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Homestart Volunteer

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searchin · 07/09/2006 12:17

I was thinking of becoming a Homestart Volunteer but now maybe a little unsure. Just had initial interview and told that most of their families are very needy, i,e, teenage or young single mothers, maybe people with learning difficulties and such like. Dont know if I should go ahead or not now, I do want to help but I,m quite fussy IYSWIM

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Medulla · 07/09/2006 12:20

I'm just waiting to go on the homestart course. Next one here is October. I'm really looking forward to it.

searchin · 07/09/2006 12:25

Medulla don't you have ANY reservations, if so what are they? I really want to do this but I am still worried I won't like to do it also ITMS

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Medulla · 07/09/2006 12:31

I live on and RAF camp and so the Homestart will only apply to my immediate community. The majority of help is needed in families with very small children/babies which is exactly what I want to do (and where I think I will be of most help!). When I go back to the UK I will think again as to wether I want to continue, depending on how I get on here but in answer to your question I don't have any reservations at the moment. In fact I can't wait to get started!

What exactly are your reservations? Do you not think you could help young single mums or families with learnng difficulties? Will it upset you too much? I'm sure you will find it very rewarding.

searchin · 07/09/2006 12:35

The area where the volunteers are required is renowned for being rough. It is a poor area and lots of rough people. I know the recipients would be genuine and all that but I am still concerned about being in such an awful environment, as I live an extremely different lifestyle and just worry I guess

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littlerach · 07/09/2006 12:37

I think in this situation you can't really be fussy.

You either want to do it, or you don't. The people that have asked for help really need it, nevermind where they live.

Pollyanna · 07/09/2006 12:38

HI, I am a homestart volunteer. I really enjoy it. Your coordinator (who places you with a family) will discuss with you who you will be placed with. You can be as fussy as you like - you have to feel comfortable with the family you are placed with. There are plenty of "normal" people who have a volunteer (my family has twins and just needs an extra pair of hands) - and you are unlikely to be placed with anyone too challenging for your first family.

I would say, do the course - it is really interesting and then see how you feel. Your coordinator should be able to place you with someone you feel happy with.

searchin · 07/09/2006 12:41

Thanks Pollyanna, guess I've just led too much of a priviledged and shelteredlife. Probably worrying over nothing.

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Medulla · 07/09/2006 12:43

Are you worried about your own safety? For me that would be a huge issue! As for comparing your lifestyle to theirs I think you just can't (well try not to). You can't change the situation they're in only help. Just going round there and sitting with a child while mum has a nap or picking up a bit of shopping could completely change someones day. Why don't you try it? If it's not for you be honest and say so.

searchin · 07/09/2006 12:47

Just might make ME feel uncomfortable to have so much myself and see others with little. But then I guess thats one of the reasons I want to do this. To give.

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PeachyClairHasBadHair · 07/09/2006 12:49

Hiya

used to be the local organiser for HomoeStart

Firstly, the interview: trust me, however worried you are, the Organiser will be ten times more hopeful that you will be good! All it is is to check you know about home start, that you're friendly and as much as anything that the address you gave on your application is really yours,a nd you're not a weirdo trying to get access to children. They WANT you to succeed; they also want a wide variety of people to be volunteers, becasue people are matched as much on personal;ity as much as anything else.

The neediness of the famillies vary widely. You can specify if there are some thinsg you can't deal with in your famillies, but mainly the famillies are bang on the same as everyone else but have had a bit of bad luck: a death in the family, an ill child, PND.

You wouldn't be expected to act as a nanny or anything else, and your role is to make Mum / Dad feel 'normal' and sometimes help them build a social network of their own. nine times out of ten it is about drinking coffee and chatting! Other times it can involve going shopping with a Mum who lacks the confidence to get out on her own, maybe taking a family to a toddler group. What you do is negotiated between yourself and the family, within boundaries.

the training vourse is superb (I ahd to do it as well) and prepares you for most things, plus you get the back up of an Organiser who is usually permanently welded to their mobile, and regular support meetings etc.

I would say go along to the training and see how you like it.

PeachyClairHasBadHair · 07/09/2006 12:50

Medulla, although it's never perfect e used to do safety assessments before a volunteer would meet a family- one concern and it was a no no; offten I'd support a family myself if I ahd concerns, until I could either match or discharge. NO risks are taken. We also used to do personal safety seminars for our volunteers

Medulla · 07/09/2006 12:50

Exactly Searchin, puts life in perspective doesn't it? I have a very priveliged life, we are well off financially, we have 2 beautiful children, I have a stable marriage and a loving husband, we are all healthy. I want to give something back. I haven't done the course yet so if you want we could go through this together, just a thought.

searchin · 07/09/2006 12:51

Thanks PCHABHD I feel so much better.

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PeachyClairHasBadHair · 07/09/2006 12:51

(Sorry thread hog-

Don't be so sure that your family will ahve less than you. Not always the case- we had very affluent famillies with PND, Vicar's famillies, all sorts

Medulla · 07/09/2006 12:52

That's good Peachy, I only said that because the environment I live in is very safe and so I could understand someone worrying about their safety. I think it's a wonderful organisation!

Medulla · 07/09/2006 12:53

Good point Peachy

searchin · 07/09/2006 12:55

Medulla, I would appreciate your support, thanks. I begin my course later this month. I two have a wealthy and successful DH and 2 brilliant children. Just hope I can give what is required and not feel out of my depth.

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searchin · 07/09/2006 12:56

Got to go out, will catch up later

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Medulla · 07/09/2006 12:56

Well lets do it, sounds like we are coming from the same dirction! I will let you know when my course starts but it sounds like it's after yours so you can tell me what its like!

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