Social services

[Donna19793]

Hi I recently had a blazing row and fight with my current partner of 5 years , there was huge amounts of alcohol thrown in and nothing and I mean nothing like this had ever happened before! My chikderen were on a weekend visit with their father so were not around! Anyway NEIGHBORS called the police and as it was a " domestic" incident and although the kids were not there but because they are under 18 and live in the house there was need fur a social worker to pay us a visit. As it turns out it was a closed case and a zero risk but...... So gal services sent a copy of the referral out to my ex husband so now he knows about what happened and is humiliating me by spreading it around our mutual friends! As you can imagine I have been wanting to keep this matter private as there is quite a stigma when it comes to social services . We are both extremely embarrassed and regretful about what happened and was wondering if it was really necessary to inform my ex husband????

Yes, he has parental responsibility

Wouldn't you want to know if he was carrying out unsafe behaviours at home where the children visit?

Would you not want to know if social services had to pay him a visit to do an assessment because they wanted to rule out a risk to your children? Wouldn't that be information that, as their mother, you would want to have? And feel you had a right to have?

That aside, he should not be using it as ammunition against you if he is 'spreading it round' as in slurring you or gossiping or doing anything with intent to hurt or upset. That is totally out of order and he needs to be told to stop.