If your kids spend weekend/sleepover with family do you expect them to do homework?

[Northerner]

Dh and I are having niece and nephew for 3 weekends this month, on a saturday for a sleepover, mid day till mid day on Sunday. From experience SIL has always sent them with instructions for us to assist with homework/reading etc, it used to be just nephew but now neice is at school too as is my ds.

I would love to be able to say 'sorry, i'll look after them by all means but don't bring homework here'

I would not expect someone who was doing me such a favour to also do ds's homework.

Am I being unreasonable?

No, I wouldn't expect that either.

No, they could do it Friday or Sunday evening - they 're coming to your house to have fun, surely, not to do homework? thats the parents job.

If you had invited them over I might say yes provided they can do their homework at some point (I don't have children at school yet so not too sure how much of an impact it would be if the missed some) if you are doing me a favour by having them then no, I think you are doing quite enough as it is.

If someone were taking my kids to give DH and I a Saturday night out / away I'd be grovelling on the floor with bottles of wine and bunches of flowers, and probably present the kids ready bathed and in pyjamas to save them the hassle, definitely not asking them to do homework with them too.

If yours have homework too then can't they all do it together? I have to admit to my shame that I wouldn't be able to resist helping with the homework especially if they were the same age as mine so that I could do a quick bit of comparing. Just as I can never resist having a look in the book bags of children who come to tea to see what reading level they're at!
Thank heavens mn is anonymous!

LOL at curlew.

No I wouldn't dream of it. DS is 5 and only gets a reading book (spellings to be introduced soon). I would have him read to me before he left on Saturday and again when he returned on Sunday.

no - my child would be back in time to do homework. i wouldnt dream of imposing on the generosity of somone willing to take on an extra child

cheeky fucks

my boys always do their homework on friday night
we take boys to our local at 6ish after work and we all help do homework while we have a beer
that way it leaves the weekend free from school and work

Blimey no !
Outrageous. They should do it before coming to yours.

And three times ?

No, they should have plenty of time at home to do it. Friday night/Saturday morning and Sunday afternoon.

I do expect mine to do it at their Dad house though every other weekend as they go Friday night and come back Sunday at 4 pm. More often than not though they haven't done it and it really pisses me off!