Misery Guts

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alexsmum · 06/04/2004 00:25

Just wanted to have a bit of a moan as I am feeling so down so much of the time recently.Since my baby was born 7 months ago nothing seems to be going right AT ALL. I have had 4 bouts of mastitis, a really nasty tummy bug, tonsillitis,;I also fell over a couple of weeks ago and broke a bone in my back. My baby has really bad eczema and my older son who is four seems to just be incontinent and keeps having accidents all the time.To top it all off my dh has started working away a couple of days a week leaving me to cope alone and can't see why this a problem. He acts like he is so hard done by and I have this lovely life and I would love for us to swap for a couple of days just so he could see how crap things are.
He does help a lot with the kids but when he is looking after them that is all he does. No house work gets done or anything.
On sunday he did painting with the kids and in the process got paint all over the washing that I had just done that wa sin the kitchen waiting to be dried. It just infuriates me.
One of my friends thinks I have post natal depression but I said to her " If your life was like mine wouldn't you be pissed off?" Am I being irrational? Am I making mountains out of molehills? Sorry to rant but I really need to offload some of this.

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expatkat · 06/04/2004 01:12

It does sound like you have a hard life at the moment. What's worse is that people probably "expect" you to be happy because of the new baby, plus you say your dh thinks you have such a great life. So your real feelings are probably at odds with social & family expectations of how you should be feeling.. ..which makes everything worse. It doesn't sound like PND to me. .. it sounds like things are just plain tough. They'll get better, though, as the kids get a little older. A 7-month-old is difficult IME. I'd like to hear more about the 4-year-old wetting himself. Mine wet himself 3 times today. It's a new development for him. I just don't know what it's about, but I've decided not to get worried about it, rightly or wrongly.

fairyprincess · 06/04/2004 01:48

Hello,
Hope you're feeling better. Do you know why you got the mastitis?

It's tough being a mother. It's the hardest job I've ever had with the 24/7 responsibilty but it's the best. Some times I can just laugh, others I have to rant and occasionally I can just ignore whats happening (or hide). I think that sometimes I just care too much about the state of the house and children complaining. The other day I had a real shout about the little ones eating like pigs and started up a new system whereby they have to clean under their chairs when they've finished their meal. Mad or what? Anyhow my little one said really proudly today 'isn't it great that we don't eat like pigs anymore' she was really pleased. So I supposed the rant of mine worked (for the moment) All the best with your household - hope you got hubby to redo the washing.

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alexsmum · 06/04/2004 10:13

I'm mad I really must be loopy because after typing this last night with tears pouring down my face, I have woken up this morning and everything seems quite nice!
Both the kids came in bed with us this morning and we all had cuddles and it was lovely.
Had a chat to dh last night when we went to bed and told him how I felt.He has been really kind this morning. I don't know. I really feel like I need to get a grip but some days its harder than others I guess.

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alexsmum · 06/04/2004 10:21

Sorry expat kat I didn't mention my incontinent 4 year old.He has just been really slow with the toilet training and made such a meal of it.He has been dry for a good few months now and we had got the number twos sorted too we thought .but the past couple of weeks he has just taken ten steps back and has been wetting and pooing himself quite frequently. I had to change his clothes 4 times the other day. Maybe he's picking up on my moods or maybe his dad being away a lot is freaking him out , I don't know.I think you are right not to worry but its hard to stay calm!!
Oh well, good immunisation for when he's 18 and bringing girls home!!

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alexsmum · 06/04/2004 10:22

That should of course have said good ammunition!!

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handlemecarefully · 06/04/2004 21:17

Alexsmum

Good to hear that you are feeling brighter today - however if I had experienced your run of bad luck I'd be feeling pretty miserable to. I think you are doing really well to hold it all together.

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