How much time does your DH /DP get to spend with DC's during the week?

[Holymoly321]

DH works whilst I'm a SAHM. DS is nearly a year old and used to come into bed with us in the mornings when he woke up which meant that DH got to spend time with him before he went to work. DS has always gone to bed around 6 -6.30pm so is usually fast asleep when DH gets home around 7 - 7.30. But recently DS has started to sleep later in the morning, meaning that DH doesn't really get to see him at all during the week, which is terribly sad for everyone concerned . Is this a pretty much normal state of affairs for parents? I've tried keeping DS up later in the eve but he won't have any of it.

keep him to his routine or else the time dh will spend with dc will be upsetting as dc will be tried
as your child gets older he will sleep less and go to bed later (mine are 9 and 10 and go to bed at 8.30pm)
just enjoy your weekends together and suggest dh takes dc swimming on his own for qualty time alone

DH leaves at 9am so helps get them ready

He's back at about 7.20 so puts DS to bed and just about sees DD as she's whisked out of the bath

smiling, I remember around a year or slightly older, I used to try to make dd have a late afternoon nap, say around 4-5 pm, just so she could stay awake long enough for daddy to get home around 8 pm. She normally fell asleep at the breast so I had that option of nursing her around that time.

If your ds is sleeping at 6-6:30 and waking up too late to see his daddy, I'd say you have a good sleeper on your hands - wouldn't I have loved that!

Can you make ds have more naps in the day so that his nighttime sleep is shorter. Or put him to bed earlier (though 6 - 6:30 is already pretty early). Otherwise, as your ds matures, he will need less sleep anyway, so it is not forever. Plus at this age, barring how your dh feels about this, I don't think your ds would be too bothered about not seeting dh during the week.

It will change as ds grows older. Dd at 2.11 sometimes drags herself awake in the morning just so she catches her daddy before he slips off to work.

my dp leaves about 8am and sees my sons quickly, but the younger one is always asleep when he gets home so he doesn't really see his dad much during the week

i think it can be normal or at any rate unavoidable, obviously every family has a different pattern if parents go out to work.
is there any possibiity of your DH working more flexibly even for a little while? eg could he come home early one day a week and make up time in the evening?
children's sleep times do vary, he will probably start to need a little less sleep before long and may be able to stay up a bit later; or can you tinker around with his daytime sleep if he has one, try to get him to go the extra hour of an evening?
if none of this is possible, at least you could make sure between you that DH has a really close time with him at the weekends, takes him out one-to-one and really focuses on him.
good luck, and remember the mantra - this will pass, this will pass..

DH will (as of next week - I'm on holiday this week) take 4yo DD to school 3 days a week, so will see her from 7-8:15am. The toher days he leaves here just before 8am, so again sees her for up to an hour.That time involved breakfast and getting dressed mainly though.

He gets home at 6:30pm most days. We have dinner together as he gets home. DH and DD then have a mad half hour normally, play fighting or whatever. She goes to bed around 7:30pm. DH does bath time a couple of times a week, and we take it in turns to do story time.

On a Tuesday DH will pick DD up from school at 5pm and bring her home, as that is my later finish.

We spend most weekends together as a family.

This has got to be the norm for most young children. We are so lucky at the moment, out here in Cyprus the working day is from 7am - 1:30pm (except for a Monday when it's 7:00am - 5pm) so DH ses the children all afternoon. He does a pretty regular on call but acan do that from home. His workload is quite big but rather than stay behind at work in the afternoon he goes back in in th evening (work is 2 minutes away) The moment we get back to the UK this will all change and he will see so much less of them so we are taking full advantage of the situation!

None of us are really into early mornings, and DH is rarely home before 7, so bedtime for DS (nearly 2) is @ 8.30, so we can all eat dinner together and DH can bath him and put him to bed. DS tends to get up 7.30 - 8ish, with a long afternoon nap. Works for us at the moment, though it won't once he's old enough for school.

Dh works shifts, so gets to see a lot of dd - eg he worked a night shift last night, home at 7.30 will get up about 2.30 so will have the afternoon and evening with us.

Even on lates (2pm start) dh will have all morning with us, and sometimes takes dd to nursery in the morning so I get a lie in

Earlies, back at 2.30 so has afternoon with us.

Shifts can be a pita as far as routine goes, but it means dh spends a lot of time with dd, which they both love.

Dh did a couple of day shifts recently, and only got home in time for dd's bath and bed time, and they were both a bit miffed!

However, we don't have family weekends as such, since dh may be working w/ends and off in the week, so I suppose it's swings and roundabouts.

Some weeks DH doesn't see them at all either too busy and leaving early, coming back late, or abroad. On a good weeks he'll see them for half an hour in the morning and 15 mins at night. Not much, and the the morning is a new invention. However, he makes up for it big time at the weekends and is hands on so when he;s down about it I try to tell him that its quality not quantity. Also he does do things like tomorrow he's going in late so he can join me taking DD2 to first day at school.

We do late to bed late to rise in our house cos there is no reason for dd to get up early (dp is a SAHD). She goes to bed at 9 and generally wakes between 7 and 10 and often has a nap in the afternoon if she wakes early. That way I get to see her for 3 hours in the evenings .

dh normally does breakfast on weekdays so around 15/20 minutes then, while I have cup of tea and get up, then he's usually home just before 7, we have dinner and kids in bed around 8.

DH does breakfast with the children, then leaves for work at around 8. He is usually home by 5.45 -6 pm at the latest, so we always have tea together. He always puts both children to bed at around 7.15. I know we are fortunate as a family to be able to have this time together

Neither of mine see dp in the mornings because he leaves at 6-6.30am but they get to see him in the evenings about 3 days a week because he is home at 5.30pm. He also works every other saturday.

DH leaves at 4am on Monday morning, and gets home on Thursday night after DD has gone to bed, so for 4 days he doesn't see her at all.

On Fridays he usually gets to work from home, so he sees a bit of her during the day, the amount depending on what she and I are doing, and how busy DH is with work.

DH leaves home anytime between 7 and 8 and dd doesn't normally wake till about 8 so he doesn't often see her in the mornings. The earliest he tends to be home is 9 in the evening and often later so he doesn't see her in the evenings so more often than not he doesn't see her at all during the week which is very sad.....

Dh leaves at 8am - he usually gets ready first then does their breakfast downstairs while I'm showering.

He gets in about 7 or a bit before and he spends all the time before bed with them but it's not long. If he's here, he does the bath, teeth, milk, story routine and I'm usually on here or getting on with some work or tea.

DH leaves at 8ish but isn't back til after DS's bedtime
He sees him for all of 5-10 mins in the morning - DH is getting ready, DS is drinking milk so hardly "quality" time

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Dp works away leaving at 6am Monday morning, arriving home Friday 7pm.
Just in time to put dd to bed but often he is late.