Is this terrible or just learning behaviour ???

[kana]

Not a newie here, but need to discuss something of a rather sensitive nature. Name is changed as very serious.

If you found out that your 11 year old dd was being sexual with a 3yr old boy of a neighbour, as in playing and touching genitals. What would you do?? How would you deal with it, especially if the other mum has a hunch its happening?? How would they know to do this??? Its a really difficult situation and needs to be handled carfeully

Does your dd have any brothers? If not, I would put it down to curiosity having had sex education at school. I would sit her down and have a talk about appropriate behaviour. Don't go ballistic or anything. She may just be an innocent abroad, IYSWIM.

I think its just curiosity. I would hope not to think of it being more than that. We have a pretty open policy about nudenes and sex in the house , she has book on it and is very curious girl. Lots of questions about everything. She is a very sweet child and not at all vicious or nasty.

No she just has a younger sister.

i agree with beetroot

I just dont know why she has behaved like this. I dont wnat her to think sex is disgusting and dirty. I want her to have a healthy view. How do I know something hasnt happened to her like this but worse to make her do this.

The neighbour asked her if she had been doing it and then came to me crying because of feeling guilty that an adult knows. I sort of told her that you dont do things like that , but didnt know what else to do.

I kind of drew it out of her with questions , she said she did something naughty with the little boy. So she knows its not right.

I will leave it with the other mum as she is a very nice women. I dont want to upset that apple cart.