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Knew it would be hard....

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SparklyGothKat · 12/09/2006 16:48

We moved the children from their school to a new one as it was too far to drive every day. Anyway, one of their friends would lives in the street and goes to the same new school, just told me that someone called Ds a 'spastic' I knew it would be hard for other children to accept DS and his disablity, but I feel that I have made a huge mistake.....

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mrs2shoes · 12/09/2006 16:51

oh no there are some nasty kids out there
ds gets so angry when people use that word(14 and nt)
i would go and see someone at the school and nip it in the bud. I take it it is primary.
ds had this happen at secondry 2 boys takiing the mick out of dd pretending to have cp
one phone call put a stop to that

anniediv · 12/09/2006 16:51

How very and for you. Are you going to tell anyone at the school? I hope it's a one off.

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SparklyGothKat · 12/09/2006 16:55

I will go into the school tomorrow, the young girl had a go at the lad and asked how he would feel if it was him. But I thought that DS is so outgoing that it wouldn;t be a problem...

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kimi · 12/09/2006 17:55

oh sgk how horried for your son and how sad for you.
What a nasty child.
Children can be evil sometimes.
Speak to the head as soon as you can, also would it help if your son explained to the class about his disablity as ignorance is a root cause of most name calling.

DS1 announced to his whole class "this is why i am like this if you have any questions ask away"
How old is your DS?

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SparklyGothKat · 12/09/2006 18:06

he is 8.

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HuwEdwards · 12/09/2006 18:07

your poor ds and what a vile child - his parents should be told.

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SparklyGothKat · 12/09/2006 18:09

I have had a cry, and I feel like crap, I can't protect him, and I feel that its my fault because I moved him from a school where he was accepted and loved...

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Blandmum · 12/09/2006 18:11

I would contact the school and ask what they plan to do to help to sort this out.

I would sugest that the school contacts the parents of this child and asks them to make sure that their son stops acting in this horrid way.

I would go via the school, and use them as a 'buffer' between you and the family. In addition the school needs to consider this action in light of their anti bullying/ inclusion policy. Act now, sadly I doubt it will get better in its own.

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SparklyGothKat · 12/09/2006 18:26

Dh thinks that maybe the child doesn't know better, but why on earth does a child of 7 know the word spastic???!!!

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Blandmum · 12/09/2006 18:30

He might, he might not know the meaning of the word. However at the age of 7 he is not too young to learn that it is a hurtful word, and even my 6 year old ds knows that it is wrong to hurt someone.

If he doesn't know it is wrong he needs to be told it is.
If he does know it is wrong he has even more need of a talking to!

Sadly it doesn't surprise me. Hugs to you, sweetheart, you don't need this shit!

batters · 12/09/2006 18:31

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Blandmum · 12/09/2006 18:33

re the 'age' of the word, sadly not true. The kids I teach (secondary) use it

But they never use it twice in front of me......

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SparklyGothKat · 12/09/2006 18:35

My best mate's sister is 14 and uses 'spastic' regularly. I had a go at her and she doesn;t use it in front of me now. Can;t believe that after 4 years at a school where he was accept, this happens within 2 days at a new school...

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batters · 12/09/2006 18:39

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fairyjay · 12/09/2006 18:40

I know you're upset, and goodness knows, I have have been when kids have said stuff to/about my ds, but how has your ds responded? I'm just thinking that if he doesn't seem concerned, it might be worth using it as an opportunity to help him deal with this sort of crap in the future - ie. what his responses will be etc. It might be that it isn't a big issue to him.

I'd still speak to the school though, and fantasize about suitable punishments for the little b

Blandmum · 12/09/2006 18:40

I set a class researching the use of computers by people with CP following the use if this word. they were 13-14 in year 9.

It sickened me. The boy who did it, never, ever used it again in front of me

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SparklyGothKat · 12/09/2006 19:06

I know what you mean Batters, I was shocked that its still in use. Apparently what was said was:
Boy to neighbour: that boy is a spastic
Neighbour to Boy: which boy??
Boy to neighbour: that one (points to DS)
Neighbour to boy: thats my friend and he is called XXXXXX
Neighbour to boy: why did you call him a spastic??
Boy to Neighbour: because he is...

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redshoes · 12/09/2006 19:16

SGK how awful. I agree with Fairyjay - apart from sorting it out as much as possible with the school, there are 2 issues, how you are now feeling and how your son feels (and how you can help him to deal with such nasty comments in the future). xxx

littleducks · 12/09/2006 19:37

Thats really sad, hope your ds doesnt feel too bad about it, i would tell the school and hope they act responsibly but i do agree it is a common playground term.
On another note i think you should be really proud of your neighbour for sticking up for your son, she is a good friend. It can be hard for kids of that age to stand up for their friends.

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SparklyGothKat · 12/09/2006 22:11

the young girtl involved doesn;t want me to mention it to the the head.. I think she is worried that she will be bullied for 'grassing'
At Ds's last school they had a disabled speaker in to do an assembly on disabilities. I guess I will have to arrange that again.

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SparklyGothKat · 13/09/2006 13:27

have been into the school and they had already dealt with it

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Blandmum · 13/09/2006 20:46

what has been done?

First rate in terms of speed of response by the school.

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