVITED TO A PARTY ... AND I AM UPSET

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Might add that I am due on and very emotional, my DP has said I am being silly. Thought I would ask for a second opinion.
Just spoken to my friend who's daugher goes to the same playgroup as my DS, she mentioned that her DD has been invited to this party, I called other friends and all there children had been invited, on my DS party this girl was invited, but never showed up. I know that this is not an accident as she has chased up invited and asked people if they are coming etc etc. Dont think they have had a falling out at playgroup or anything. I just tucked DS is bed and he looked so lovely that I came down and got really upset.

AM I being daft or has something similar happened to others.

I have 3 kids and this has happened a few times. Even my number 2 weho is Little Miss Popular has sometimes been left out. What i usually do is ask the parent, calmly and politely: I couldn't help but notice that all the boys/girls/class have been invited to x's party except my dd/s. He/she was a bit miffed so I thought I weould ask if there was a particular reason? And often there has been a good reason, sometimes not, but at least you knowe what you are dealing with and you can move on. HTH

my ds never gets invited to parties.

In some ways i am glad as tbh i dont think he could cope with so much sugar and excitment.

doesn't stop me getting a pang of sadness that he misses out on so much of the social side of school....but i guess he is lucky in that he doesnt really understand that he is missing out

I'm haveing a dilemma at the moment.

Dd is having a swimming party. The pool is small and numbers have to be limited. Including dd, her brother and cousins there are 5 children. That left 6 places for schoolfriends. I asked her to chose but as the party is next week I made her wait until she had been at school a few days in case there were any new non nursery children she wanted to invite. (there was one)

The invites went out and I even said that one person could bring their sister who was only 12 months older and who dd knows.

Now dd has become best friends with another new little girl. Everyone has accepted the invitations except the boy and his sister (whose mum does not yet know if they can come) and another girl who dd knew from nursery but now goes to a different school.

I am seriously worried about overcrowding in the pool if these 3 accept as it is but I feel awful if I don't invite the new girl

DS gets invited to a lot of parties, and I always feel terrible that one of his friends, a little girl who appears to idolise him (she asked her mum every day when we were on holiday when he would be back as he's "my prince", he's nearly 4, bless), never gets invited to any parties. I always feel so bad for her when other kids come out with invites and she doesn't, but I do understand that not everyone can be invited, I certainly can't afford to invite all 22 kids from ds' preschool to his party as he wants it at a indoor soft play place and it's £8 per head and I simply can't afford to invite all, but I do feel sad when it's the same kids that don't get invited.

hang on if this little girl didn't come to DS's party and she hasn't invited him to hers then maybe, just maybe they don't happen to be friends

now obviously you called other friends so DS is a popular child with friends

why isn't that good enough for you?

and to be brutally honest at nursery level you invite the kids who's parents you are friends with if you're being selective and then special friends of your child

I think you can never win with parties .. you invite every kid and you end up with the obnoxious ones too .. you invite selected kids and you end up pissing off parents you otherwise like

take your hormones and drown them in a large glass of fleurie .. it'll all be better in the mornig