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Is there such a thing as a 'Gravidzilla' comparable to a 'Bridezilla'?

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Gingerbear · 27/09/2006 10:48

When pregnant, should we women be the centre of the universe and be treated like godesses? Or does that only apply to first timers?

Please Discuss.

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anniediv · 27/09/2006 10:51

No I think you should be treated like it for subsequent pregnancies, because the first time you have no idea what lies in store for you!!

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Gingerbear · 27/09/2006 10:55

I think I was a gravidzilla first time around, like a bride who wants everything to be perfect, I went out and bought everything except a baby wipe warmer, and had everything planned to the last detail - birth plan, hospital bag packed, inwardly digested Miriam Stoppard, asked stroppy questions at the ante-natal classes blah, blah.
This time round I am much more relaxed about the whole thing.
Maybe it is because I discovered mumsnet in the intervening years.

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anniediv · 27/09/2006 11:01

When I was having dd1, I packed my labour bag with everything you can imagine including a 'birth tape' of specially chosen music (cringe), travel sized games to play with dh while in labour, birth announcements to write out afterwards etc etc...my Mum had the good grace to smirk quietly to herself and not say anything!! I was in labour for just under 3 hours start to finish, and dh left the bag in the car anyway!! Am much more relaxed now (I'm on no 4 (!) at the mo).

ComeOVeneer · 27/09/2006 11:06

I can soo relate to being a gravidzilla first time around, and totally laid back second time. Mind you did you all find that first time around your dp/dh (and other family members)treated you like a godess etc and second time around just left you to it (no pampering massages/lie ins etc - which are needed badly when pregnant and running around after a toddler).

anniediv · 27/09/2006 11:08

Yes exactly, that's why I said earlier that goddess status should only be conferred for 2nd and subseqent pregnancies!

Bugsy2 · 27/09/2006 11:09

OMG, yes. I wish I had taken advantage of this phenomenon. I was one of those stupid "just because I'm pregnant doesn't change a thing" women, which I utterly curse myself for now as somewhere along the line I was mistaken for bloody superwoman.
Get as much goddess treatment while you can, because as soon as the baby comes that'll be it!!!

joelallie · 27/09/2006 11:10

Definitely first time only ime. Birthing kit was put together lovingly over weeks - bought arnica tabs and raspberry leaf tea and those special paper maternity knickers - packed a food bag for DH for when I was in labour. Spent ages chosing exactly the right first outfits for the baby (who proceeded to be too big to fit any newborn stuff!!). Wrote an essay on my birth plans. Next time round I just chucked any old thing in the bag at the last minute and didn't get to the hospital until 20 mins before she was born. Third time round I went into labour on the day I had been due to leave work and went into the hospital with a dressing gown, one baby gro and some toothpaste

sil put it succintly - first time round you get to waft around in floaty materniry clothes reclining on sofas and having little naps whenever you need. Next time round you are too busy to even notice you're tired.

KathyMCMLXXII · 27/09/2006 11:11

at this thread.

I am pulling rank (ie 'I can't carry that, I'm pregnant' etc) much more this time round and making an enormous fuss because if I don't everyone seems to forget I'm pregnant and expect me to carry on as normal.

Bridezillaism is pure self-indulgence but I think pregnant women should be more like Gravidzillas - hell, we're not doing it for ourselves, it's for the unborn baby

lucy5 · 27/09/2006 11:14

i think people treat you differently after the first. Infact, I treat myself differently. i am 30 weeks now and haven't bought one thing. With dd 6 years ago, i had loads of stuff, knew what was going in my bag and felt like the only woman on earth to have ever been pregnant.

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Gingerbear · 27/09/2006 11:21

CoV, I am nodding in agreement with you about DH's attitude. First time he treated me like I was made of rice paper, did everything, he even gave up drinking in case he might drop the baby.
This time, the only concession he has is that he now lifts and carries heavy things for me.

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lucy5 · 27/09/2006 11:24

So true, dh isn't treating mee like the almighty mother of his child this time, just an over hormonal cranky cow

anniediv · 27/09/2006 11:24

I'm on No 4, I don't think he's noticed yet!!

Flamesparrow · 27/09/2006 11:25

I was on and off dependent on mood.

One of Psychomum's friends seemed intent on not letting me do anything because I was pregnant... I decided it would be rude to argue with her

FluffyCharlotteCorday · 27/09/2006 11:26

Not enough of them imo.

It's the one time when you should be allowed to be mental and unreasonable at all times.

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Gingerbear · 27/09/2006 17:29

caligula.
I am suffering early pregnancy extreme tiredness this evening. All I want to do is go to my bed. What is DH doing? Out all evening playing squash then beers with the lads. Tsk. I demand to be treated in the manner to which a pregnant lady should be.

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CountessDracula · 27/09/2006 17:31

I was of the nothing has changed type too I think

tbh it drives me mad when women go on and on about it (bridezilla style). Reminds me of that woman from The Office...

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