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Witness horrible abusive man, can I report him?

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Beccarolloveragain · 17/09/2006 11:52

Pulled up outside of supermarket this morning, as I got out of the car I heard someone shouting.

It was a man in the car next to me with 3 kids in the back. Cant have been more than about 2yrs, 3.5yrs and 5 or 6 yrs.

He was screaming and bellowing and rough handling them.

I honestly couldnt believe it, I wanted to kill him and rescue the kids.

He was soooo aggressive and shouting at the top of his voice right in to their little faces.

"You Fcking little Cnt, Ill Fcking take you to the copper station and tell them your a Fcking little CNT and Nee Fcker wants you Ive Fcking told you before I lock the car with the button you dont Fcking press the button when you get in the Fcking car you F*"

Heard all this, was gobsmacked, considered saying something but didnt dare so went to get trolley.

Before heading in to teh shop I realised it was still goign on, still the same tirade of abuse without taking a breath. This must have been another 3 minutes or so. So I quite obviously moved closer so that I could take his reg plate and hoped that maybe he would stop because he was embarassed of how he was behaving but he just went on and on and was so so so awful to them. Think he was squeezing one of their faces really hard bringing it up to his face to shout right in his face IYSWIM.

The kids werent making a peep, not answering back, explaining or even crying just 3 little gorgeous boys sitting there like lost little souls being bellowed at by the vilest man I have ever seen.

It made me cry and I was shaky all the way round the supermarket.

It breaks my heart to think what those kids must have to endure every day.

Is the reg plate any use? Who would I tell? Would anything be done?

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SherlockLGJ · 17/09/2006 11:57

I started a thread like this last year, what I witnessed in M&S was nothing like the level of abuse you witnessed this morning.

I called the police who were not interested, it was only after being urged by MNers I rang back and pushed, they eventually went to M&S and viewed the footage but I never heard anymore.

On a lighter note, the barsteward cost me about £50, I was so upset going around M&S's foodhall, I ended up putting stuff in my trolley I didn't even need.

edam · 17/09/2006 12:09

It's worth a go, isn't it? Even if it doesn't go anywhere, at least you will have tried.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee · 17/09/2006 12:11

Try and report it . I dont know if it would do any good but I think you will feel bad if you dont do any thing . I was in St Albans visiting a friend and we (me DH, DS,) went to the big shopping centre the one with Sainsburys . There were theses two women bashing the hell out of each other and swearing like you wouldnt believe . Then a thrird woman joined in two against one . the worst of it was one of them was holding a toddler couldnt have been more than two .

danceswithmonkeys · 17/09/2006 12:12

I would report it. Those children clearly cannot defend themselves it's up to us as the adults to defend them. If the police can't/won't help try childline or NSPCC.

littlepea · 17/09/2006 12:17

I think that so sad, it makes me want to cey just reading it so I cant imagine how you felt. I too would have wanted to get those boys out and give them a big hug
Do persue it, try the police first or nspcc and ask what they can do. Tell it how it was, dont just say they were using bad language as the C word is discusting and using tht to a child is vile.
Do please let us know what they say.

hunkermunker · 17/09/2006 12:25

I'd ring the police. If this man's happy to behave like this in public, heaven knows how he'll behave in private with them.

livelife · 17/09/2006 12:29

god another story making me cry n go cold! Just unbelievable what some people do, i can't bear it, poor little mites. YES YES YES do report this evil basket! the police may not do any good but social services should esp after cases they have missed - stress you're scared for the children - the face squeezing etc. makes me feel sick

mears · 17/09/2006 12:49

I would pass the information to the police - there may well be other information they have about this family. The family support unit (police) would be interested.

FrannyandZooey · 17/09/2006 12:56

Yes report it, please. I am sorry you had to see this, it must be very upsetting indeed for you, I know I am upset just reading it so I hope you are ok.

moljam · 17/09/2006 13:02

i would phone nspcc and ask for advice,theyll know what can be done.its horrible thinking how some people are and what some people class as ok behaviour.i saw a mum kicking hell out of phone box swearing shouting screaming while her dd about 1/2 sat in buggy outside phone box crying.i wanted to go ask if i could help with child but knew id be risking putting my children in bad situation.found out from someone who knew her i would likely to have been punched.

scotchick · 17/09/2006 13:16

please report it! If he was actually manhandling them, that's an offence isn't it? I feel quite sick.

I look at my kids and think how lucky they are I'm such a great mum!!! Just joking, but really they are lucky I would NEVER behave like that. What some children have to go though, I can barely think about it. I feel so sad I can hardly stand it.

WideWebWitch · 17/09/2006 13:19

Report it. I would. What a bastard.

stitch · 17/09/2006 13:32

definitly report it, but tbh, i think you should have tdone something at the time. even if it is simply calling the supermarket security people.
if someone was treating an adult withthat level of vehemence??/

mummydear · 17/09/2006 14:14

Report the matter, even if the police do not do anthing then it should be on record what you saw.

I would imagine howver that if he was behaiving like this in public , that this may be his normal behaviour and I wouldn't be surprised if the family is already known to police and socail service.

I am sorry to generalise and sterotype but if this guy is so abusive to his kids like that what is he like to his partner. If he is like that to his DP then police and Socail service know the family. Everytime police go to a deomestic incident , even if the children are not involved , if children liove in the house then a copy of the report will go to socail servvies.

Report it , its all about buidling up a picture of this family and saving kids.

thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 17/09/2006 14:21

I agree that you should try. call the NSPCC for advice first, then, I guess, depending on what they say, call your local police station, and social services. God my kids have driven me to distraction but in my worst moments I've never come near anything like this. It makes me shudder - especially the fact that this was in public.

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Beccarolloveragain · 17/09/2006 18:39

stitch, your right and I have felt guilty about this all day.

I was on my own and scared. I didnt actually think to tell the supermarket. There were about 5 other couples all stood still with me obviously upset and wondering what to do.

I tried to look at him to maybe embarass him to stop but I was also aware of making him angry and him taking it out on the kids.

All day I have been thinking about times when I have lost my temper and felt awful and know that it isnt even 1% of the abuse and vitriol this bastard was showing towards his kids.

I cant get over how quiet and still the kids were, obviously scared stiff and used to it. They werent even crying

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youknowyouloveitCOD · 17/09/2006 18:40

oi pecca
saw as hop in paris calles "Pecca accessories"

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Beccarolloveragain · 17/09/2006 18:41

Wast it chic and upmarket?

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youknowyouloveitCOD · 17/09/2006 18:41

erm
well it was in a station concourse
oh nad htey had "Pecca home" too

youknowyouloveitCOD · 17/09/2006 18:41

thought dh woudl flip if i photoed it

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