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Feel free to ignore me, I need to rant about my dp complete lack of organisation and responsibilty. Am I being too harsh again?

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twinsetandpearls · 10/09/2006 22:14

Dp has been at home this week to take dd to school for her first week and to relieve the strain on me as I return to school.
He has been at home every day while dd has been at school and has just slept or watched cartoon network. To befair he has cooked dinner but it has all been junk food which has set of my IBS and left dd hyper.
No washing done - I did that and what little ironing he has done has all been shoved in drawers meaning I had to sort it al out today. No cleaning done all week and his tidying has consisted of shoving everything under the stairs and dd has been filled with sweets, and I caught him again tonight smuggling food up to her after she had brushed her teeth.
But worse of all, he was supposed to send of the paperwork for a loan we gave applied for and he has just admitted that he forgot ot do it, and I have just found a letter he has hidden saying the loan has been cancelled because they did not revieve the necessary paperwork. When sorting through the other mail from this week which he had shoved in a drawer rather than opening I also found a warrant for his arrest over a speeding fine which is nearly three years overdue.
Dp is a good father to dd but I fid his complete lack of organisation when it comes to things like bills and housework so annoying and it just creates stress and extra work for the rest of us. I know I am an anal cow and I don't expect dp to do things to my standards but it would be nice to see the basics covered such as avoiding arrest warrants and opneing the mail!

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twinsetandpearls · 10/09/2006 22:25

I know I said feel free to ignore me but I didn't really mean it, what Imeant was please tell me that as always I am right

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FlipFloppinRubyRioja · 10/09/2006 22:27

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notasheep · 10/09/2006 22:28

Sounds like an average bloke to me,needs a Mum to look after him

hyacinthb · 10/09/2006 22:38

I'm surprised you haven't killed him yet. Admirable restraint

Skribble · 10/09/2006 22:48

Appart from a warrant for my arrest that could be me you described I am a totaly unorgainised mum.

wartywarthog · 10/09/2006 23:31

erm - you're not anal! he needs a serious kick up the rear end. what did you do when you found out?

brimfull · 10/09/2006 23:44

Well I would be furious,he's being a lazy git.

ilovecaboose · 10/09/2006 23:47

Have you tried leaving a list out of things you expect him to do during the day - or is he going back to work tomorrow?

My dp does it unless I leave a specific list detailing exactly waht I want him to do. i.e. clearing up front room means not dumping everything in a pile but actually tidying it and hoovering as well (dusting has no chance).

Do they think we do all this stuff just cos we enjoy the thrill of it?

twinsetandpearls · 10/09/2006 23:58

he goes back to work tomorrow, I don't leave a list of things as I am aware of becoming a nag but we did agree that certain things needed doing.

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PinkTulips · 10/09/2006 23:59

i'm with ilovecaboose on this one. when i was working and dp was home with dd i had to plan his day for him down to the tinest detail. it's not that he minded doing things, it's that he honestly didn't know what to do!

as for paperwork, bills and forms... wouldn't trust dp to do that stuff if my life depended on it, thats all my department!

pmsl at arrest warrant btw, best get that paid before you do anything else!

twinsetandpearls · 11/09/2006 18:28

I just think that we are both adults and therefore leaving lists or thinking that one of us is incapable of an aspect of house management seems daft to me. I would feel offended if dp left me a list of chores as I ahve eyes and I can see what needs doing

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twinsetandpearls · 11/09/2006 18:29

He is not really lazy, he just has odd priorites, although this week I think he has taken the piss abit

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joelallie · 11/09/2006 18:49

Yes....TS&P - that describes my DH to a T! Not lazy exactly but odd priorities. He seems to think that he has the god given right to sit on his arse at least some of the day. Weird idea once you have children.

Sadly lists are essential but I agree that it's pathetic from one adult to another.

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