I've been with my boyfriend now for 18 months. And about 9 months ago a was cleaning out his inbox and came across some old emails that needless to say had me speechless. The emails indicated that before me he was having sex with men. And from what I could tell he had been doig so for almost 3 years. Well I was to scared and unsure how to even confront him so I just started to do my own investigation and got in contact with one guy T that he had been seeing off and on for 2 years well he wears extremely helpful. Well one day my bf J came across an email on my phone and just glanced at it and from what he looked at he thought I was cheating so when he left the house angry I sent him a text and had to come clean that I knew about his past. Well the only response I got was past is past and I'm ashamed of it and it was all drug induced and I will not talk about it. Well after talking to T I found out that there last time together was just 2 weeks before mine and J first date. Me that after j and I decided to be exclusive and made a ciommitment to one another my bf just two days after that contacted T and wanted sex but T denied him and J pursued T for two weeks and was denied every time. So there's strike one for me because even thou the never physical had sex with someone else he tried hard for two weeks to have sex with someone else. And Fr what T has said was the last time they where together sex wasn't drug induced and J had said he wanted to try and have a real relationship and he was going to introduce T to his family and kids. And best I can come up with I when J got home reality hit and he got scared then he and I got together just 2 weeks after that. My bf swears that part of his life is over and he's only attracted and only wants sex with me. But I'm scared that he's not truly being honest with himself or me. Andy advise